Time to tackle the MO problem

[Qwertyxyz]

When I discovered internet porn I really went down a rabbit hole and got hooked. I don’t like what it did to me at all and it took a while to see how bad it has affected me.

After many false starts I am now 84 days clean of porn and feel great about it however I have still been doing MO most days and while it’s not as damaging as a PMO it’s far from good and I fear it leading me back to porn.

MO does negatively affect my confidence, motivation, mood, productivity, and how I see myself and woman. I really, really want a circuit breaker so I can feel happier and more in control of my life. I’m going to do some impact journaling and am really aiming to be clean. My first goal is to try to get through this week

wish me luck.
Thanks

 

[TimeToStop]

That is great progress! I have the same issue, can go a while without porn, but without MO is so hard. And usually when MO I think about porn. I can recommend long walks and any excercise. The worst is when I'm sitting in front of the TV.

 

[Qwertyxyz]

That is great progress! I have the same issue, can go a while without porn, but without MO is so hard. And usually when MO I think about porn. I can recommend long walks and any excercise. The worst is when I'm sitting in front of the TV.

Thanks, walking helps me too. I’m better when I’m productive and posting here helps too

 

[Qwertyxyz]

Two days completely PMO free
It feels good, but today was a test. I felt very itchy to act out but I was working so i got distracted and it passed.
I don’t like the intrusive thoughts but I know that the longer I stick at it the easier it will be.
I can do this, and thanks to everyone for sharing your stories, reading them gives me strength

 

[GBS]

Hi @Qwertyxyz

Congratulations. You’re well on your way. And best of all you’ve spotted the thing that may be holding back your progress. Masturbation.

I don’t have an easy answer, but I would certainly repeat the suggestion of physical activity. Or coming on here when you might otherwise nip off for a wank. Talk about it on your journal, say why it drives you effing mad. And here’s the crux for me - once you get to a few weeks without MO you get new feelings. There’s pent up frustration but you also get a powerful feeling, one that is utterly alien. It comes exactly the same time as the tension and you battle internally for the supremacy of the feeling. Then you remember how you felt when you masturbated all the time. Not as good. So don’t go back to that daily masturbation routine, get attuned to perhaps once a month.

There are those who say the hard core no masturbation 90 reboot is the way to fix the brain fastest. It’s a stern test. But it can be done. You have to really want this. I warn you, this is a brain mind fuck experience like you have never known before.