(26y/o) After 10 years of PIED and femdom porn adiction, finally cured!

SiliconValley91

New Member
My story is no different from that of many of you. I started watching porn on the internet at the age of eleven, with the big spike in porn consumption occurring at 17/18, when I got my first laptop.

At 17 I had my first failed opportunity to have sex. I put it down to nervousness, however the lack of excitement was almost total.

Between the ages of 17 and 22, I tried to have sex on several occasions, failing on all of them. At this point I was consuming porn between 2 and 3 times a day, for hours, totally deviant genres (fetish, femdom, cuckold...)

When I was 22 I met a girl that I really liked and despite the large amount of porn I was consuming at that time, I was able to have sex with her without problems every time I tried. We were together for a few months and after the breakup, thinking my problem was gone, I tried having sex with other women, failing miserably again.

In 2020 I discovered NOFAP, and after several attempts to quit porn, I got a streak of 120 days. During this time I met a girl, with whom I did not have sex for fear of failing again. Still, I did notice my body responding sexually.

After this streak I relapsed again, although never to the levels of when I was 18-22 years old. This same year I met a girl and I failed again.

About a couple of months ago I met a girl I really like and at the same time I started a new NOFAP streak. We went on a few dates, and finally after a month of dating and NOFAP we had sex! At first I had a hard time relaxing, but after a couple of minutes of foreplay I got a rock hard boner from start to finish and we had amazing sex.

After that day we have been having amazing sex at all hours for 10 days with no problems.

I am currently 41 days without watching porn or masturbating, and I am able to have sex with my girlfriend without any problems. However, I only achieve orgasm with PIV, not being able to reach orgasm with blowjobs or handjobs.

But that's so much more than I thought I could ever achieve for years, so I'm just overjoyed.​

So I recommend that you try the same thing that has worked for me: no fap and dating at the same time. Good Luck!!
 

swimmer97

Member
My story is no different from that of many of you. I started watching porn on the internet at the age of eleven, with the big spike in porn consumption occurring at 17/18, when I got my first laptop.

At 17 I had my first failed opportunity to have sex. I put it down to nervousness, however the lack of excitement was almost total.

Between the ages of 17 and 22, I tried to have sex on several occasions, failing on all of them. At this point I was consuming porn between 2 and 3 times a day, for hours, totally deviant genres (fetish, femdom, cuckold...)

When I was 22 I met a girl that I really liked and despite the large amount of porn I was consuming at that time, I was able to have sex with her without problems every time I tried. We were together for a few months and after the breakup, thinking my problem was gone, I tried having sex with other women, failing miserably again.

In 2020 I discovered NOFAP, and after several attempts to quit porn, I got a streak of 120 days. During this time I met a girl, with whom I did not have sex for fear of failing again. Still, I did notice my body responding sexually.

After this streak I relapsed again, although never to the levels of when I was 18-22 years old. This same year I met a girl and I failed again.

About a couple of months ago I met a girl I really like and at the same time I started a new NOFAP streak. We went on a few dates, and finally after a month of dating and NOFAP we had sex! At first I had a hard time relaxing, but after a couple of minutes of foreplay I got a rock hard boner from start to finish and we had amazing sex.

After that day we have been having amazing sex at all hours for 10 days with no problems.

I am currently 41 days without watching porn or masturbating, and I am able to have sex with my girlfriend without any problems. However, I only achieve orgasm with PIV, not being able to reach orgasm with blowjobs or handjobs.

But that's so much more than I thought I could ever achieve for years, so I'm just overjoyed.​

So I recommend that you try the same thing that has worked for me: no fap and dating at the same time. Good Luck!!
Hi SiliconValley. Thank you so much for this post. Your Post gives me huuuuge motivation. Congrats on the Win here!!

The thing is that im nearly the same age like you (25) and i have the EXACT same fetishes.

I quit porn 95 days ago. No fap since 55days.

I hope i can get hard/aroused as well when meeting a new women.

Did you use any type of viagra or other enhancing drugs?

Did the fetishes vanish in some way or did they at least got less appealing for you?

Cheers
 

SiliconValley91

New Member
Hi SiliconValley. Thank you so much for this post. Your Post gives me huuuuge motivation. Congrats on the Win here!!

The thing is that im nearly the same age like you (25) and i have the EXACT same fetishes.

I quit porn 95 days ago. No fap since 55days.

I hope i can get hard/aroused as well when meeting a new women.

Did you use any type of viagra or other enhancing drugs?

Did the fetishes vanish in some way or did they at least got less appealing for you?

Cheers
Hi! First of all, congrats on your streak man, that's pretty a lot!

In case that it can help you, I will share with you some advices and reflections ;)

1. I think that it's better that you try to have sex with a girl that you trust and you feel comfortable with, not a total stranger.
2. I know the anxiety and the fear of failure very well. Every time i met a woman i had this feeling inside that something was going to go wrong, looking for signals of the inminent failure, thinking that I wasn't aroused as I should be, etc.
Now I can tell you: Still now, when I have succesful sex on a daily basis, I'm not aroused looking at a woman's naked body. But I get aroused and have good erections when it comes to have sex: when she kisses me, when i feel her breath, when she touches me and obviously when I penetrate her.
3. I didn't use viagra or other drugs. But maybe it can help you, specially in terms of confidence and to copy with the anxiety.
4. About the fetishes:
-I'm pretty sure that i could easily get aroused and masturbate to fetish porn again. But, on the one hand, when you are having sex regularly, the temptation of watching porn it is very weak, and on the other hand, when it comes to have sex, I don't need the fetishes to get aroused and a good erection. So fetishes have no place in my life.
(In fact, when I have licked my gf's feet, I'm not as aroused as i thought i would be, considering the fact that it has been my main fetish during my whole life. I'm much more excited when I penetrate her.)
5. About the erections: My erections normally are at 80-100%. In the last 25 days I have had sex a lot of times without failure. It's a bit harder since I started to use condoms. With condom my erections are normally at 65-85%. So the sex is not as good as without it, but i still can perform and have orgasms.
6. About the orgasms: Sometimes it's a bit hard to have an orgasm. But this is normal. When this happens, you just need 1 day or 2 of rest, without sex, then you will have easily an orgasm.
 

SiliconValley91

New Member
My story is no different from that of many of you. I started watching porn on the internet at the age of eleven, with the big spike in porn consumption occurring at 17/18, when I got my first laptop.

At 17 I had my first failed opportunity to have sex. I put it down to nervousness, however the lack of excitement was almost total.

Between the ages of 17 and 22, I tried to have sex on several occasions, failing on all of them. At this point I was consuming porn between 2 and 3 times a day, for hours, totally deviant genres (fetish, femdom, cuckold...)

When I was 22 I met a girl that I really liked and despite the large amount of porn I was consuming at that time, I was able to have sex with her without problems every time I tried. We were together for a few months and after the breakup, thinking my problem was gone, I tried having sex with other women, failing miserably again.

In 2020 I discovered NOFAP, and after several attempts to quit porn, I got a streak of 120 days. During this time I met a girl, with whom I did not have sex for fear of failing again. Still, I did notice my body responding sexually.

After this streak I relapsed again, although never to the levels of when I was 18-22 years old. This same year I met a girl and I failed again.

About a couple of months ago I met a girl I really like and at the same time I started a new NOFAP streak. We went on a few dates, and finally after a month of dating and NOFAP we had sex! At first I had a hard time relaxing, but after a couple of minutes of foreplay I got a rock hard boner from start to finish and we had amazing sex.

After that day we have been having amazing sex at all hours for 10 days with no problems.

I am currently 41 days without watching porn or masturbating, and I am able to have sex with my girlfriend without any problems. However, I only achieve orgasm with PIV, not being able to reach orgasm with blowjobs or handjobs.

But that's so much more than I thought I could ever achieve for years, so I'm just overjoyed.​

So I recommend that you try the same thing that has worked for me: no fap and dating at the same time. Good Luck!!
Update day 55:

Things keep going well! I have succesful sex almost everyday, and sometimes 2-3 times a day.
I feel deeply connected to my gf.
Sometimes it's a bit hard to have an orgasm, but normally not.
Sometimes (specially if i try to have sex several times in a day) the erection is not 100%; just 80-85%.
I enjoy sex much more than before. It feels much better, and the blowjobs too.
Now I can put a condom on without losing the erection.
My social life is much better, and i don't have social anxiety anymore because now i have nothing to hide or to ashame of.
 
Top