Is there a "normal(ish)" amount of time men think about sex?
I can't remember exactly what I read (many years ago), AND P probably wasn't taken into consideration at the time it was written, but it was said that men have a sexual thought (the average was pretty specific) X number of times per minute (maybe it was hour, but pretty sure it said minute). Bottom line is that it was MUCH more frequently than women. (Maybe this was an ancient text)
So my question comes from 2 places. 1st, a couple months into our fixing things he said "I think I might be a sex addict. I think about it WAY too much" (there was more but that's enough for you to get the gist.) 2nd is that he initiated "date night" where we ask questions like it's a first or second date, and 90% of his questions end up being about sex.
It feels like a red flag I need to address with him but before I do, I'm looking for thoughts from those working at recovery.
I can't remember exactly what I read (many years ago), AND P probably wasn't taken into consideration at the time it was written, but it was said that men have a sexual thought (the average was pretty specific) X number of times per minute (maybe it was hour, but pretty sure it said minute). Bottom line is that it was MUCH more frequently than women. (Maybe this was an ancient text)
So my question comes from 2 places. 1st, a couple months into our fixing things he said "I think I might be a sex addict. I think about it WAY too much" (there was more but that's enough for you to get the gist.) 2nd is that he initiated "date night" where we ask questions like it's a first or second date, and 90% of his questions end up being about sex.
It feels like a red flag I need to address with him but before I do, I'm looking for thoughts from those working at recovery.