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STST

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Absolutely, I completely agree with this. When it comes to healthy eating or dieting, most people think this is going to suck, you give up tasty food for lame tasting food but it actually doesn't have to be this way if you learn how to make good tasting, healthy stuff. Chicken breast can be pretty good with the right seasoning (my experience).
I won't lie, It's been sucking a lot, steamed food tastes so healthy, It tastes like medicine.

I won't lie, I feel great AF, but there's always a feeling that leaves me unsatisfied.

before it becomes a new bad habit, I need to nip it in the bud before I turn into a balloon.

I have a new goal now: "learn how to cook delicious healthy food"
 
I won't lie, It's been sucking a lot, steamed food tastes so healthy, It tastes like medicine.

I won't lie, I feel great AF, but there's always a feeling that leaves me unsatisfied.

before it becomes a new bad habit, I need to nip it in the bud before I turn into a balloon.

I have a new goal now: "learn how to cook delicious healthy food"
Hey, it's cool you're trying to quit alcohol and ciggarettes and eat healthier along with quitting porn. I've been trying to lose a little weight. I think self improvement in all ways is really one of the keys to all this.
 

STST

Member
Hey, it's cool you're trying to quit alcohol and ciggarettes and eat healthier along with quitting porn. I've been trying to lose a little weight. I think self improvement in all ways is really one of the keys to all this.
I read a book on habits "The Power of Habits" by Charles Duhigg

He mentions something about keystone habits, we all have this one major habit that has a ripple effect on our day and our lives.
For example, you would be more predisposed to smoke ciggies if you drink, or eat junk food.

I noticed this with myself, that on days I masturbated or consumed porn, the next move/habit would be consuming junk food and or junk movies/material, or be on social media the whole day.

Whereas, when I would start my day with prayer, at times I wouldn't even think of porn, and I would then workout and choose healthier options throughout the day.

So... having succeeded in abstaining from PMO'ing, it became much easier for me to stop smoking ciggies and drinking alky.

However, I currently lack the skills to cook, so that's one of the things that I'm working on now.

Other things are:
  1. Generating passive income, because I want to be a digital nomad next year and leave China, so I've been doing a lot of research on that.
  2. Learning game, how to flirt, and being cocky funny, so that I can get the woman of my dreams.
  3. Working out at home, simple stuff like push-ups, walking up and down the stairs.
  4. Doing more Bible studies so that I connect with God my redeemer or just watching a podcast, praying and thanking God as soon as I wake up.
I've found that I would be so busy learning, that I even forget that I'm trying to stay away from PMO'ing, my brain would be so full of ideas on how I can achieve my goals, even my dreams have made a massive shift, the things I dream about are so different and more vivid.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Of course. I think it's because of the dopamine? Or some regret of relapse? But at least in my case, my other "drug of choices", let's call them, influence each other, especially drinking after PMO (PMO crashes my dopamine and then I crave more PMO or drinking but I guess drinking also comes as a way to "medicate" how depressed I feel now after a relapse). So drinking is a disaster for me, lately anytime I get drunk I binge PMO with absolutely no care. But I've noticed that caffeine gives me massive urges for some reason and I've relapsed a lot like this. I would be alright in the morning, drink caffeine, get massive urges and start edging.
 

STST

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Of course. I think it's because of the dopamine? Or some regret of relapse? But at least in my case, my other "drug of choices", let's call them, influence each other, especially drinking after PMO (PMO crashes my dopamine and then I crave more PMO or drinking but I guess drinking also comes as a way to "medicate" how depressed I feel now after a relapse). So drinking is a disaster for me, lately anytime I get drunk I binge PMO with absolutely no care. But I've noticed that caffeine gives me massive urges for some reason and I've relapsed a lot like this. I would be alright in the morning, drink caffeine, get massive urges and start edging.
True, all of our habits are intertwined I think, it's just that we don't notice or we are ignorant.

Alcohol was a hectic trigger, I would PMO, drink alcohol to fake some happiness, smoke a cigarette, then when it wore off I'd be depressed again, PMO, then drink more alcohol, eat junk food, PMO... the more I did it, the more I became really really depressed, plus I'd have social anxiety because of the shame, making it difficult to go to work, so sometimes, I'd even have some alcohol to get some courage to go to work, come back, PMO again.

But now, I'm so so happy, just the fact that I'm on 32 days of no PMO for the 1st time gives me so much joy.

Have you tried just sticking to water, or drinking some tea? or even decaffeinated coffee?
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
True, all of our habits are intertwined I think, it's just that we don't notice or we are ignorant.

Alcohol was a hectic trigger, I would PMO, drink alcohol to fake some happiness, smoke a cigarette, then when it wore off I'd be depressed again, PMO, then drink more alcohol, eat junk food, PMO... the more I did it, the more I became really really depressed, plus I'd have social anxiety because of the shame, making it difficult to go to work, so sometimes, I'd even have some alcohol to get some courage to go to work, come back, PMO again.
This is exactly the cycle for me too.

But now, I'm so so happy, just the fact that I'm on 32 days of no PMO for the 1st time gives me so much joy.

Have you tried just sticking to water, or drinking some tea? or even decaffeinated coffee?

Yes, I'm happy for you, man. 32 days is a very good start.

I don't know, man, I think I'm developing an addiction to caffeine as well :( I know I must abstain from it, as it gives me big difficulties with the urges, but I haven't been able to. It's sick, you know, that people have troubles with things even though they haven't developed a full blown complicated addiction yet. I had the same experience with alcohol years ago, when I had this feeling that I was developing an addiction to it but I still didn't stop. I guess it's because those things are not just a matter of withdrawal, it's not only withdrawal I'm dealing with, but it's because they serve a god damn purpose for me, as crazy and strange as this might sound. Dr Gabor Mate has said it very well: Don't look at what bad things the addiction does to the person, look at what purpose it serves for them. People like me, who deal with childhood trauma, use those things as an escape, escape the bad feelings into a moment of dopamine joy. Caffeine is one of my guilty pleasures, it's one of those things that has become routine, that has become that thing in the morning that, if I didn't do, it throws me off completely.
 

STST

Member
Thanks, I appreciate it. It's hard to believe that this is me doing this.

We all have our mountains to climb, and our ways to climb them, all I can say is that don't be too hard on yourself, one day it will all just click.
I do think that reading is so powerful, much more powerful than watching a podcast.

If you can identify your triggers, the battle is half won already.
Maybe you should check out the book?
 

STST

Member
Day 33 (No PMO)
Day 12 (No Alky, No Ciggies)


Still pushing, yesterday though I was on the brink of temptation.
I'm now comfortable with the fact that my addiction will always keep knocking on the door.

One thing I have to say is, I feel so much more rested when I wake up, I have no trouble getting out of bed lately, whereas before, I'd barely sleep, and I'd wake up early, & PMO before I got out of bed.

Today, I started my day with a payer, brushed my teeth, and then drank some hot water.

Let the games (day) begin!
 
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I read a book on habits "The Power of Habits" by Charles Duhigg

He mentions something about keystone habits, we all have this one major habit that has a ripple effect on our day and our lives.
For example, you would be more predisposed to smoke ciggies if you drink, or eat junk food.

I noticed this with myself, that on days I masturbated or consumed porn, the next move/habit would be consuming junk food and or junk movies/material, or be on social media the whole day.

Whereas, when I would start my day with prayer, at times I wouldn't even think of porn, and I would then workout and choose healthier options throughout the day.

So... having succeeded in abstaining from PMO'ing, it became much easier for me to stop smoking ciggies and drinking alky.

However, I currently lack the skills to cook, so that's one of the things that I'm working on now.

Other things are:
  1. Generating passive income, because I want to be a digital nomad next year and leave China, so I've been doing a lot of research on that.
  2. Learning game, how to flirt, and being cocky funny, so that I can get the woman of my dreams.
  3. Working out at home, simple stuff like push-ups, walking up and down the stairs.
  4. Doing more Bible studies so that I connect with God my redeemer or just watching a podcast, praying and thanking God as soon as I wake up.
I've found that I would be so busy learning, that I even forget that I'm trying to stay away from PMO'ing, my brain would be so full of ideas on how I can achieve my goals, even my dreams have made a massive shift, the things I dream about are so different and more vivid.
That all sounds great. I want to do some of that too. For me I've actually never had alcohol or tobacco or drugs. I think part of me always knew I had an addictive personality maybe. But junk food, yeah. Plus video games and social media a lot.
 

STST

Member
That all sounds great. I want to do some of that too. For me I've actually never had alcohol or tobacco or drugs. I think part of me always knew I had an addictive personality maybe. But junk food, yeah. Plus video games and social media a lot.
I think it's safe to say that we are all addicted to something in some way or another.
 

STST

Member
Day 34 (No PMO)
Day 13 (No Alky, No Ciggies)


Noticed that I've been sleeping for 6 hours consistently now, I used to sleep for like 4 or 5 hours only.
Before I woke though, there was a woman I had dreamed of before, but this time I made a move on her, she looked gorgeous and she was wearing a bikini, I was about to smash but noticed that her entire skin was magenta, she looked like an alien.

However, I carried on with the act, but it did not feel right, It felt wrong like perhaps she was some evil spirit... so I woke up.
So glad I did not release any emissions.

My appetite for food this past week has been crazy, it is through the roof!!
I'm sure that I ate for a family of three per day this past week.
I can see the weight gain, I know it's because I stopped smoking and stuff, but for some reason, I don't have the motivation to work out yet.

Anyway, I used to or still have a major problem with Facebook, I'd delete it, and then download it again. but last night, I resisted the urge to download Facebook, I don't even think about Twitter or Instagram. so I suppose there's progress there.

One thing is for certain, I do feel like I am a better Man, than I was yesterday.

Cheers.
 

STST

Member
Day 35 (No PMO)
Day 14 (No Alky, No Ciggies)


A new day, a new dawn.

I called my ex-fiance yesterday, and it felt weird.

Yesterday I created a 'vision mind map' of all the things I've ever wanted (think vision board).
Today, I'll create a routine that will incorporate the vision.

Also yesterday, the pull-up bar arrived, and I couldn't even do one pull-up, not to worry, I'll practice every day.

Cheers
 
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STST

Member
Picked up on something yesterday...

Not only can visuals activate memories but sounds and songs too (who would have thought :ROFLMAO: )
So, I was listening to music that I would usually have listened to when I'd be drunk/drinking... a flood of memories of my drunken escapades tormented me the whole day.
bare in mind, I live alone, and we out here living like hobbits in China (we work remotely too, well, most of us) the thoughts can be very loud.

So here's a theory, wouldn't it be advantageous to listen to music that you/we listened to before you/we started watching porn?
Tricking the brain into becoming who we were before we took a left turn?

end.
 

STST

Member
Day 37 (No PMO)
Day 16 (No Alky, No Ciggies)


I told an old friend about my addiction yesterday, and how this forum has helped me reach this far in terms of abstaining from the three vices of death, P, Alky, and Ciggies.

My lungs feel great!
My conscious is clear.

I feel great.
 

STST

Member
Day 38 (No PMO)
Day 17 (No Alky, No Ciggies)


It's been 9 days since I took a break from Twitter/Facebook.
I feel like I haven't even scratched the surface, there's still a lot more to be done.

One thing is for sure, I have more self-control in certain aspects of my life.

Cheers.
 
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STST

Member
This lady that I used to walk with checked up on me, so I went to go check her out, we got some food and I went over to her place, and we had dinner.

It was great being around a human being.

From now on, walking is going to be a hobby that I will adopt again.
It's therapeutic.

Cheers
 

pantone

Member
This lady that I used to walk with checked up on me, so I went to go check her out, we got some food and I went over to her place, and we had dinner.

It was great being around a human being.

From now on, walking is going to be a hobby that I will adopt again.
It's therapeutic.

Cheers
Nice!
 
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