Help cant stop relapsing every 1 or 2 months

Thisworld

Member
Basically I'm able to stop the sequence of events and triggers that lead to a relepse when I just experienced one. My alert levels are high and I can control it. But then as the weeks passes I find myself forgetting how easy is to relapse and when my guard is down I eventually relapse. Any advice ?
 

Blondie

Respected Member
Welcome @Thisworld.

I did this type of thing for quite a while. At that time I could easily stop for 3 months or so, however, then the urges would hit me and I would suddenly relapse. You can read about this at the beginning of my journaling here if you're really bored!

Being here at RN and being held accountable helped a lot. Writing out my thoughts on a daily basis also helped tremendously.

What makes you relapse? What thoughts or actions lead you to that final destination? Every relapse can teach you something, if only you're listening and willing to learn from it.

Best
 

TryingHarder

Well-Known Member
Like Blondie says, if and when you relapse, think of it as a learning moment. Why did you relapse? What were you doing? What was the trigger? That way, you can take action and make sure the same set of circumstances doesn't lead you back to porn again.
 

Daybyday1988

Active Member
blonde and TH have goodtips. trying to analyze why you are acting out is very helpful. is it boredom, stress etc? a tip i would add is to make yourself essentially not able (or at least very very hard) to act out. You can do this through a porn blocking software. I use covenant eyes and i preach about it a lot because it works for me.

If you don't really have the option, then you usually arent going to turn to acting out. For example, if you analyze and say that boredom is causing your relapses, how great would it be when you are laying around in bed or on the couch being "bored" if you simply didnt have the capability to access P material on your cell phone that is typically going to be laying beside you 99% of the time? Id say that would be pretty huge at keeping you from PMOing wouldnt you? i know it has for me.

Like the founder of this website, Gabe Deem says in his recovery journal, "porn is not an option". We need to make that our mantra as well. Remove it from being an option. If you feel you are not strong enough because of boredom or stress or just plain addiction related brain changes, then don't leave the choice up to your sheer willpower to overcome those urges.

Brain studies have proven that the portion of our brains that is responsible for resisting the consumption of P is weak. This is called "hypofrontality" and is characterized by a deficient Prefrontal Cortex. Given more time away from the behavior with the use of an aid like a strong porn blocking software will eventually overtime force abstinence from the behavior. abstinence ( be it willful or not) will surely result in a more efficient PFC and you will find it much easier to say "NO" to urges and stop relapsing after 1 or 2 months. tell me what you think. wishing you peace and freedom from this wretched cycle.

-DbD
 
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