Hello, do you know that? Since circa year and a half I have some problem with erection even during masturbation.
I have pretty strong morning woods and can achieve an erection during masturbation (only with porn), but the erection stopped being spontaneous. Sometimes it's hard to turn on with pics and porn but it happens more often that I have some sex drive and can't get an erection until couple of minutes of handjob. It's neccessary to do a manual start to get an erection. Just watching porn is not enough.
It can be the following:
You are tired, you are masturbating so much watching porn that you have developed a low libido and little ability to get aroused, therefore you may have sexual dysfunction from using a lot of porn and masturbating a lot, often called Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction ( PIED).
Since circa year and a half I have some problem with erection even during masturbation.
One question only as an annex:
have you visited a doctor and have had good tests anyway so that we rule out organic, hormonal, psychological causes ? (remember that anxiety can occur even if we are alone, not necessarily when we are with a partner).
Is it common experience according to PIED?
It's possible because the way you describe it is the typical way people experience low libido and sexual dysfunction from using too much pornography (PIED). PIED is like being with indigestion. If you eat too much, you will get indigestion and your body will reject any food, no matter how tasty it is. The same thing happens if you masturbate a lot (watching porn or even not using porn) your body starts to lose desire even if you later have a chance with a partner as attractive as those in adult movies.
Warning: My question is only to understand the subject, of course I'm trying to quit porn anyway.
The first thing is to stop porn. Totally.
The second thing is to let the body rest until the body itself feels like it (libido), but please, don't be foolish enough to watch porn again if your libido and your ability to get excited return. At that very moment you can do the following: find someone to have sex with, or masturbate just once (without porn, of course because porn is the problem, masturbation is not necessarily if there is a return of libido).
Now, if you can and it's easy for you, keep in that state of "rest" for at least three months (the famous 90 days), even if you have a libido, hold on. If your libido returns, of course. Remember that you should listen to your body, not your mind. Your mind will tell you to masturbate all the time, only your body will be the one that with natural wisdom will tell you when it is time. That is what we call libido.
Keep in mind that most people (virtually almost all of our species) masturbate and masturbation itself is healthy and part of human sexual nature, as long as it is like everything in life a moderate and healthy activity. High Speed Internet porn over years of use is the problem, but occasional masturbation without porn is not.
Porn with too much masturbation (using porn) is what may be causing your sexual health problems. If you masturbated occasionally, without porn, there would be no health problems. Keep this in mind.
During 90 days of abstinence, what you will notice is that your sexual desire (libido and arousal) will have ups and downs, some days it will be there and other days it will not be there. It's very normal, even in people who haven't been PMO crazy. So calm down.
I have been 70 days, 90 days, 140 days (in 2020) in total abstinence and I assure you: leaving PMO works to improve your sexual desire. So I encourage you to be abstinent for a few months and I encourage you to give up using porn for good.
Porn is loneliness, frustration and absurd fantasy. If it is not in your life, will life be wonderful? maybe not completely, but at least leaving porn is leaving one more of all the problems that one can solve.