I’m 50+ and have used P for around 40 years. My dad had mags under his bed which I found as a preteen. Then we got a satellite dish when I was 15 with all the good channels - I was actually pissed we didn’t get a hot tub, but little did I know how much “better” the dish would be. It had to slew almost entirely to get from the P channels to normal ones. I figured out it took as long to rotate back to normal channels as it did for my parents to drive up the driveway. So as soon as I heard the garage door start up, I would send it back.
Once at college I was, of course, old enough to buy mags myself. I kept a couple under my dorm mattress, and lugged those around a few apartments. Girlfriends came and went, but I always had the mags… Finally, the digital age started and P got much easier to access. I had access to P on the internet by the early-mid 90s - probably earlier than most - though laser discs and DVDs were still better. I guess my point is it’s always been available.
I’ve been married now for 23 years. My wife has caught me multiple time at it during that time - even before we were married tbh. Each time, I said I would stop, and each time I haven’t. And more than once, I lied and told her I had stopped when I hadn’t, and that makes it much worse. We’re now sleeping in separate beds, and I don’t know how much longer my marriage can last under these circumstances. After reading through multiple threads, I’ve determined PMO is my way to cope, and then it just settles in as a habit. Any mildly stressful situation can set me off, and marital problems certainly qualify.
I had Covenant Eyes on a computer in the 00s. I was probably at my best then, but I still sought out pics at least whenever I could. I removed that after a few years once I got a smart phone (I avoided that until the early 2010s, if you can believe it). I tried a reboot at some point, but only P, no MO, and relapsed. I did try MO for a few weeks, but caved when I thought I was doing ok. And that’s my cycle now: wife finds out, stop, assume I can MO, gradually find sexy pics somewhere, and before you know, I’m full on PMO.
I have Remojo (and not CE) on all the devices I can, but that doesn’t cover every screen I can access P. She’s my only accountability partner on that, but maybe that’s not the best choice. If anyone wants to volunteer, I’m in. I could just use an accountability partner here as well.
Finally, wife caught me yet again a little over a week ago. Yet again, I had lied to her just a week or so before and told her I was fine. I’m 9 days in on PMO reboot, but had a reset yesterday AM on MO, so I’m only 1 day there. I’m convinced I’ll just repeat the pattern above. Why can’t I just stop? Why am I such an asshole? Any encouragement is appreciated. Thanks
Once at college I was, of course, old enough to buy mags myself. I kept a couple under my dorm mattress, and lugged those around a few apartments. Girlfriends came and went, but I always had the mags… Finally, the digital age started and P got much easier to access. I had access to P on the internet by the early-mid 90s - probably earlier than most - though laser discs and DVDs were still better. I guess my point is it’s always been available.
I’ve been married now for 23 years. My wife has caught me multiple time at it during that time - even before we were married tbh. Each time, I said I would stop, and each time I haven’t. And more than once, I lied and told her I had stopped when I hadn’t, and that makes it much worse. We’re now sleeping in separate beds, and I don’t know how much longer my marriage can last under these circumstances. After reading through multiple threads, I’ve determined PMO is my way to cope, and then it just settles in as a habit. Any mildly stressful situation can set me off, and marital problems certainly qualify.
I had Covenant Eyes on a computer in the 00s. I was probably at my best then, but I still sought out pics at least whenever I could. I removed that after a few years once I got a smart phone (I avoided that until the early 2010s, if you can believe it). I tried a reboot at some point, but only P, no MO, and relapsed. I did try MO for a few weeks, but caved when I thought I was doing ok. And that’s my cycle now: wife finds out, stop, assume I can MO, gradually find sexy pics somewhere, and before you know, I’m full on PMO.
I have Remojo (and not CE) on all the devices I can, but that doesn’t cover every screen I can access P. She’s my only accountability partner on that, but maybe that’s not the best choice. If anyone wants to volunteer, I’m in. I could just use an accountability partner here as well.
Finally, wife caught me yet again a little over a week ago. Yet again, I had lied to her just a week or so before and told her I was fine. I’m 9 days in on PMO reboot, but had a reset yesterday AM on MO, so I’m only 1 day there. I’m convinced I’ll just repeat the pattern above. Why can’t I just stop? Why am I such an asshole? Any encouragement is appreciated. Thanks