What is loss of libido?

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LionHeart

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Just out of curiosity. How do you guys define "loss of libido"?

I ask this because i'm not sure anymore what libido is. It's now been 9 months of my reboot without relapses and everything seems to be just fine. Or so i think. I think sex often and it interrests me but i lack sexual arrousal quite often. My wife many times starts to fool around when we wake up in the morning giving me an erection but many times i don't feel arrousal rising. It does not make me horny. Those days when i start to feel horny spontaneously are very rare these days.

So is that a sign of weak libido or is it something else? Blood panel says my free testo is slightly below reference values but total testo is within reference values at the low end. Sexual binding globulin is in the middle of reference values. Could it be because of my testo levels? Is my free testo low(ish) because my dopamine system might be broken? As you know testo and dopamine are in a bidirectional relationship: meaning low dopa = low testo.

What do you think?
 
Scorpio1990

Scorpio1990

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I’m 32 and I had plenty of sex through out my 20s. The past two years I was doing it daily going 3 rounds or more. Until I started noticing around March I didn’t feel horny. I quit porn for like two weeks and felt horny again but until I hit flatline which is when my libido was completely was gone. So I’m 5 months in with the same issue. I tried testosterone supplements to help but doesn’t work. I am also muscular so it just doesn’t make sense. The lack of dopamine makes complete sense because I am dealing with Anhedonia the lack of pleasure.
 
Beautiful1973

Beautiful1973

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My man was always complaining about being tired, even after a good nights sleep, constant aches & pains, no energy, no motivation…… I started to read about inflammatory compounds being higher in people suffering from Anhedonia and have done a cut and paste for the following reference:

So inflammation appears to be involved in both depression and anhedonia.
Although a link between anhedonia and inflammation seems, perhaps, unexpected, it makes sense when one peels back the layers. Cytokines can influence neurotransmitter metabolism and brain activity.
Also, cytokines promote so-called sickness behavior — including lethargy, malaise, loss of appetite, sleepiness, and sensitivity to pain — all of which have parallels in depression. And, people who undergo cytokine treatment for cancer often report depressive symptoms.

You might want to look at your diet and supplements? I saw you said you are muscular, do you workout, take protein powders?
 
Scorpio1990

Scorpio1990

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Beautiful1973 said:
My man was always complaining about being tired, even after a good nights sleep, constant aches & pains, no energy, no motivation…… I started to read about inflammatory compounds being higher in people suffering from Anhedonia and have done a cut and paste for the following reference:

So inflammation appears to be involved in both depression and anhedonia.
Although a link between anhedonia and inflammation seems, perhaps, unexpected, it makes sense when one peels back the layers. Cytokines can influence neurotransmitter metabolism and brain activity.
Also, cytokines promote so-called sickness behavior — including lethargy, malaise, loss of appetite, sleepiness, and sensitivity to pain — all of which have parallels in depression. And, people who undergo cytokine treatment for cancer often report depressive symptoms.

You might want to look at your diet and supplements? I saw you said you are muscular, do you workout, take protein powders?
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I had really bad body aches, fatigue. I haven’t felt it since last month. I just have this emptiness in chest. It sucks. I feel bad for your ex.
 
Scorpio1990

Scorpio1990

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I have been over the porn, I been eating like crap. Still work two jobs and live on my own but it’s definitely a constant fight. I just wanna feel normal again and that’s why I given up on PMO. I completely cut it off so I can better for my ex but I guess it ruined what we had. I definitely feel for him.
 
Scorpio1990

Scorpio1990

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Beautiful1973 said:
I'm sorry I hope this pass soon:(


Yeah, he's not in a great place, I text him yesterday and he said he's gone backwards with healthy eating, smoking, weed, selfcare, porn consumption and mental health......it's incredible sad and a bit of waste of a man if I'm being honest!
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I’m hoping it passes soon as well it’s definitely derailed my life.
 
Beautiful1973

Beautiful1973

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Scorpio1990 said:
I completely cut it off so I can better for my ex but I guess it ruined what we had
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Oh that's sad @Scorpio1990, this crap really ruins lives, I absolute love and adore my Man, but I couldn't take anymore!
Is there any hope for you and your ex?!?!?
Have you read my story of what I went through with my man. it's titled 'Betrayed by porn, the demise of intimacy'?
 
Scorpio1990

Scorpio1990

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Idk because she said she’s not moving on and she wants to be supportive but it is also taking a toll on her. I definitely read you story. I am not in his position because I’m trying to get back to normal, this was a eye opener and I think the withdrawals have been scarring me. I wish my ex was supportive or stays to supportive. I honestly don’t know at this point. I can definitely I took things for granted and I’m begging to get my life back. I know your ex must feel the same way but addiction can destroy some. I can definitely speak for myself because no I’m paying the price. Not a lot of women in this generation will deal with someone who has our kind of issues. So it’s very understandable that just had to leave.
 
Beautiful1973

Beautiful1973

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@Scorpio1990 thank for reading my story, I hope you can find a way back to your partner, you are taking all the right steps and trying to reclaim your life back.
Scorpio1990 said:
Not a lot of women in this generation will deal with someone who has our kind of issues.
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It's a hard thing to deal with, but I would of stayed if he had respected my boundaries and sort active recovery, but he choose to continue to lie and keep secrets and I valued myself enough to say I wasn't going to put up with that anymore.

Really take this time to look after yourself, try to eat healthy, food is our medicine, get back into working out, sleep, get fresh air, find things to be grateful for........and fall in love with yourself. Good luck with your journey, you are changing your life for the better.
 
Scorpio1990

Scorpio1990

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Beautiful1973 said:
@Scorpio1990 thank for reading my story, I hope you can find a way back to your partner, you are taking all the right steps and trying to reclaim your life back.

It's a hard thing to deal with, but I would of stayed if he had respected my boundaries and sort active recovery, but he choose to continue to lie and keep secrets and I valued myself enough to say I wasn't going to put up with that anymore.

Really take this time to look after yourself, try to eat healthy, food is our medicine, get back into working out, sleep, get fresh air, find things to be grateful for........and fall in love with yourself. Good luck with your journey, you are changing your life for the better.
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I’m definitely going to work on myself and keep pushing as hard as it is dealing with it day to day. This drug is very powerful and it has definitely caused a lot of problems in my life.
 
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Crackers1

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I'm about a month and a 1/2 in and I feel like jumping off a bridge. I'm lethargic ,my fun spontaneous personality is basically gone My worrying that's something is going to happen to me has gotten out of control, I have no energy to do anything.SurprisinglyI lost over 60 pounds and I felt like my sex drive was better when I was more obese. Definitely a sense of hopelessness
 
Scorpio1990

Scorpio1990

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Crackers1 said:
I'm about a month and a 1/2 in and I feel like jumping off a bridge. I'm lethargic ,my fun spontaneous personality is basically gone My worrying that's something is going to happen to me has gotten out of control, I have no energy to do anything.SurprisinglyI lost over 60 pounds and I felt like my sex drive was better when I was more obese. Definitely a sense of hopelessness
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Your not a alone brother, I’m dealing with the same thing for 5 months now. Keep pushing
 
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