Seven Days In, Wonder if I Made a Mistake?

macondo

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Hey all, I'm 7 days in with no PM or PM induced O, and I've been noticing a few nice changes. I've been addicted to internet porn for years, sometimes masturbating 5 times a day just to orgasm. It was horrible, and I started to look at more and more extreme forms of porn to get up. For years I've had problems with ED, I didn't realize it was associated with the porn though. I had a very tramatic event that caused severe depression about 8 years ago, and that affected my libido and erection significantly. Up till then I've had amazing erections and a super strong libido (I was 30 then, I'm 38 now, so age could affect things). I'm in excellent shape, work out, eat healthy, sleep well and have normal stress.

So things finally came to a head for me when I went to see this beautiful massage therapist, and she gave me a happy ending, but I couldn't stay hard and I had to finish things myself. I was like, if I can't do this, I have a severe problem. I was going to see a sex counselor, which is super expensive, and then I found RN. I think you guys are better, though I may see the counselor eventually.

So, I started the program about 7 days ago, have been feeling much better, I see many of the improvements you talk about, even in a short time (increased self esteem, less anxiety, stronger ability to concentrate, increased libido, return of erection, ect). Yesterday, I met a cute girl and we decided to have a little fun. I also wanted to see if my libido and erection were returning. I took a Viagra and we hooked up. She was very hot, and for the most part I had improved results. I had sort of an erection (it came and went, rarely reached full size though) and she was able to ride me, which I am generally not able to do. She also made me O by finishing me off with her mouth, though I did need t stroke things a bit. She was very good though.

My thing is this, Did I hurt my REBOOT? Also, should I expect better results, I really want to get back to my old self, super strong erections, strong libido. Should I just go strong and completely cut out all O's, (ie. girlfriend induced O)?

Thanks for the advice all, great forum/resource, I look forward to contributing any way I can.
 

Gabe Deem

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She also made me O by finishing me off with her mouth, though I did need t stroke things a bit

No you did not "hurt" your reboot. Any sexual contact with a real person is considered "rewiring" and will teach your brain to become aroused by a real person rather than pixels. However, with that said most guys with PIED find that avoiding O for a period of time during the early stages of a reboot (first few weeks/months) is very beneficial and helps guys recover faster.

My advice is to stay away from dick pills like viagra. If you are young and healthy there is no reason you should need them. If you can get a solid erection for porn then that indicates that your penis works perfectly fine, and you need to reboot.

Congrats on 7 days P/M free! You are on the right track. I would go a period of time no O, however long you decide, then see what happens. Just stay away from porn and porn fantasy.

Hope the best for you. Welcome to the Nation
 

macondo

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Thanks for the reply and insights Gabe, I really appreciate them. I'm real happy I found this site, I've been freaked about this actually, to lose one's libido and erection is pretty devastating for a man. I hope it is just a matter of rebooting because my libido was actually something I"ve always been proud of.

I'm going to commit to no O, frankly I just connected with that girl because it was 7 days and I wanted to see if there was an effect, which there was. That's nice, but I want to completely reboot. My work is very hard, I was a magazine editor for a long time and now I have my own business, and it causes anxiety which would cause me to PMO, relaxing me but ultimately being very self destructive.

I've been reading a bit on Venous Leak, hope I didn't cause that kind of permanent damage, time will tell. I may post something else specifically on that. Good luck to all doing a Reboot and thank you to the site founders for creating a great resource. 
 
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Mart71

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My thing is this, Did I hurt my REBOOT? Also, should I expect better results, I really want to get back to my old self, super strong erections, strong libido. Should I just go strong and completely cut out all O's, (ie. girlfriend induced O)?

Hi, Gabe already explained it, being with a girl can hardly hurt your reboot.

In my experience, limiting orgasms works very well. That means, no more MO and not going for an O every time I have sex. In my case, when I have sex everyday, I go for an orgasm like every third or fourth day.

I've been rebooting for six months now, 42 years old. Btw I was also using ED drugs and they helped with my confidence during the hard first months. I am just now starting to be able to have sex without them.

You were talking about your libido. In my experience, the erections come back soon for us "older" guys, but if your libido or sensitivity have been damaged due to de-sensitization, that can take a longer time to recover. I also experienced, how an orgasm (with my gf) would completely kill my libido in the following days in the first months. This is slowly getting better now as well, but it took half a year.

Venous Leak is one of these internet horror stories that most guys with ED fear and hardly anyone actually has. You might be surprised of your recovery, the most important thing is to leave porn behind for good.

Good Luck!
 

macondo

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Hey Mart71, thanks for the insights, I've totally cut out P, and I feel great. I don't have urges, and if I accidentally come upon it, I have no desire to view. My libido does feel better, I'm starting to wake up in the morning with an erection, which hasn't happened in a while. I hope my staying power improves, hopefully with time. I really appreciate this forum, I've tried several times, unsuccessfully to stop P, and haven't been able to. Now I feel fully confident that I can do it. As someone a bit "older" I want to make sure I have a strong libido for as long as possible, and P absolutely kills it. Thanks everyone, I'll keep all updated on my status because I know it helps me to read other people's progress. Good luck.
 
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