Porn Addict or Sex Addict?

[Chris1986]

Hi all hope you are well and are on the path to being your best self. Your true core self.

I was wondering how many people truly consider themselves Porn Addicts rather than a Sex Addict.

Personally for me Porn was always a huge aspect of my struggles but so was sex chatting which started at around the same time on the old AOL chat rooms. This led into chatting with men in this manner as it seemed easier to find guys to chat to this way. In fact it gave me a bigger thrill but I now understand why. This was something that I have committed through out every relationship I have ever had. It was a compulsion like viewing the porn.
This sexual compulsion also led me down the path to sex workers...This also linked to my porn taste at the time....Or maybe my porn taste altered due to this avenue.
This led me down places and situations I would never consent to in my right recovery mind. Especially when my ED was "getting in the way" of my use of workers so I moved onto Trans....

This is part of my story and though I do acknowledge that Porn is a huge bane in my existence I identify as a Sex Addict rather than a porn addict.

Anyone else consider themselves the same?

 

[KetchupDrool]

Hi all hope you are well and are on the path to being your best self. Your true core self.

I was wondering how many people truly consider themselves Porn Addicts rather than a Sex Addict.

Personally for me Porn was always a huge aspect of my struggles but so was sex chatting which started at around the same time on the old AOL chat rooms. This led into chatting with men in this manner as it seemed easier to find guys to chat to this way. In fact it gave me a bigger thrill but I now understand why. This was something that I have committed through out every relationship I have ever had. It was a compulsion like viewing the porn.
This sexual compulsion also led me down the path to sex workers...This also linked to my porn taste at the time....Or maybe my porn taste altered due to this avenue.
This led me down places and situations I would never consent to in my right recovery mind. Especially when my ED was "getting in the way" of my use of workers so I moved onto Trans....

This is part of my story and though I do acknowledge that Porn is a huge bane in my existence I identify as a Sex Addict rather than a porn addict.

Anyone else consider themselves the same?

Hey @Chris1986
I struggled with porn and sex at the same time. I consider myself a sex addict and not a porn addict. Sex addiction is also known as hypersexuality or compulsive sexual behavior. It's an excessive preoccupation with sexual fantasies, urges, or behaviors. Examples include masturbation, cybersex, multiple sexual partners, use of pornography or paying for sex. When they became a major focus in my life and were difficult to control, multiple attempts to stop without success. I knew I had a problem and thus considered myself a sex addict.

 

[CodeTheMind]

Hey @Chris1986
I struggled with porn and sex at the same time. I consider myself a sex addict and not a porn addict. Sex addiction is also known as hypersexuality or compulsive sexual behavior. It's an excessive preoccupation with sexual fantasies, urges, or behaviors. Examples include masturbation, cybersex, multiple sexual partners, use of pornography or paying for sex. When they became a major focus in my life and were difficult to control, multiple attempts to stop without success. I knew I had a problem and thus considered myself a sex addict.

Compulsive sexual behavior seems to encompass all those issues quite accurately. I've had a hard time understanding what my addiction was, because I fall under all those categories. I was seeing each as a separate addiction not having direct relation with the others but probably it is more intelligent to understand it as one complex sex problem.

The difficulty of this is having one aspect under control while indulging in others and not being able to quit them all.

 

[KetchupDrool]

The difficulty of this is having one aspect under control while indulging in others and not being able to quit them all.

I completely understand your thinking on that point. I'm happily married, and my wife is very accommodating to my sexual needs when I'm horny.
However, I still fantasize about my past partners.

 

[Chris1986]

I originally posted this more out of curiosity to how many people really felt like they only had a problem with P. I certainly had that way of thinking years ago but I lied to myself so much I couldn't accept the other ways it had affected my life and filled me with so much cognitive dissonance.
I wonder by calling it porn addiction and not viewing themselves as sex addicts if people are cutting their selves off from fully healing?

Just a thought.