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[Leon]

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[Beautiful1973]

@Leon welcome to the forum

I wonder if it was relaxing your muscles or relaxing your mind….. just some food for thought

I look forward to following your journey!

 

[strongfuture89]

I think stopping the edging will lead to your pelvic muscles relaxing more. A trick I use to last long, is to always keep breathing during sex and when you feel tension building to do a slow relaxing exhale. You can train those whenever you want, doing slow breaths out while slowing down your heart rate (finger on the wrist or any device that measures pulse) and at the same time relaxing the pelvic muscles (which is a bit like when you want to go to the toilet, but you´ll find better explanations online I think).

 

[Simon2]

Stay vigilant. You have the right mindset but it probably isn't over. At least that's my experience. I found two "trap doors" - one was the tremendous urges starting after a couple of weeks for me and lasting several months, on and off. The other is more difficult - your brain starting to tell you that you can "handle a bit of P" and that it would be "so nice"... we tend to forget just how bad the place was we were in after a while. That second trap door got me so many times - I WOULD use only a bit for a while, it DID feel nice (in one way) but the slope always became steeper and is very slippery...

Anyway - don't want ot dampen your enthusiasm! You are doing great and the fact that you can see what a difference it makes to quit P is huge!

 

[Blondie]

The other is more difficult - your brain starting to tell you that you can "handle a bit of P" and that it would be "so nice"... we tend to forget just how bad the place was we were in after a while.

All truth.

The propensity of my brain to forget how bad it was after my last relapse, is why I come here often. It's like I need a reminder.

 

[Chronicle]

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Ive decided to use this thread as my daily journal, to track my progress and keep me motivated on the path to overcoming this problem.
Yesterday was eye opening. Work was slow, so I was able to do a lot of reading on the forum and I’ve come to believe that the problem of PE is due to the constant flexing of the pelvic floor muscles around the prostate. I realized I’m always tense down there and subconsciously flexing and relaxing those muscles. I’ve always read that the answer to controlling PE was to practice kegels and tighten the pelvic floor in my reality, the exact opposite it true. I need to relax those muscles and not carry so much tension. I practiced all day relaxing myself and visualizing the pelvic floor dropping like a deflated balloon everyone I inhaled and made sure not to tense up. It’s amazing how much better I feel in the area. It was a little hard at first to constantly remind myself to keep the muscles relaxed but it is becoming second nature to me. When I got home, I took a quick shower. Applied a Roman wipe to numb me a bit and engaged in some sex with wife. I’m not saying it was an all night screw session but I’d say it was the best sex we’ve had in a while. I went from the usually 5-6 seconds of deep thrusting to a full two minutes of passionate deep penetration sex. I could tell she was pleased. I’ve never seen her smile like that after sex since we first started dating 10 years ago.
I’ve had very little success with those Roman wipes in the past so I know that those in combination with the relaxation technique is actually improving my sex life. I can’t wait to put this shit behind me. It’s a terrible plague that I don’t think any man should have to face. I ordered some Pau Yuen Tong balm I’ve herd it does wonders for increasing sex time for men who have a PE problem . I’m usually sceptical of products but this one has nothing but great reviews. Going to give it a try and document the results.
No porn and no masturbation yesterday. Starting my day number 3 today.

I've had a similar problem and I think it's all in the mind, the products just boost your confidence.
I also learnt that after sex with your wife let's say at 9pm, you should try and have another round at 12am,2pm or 4pm they tend to last longer and they'll boost your confidence, I tried that and it worked I used to fail to have erections but now am recovering thanks to confidence boosting.