the_correct_wolf
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@Gracie, Thanks for the input! There are times when this would be helpful to overcome some of my own difficulties either breaking the ice after I have neglected to initiate conversations for a while or when broaching topics about which I am apprehensive.
My struggle now, I think lies more in managing my expectations. I get frustrated when I feel like I am doing everything right, our relationship seems to be improving, I feel we are growing closer, and then she pulls back or unloads a bunch of things she has been upset about and keeping back. I am taking a risk by opening up an being vulnerable, sharing my thoughts and feelings while she is doing her best not to be vulnerable, and then I am hurt when she lashes out. I guess when you consider how I have treated her for the past twelve years of our relationship I have trouble feeling sympathy for myself. haha The fact that I can go through this whole though process on my own often stops me from expressing things. I realise I'm off base before I can talk about it but there's still some remnants of the emotional effect. Even now I'm tempted to delete this rather than post.
My struggle now, I think lies more in managing my expectations. I get frustrated when I feel like I am doing everything right, our relationship seems to be improving, I feel we are growing closer, and then she pulls back or unloads a bunch of things she has been upset about and keeping back. I am taking a risk by opening up an being vulnerable, sharing my thoughts and feelings while she is doing her best not to be vulnerable, and then I am hurt when she lashes out. I guess when you consider how I have treated her for the past twelve years of our relationship I have trouble feeling sympathy for myself. haha The fact that I can go through this whole though process on my own often stops me from expressing things. I realise I'm off base before I can talk about it but there's still some remnants of the emotional effect. Even now I'm tempted to delete this rather than post.