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Definitely different from my situation. We all have many different reasons for finding this place. One thing that is universal to all of our journeys, is that real is always better.Thanx for the comments, @Onmyway19. Yes, I do hope it will get easier over time. It obviously makes a lot of sense that it works that way. As for the more intense connection without porn, I'm not sure if that works the same for me. Perhaps I'm chasing something right now, but it's not a fantasy. I have experienced it and I think I can experience it again. Right now, porn is a poor substitute, but I do know it's out there. I think that is different from your situation.
Halfway to day 6. Good job.Day 3: the last two days were kinda busy and I didn't really have time to watch porn. Of course I could have, but I didn't. I do find it hard though. Naturally I do have my sexual urges and when I masturbate I do have to hold back to not put on porn. I don't mind, but watching porn while masturbating has become such a natural thing to me that it seems weird not to want that.
Yeah, that makes sense. I guess women need a lot more downtime after an orgasm. That might be why we can develop problems reaching orgasm during sex because we hold off so long while watching porn and looking for the perfect moment. And then with actual sex that perfect moment might not arrive.Lol I have to say I don't really get bored. It's just that with porn you want go on and on. Totally agree on the sensations though. It's just different without porn. And I guess edging is different for (part of) women than for men. While I do like getting to the edge and return, I'm also ready to go again right after an orgasm. So I guess there is a bit less need for edging. Don't know if that makes sense
Yes, I can imagine it’s hard to tell what has had that influence. A lot of people escalate in what kind of porn they watch, because they need more and more intense things to be able to get off.I get that. I don't think porn had such an effect on me. Well, I guess porn might play a role in me getting bored with anything close to vanilla sex, but then again that might just not be my thing. I find that quite hard to tell. Would I have been different if I had never watched porn? I might not know about certain things, but I think I would still enjoy things along the same line I do enjoy now. I can't really imagine myself only enjoying vanilla.
asked myself the same question. i also have the tendency to be submussive (as a male) and have fetishes and thats perfectly fine.I get that. I don't think porn had such an effect on me. Well, I guess porn might play a role in me getting bored with anything close to vanilla sex, but then again that might just not be my thing. I find that quite hard to tell. Would I have been different if I had never watched porn? I might not know about certain things, but I think I would still enjoy things along the same line I do enjoy now. I can't really imagine myself only enjoying vanilla.
totally get your point. i am at a point where i could only be aroused by my escalated fetishes due to porn (that was my waking up). at least you are still aroused by vanilla sex.But what if you actually like that extreme path? I do agree that you should avoid too much unhealthy behaviour, but then again, some things can be healthy on one front and unhealthy on another. It's often not as straightforward as it might seem.
Yes, good point. I guess I think a lot about needing to be perfect for that person, instead of realising you can’t really know how it works until you try.I think it's important to find something you also connect with on a sexual level. Personally I really couldn't be with a guy that isn't dominant. Sex is way too important. Perhaps who I have become is not who I would have been without porn, but it is who I am now. When looking for a partner that is of course something I have to take into account.