I'd like to get some advice here.
Abuse victim, same-sex attracted and addicted to porn since puberty (I'm 36). My porn use this year has varied, but averaged around 1-2x/mo. I'm in counseling, have done EMDR and continue to engage in healthy alternatitive activities: reaching out to friends, meditating, working out, etc.
I'm reading through YBOP for the third time, and told my wife I was going to do a 30 days hard mode. We had done this once, and although it sucked, I also found it empowering and helpful. Well, after reading forums here I see most rebooters continue to have sex with their wives, and just abstain from artificial stimulation during their reboot vs going hard mode. My wife and I have a very very enjoyable sexual relationship, having sex 1-2x/week. I'm on day 16 and not only am I horny as hell, but I miss being with my wife badly.
My question is: Do I continue hard mode or should I shift down to avoiding artificual stimulation (which I have)...thoughts?
Abuse victim, same-sex attracted and addicted to porn since puberty (I'm 36). My porn use this year has varied, but averaged around 1-2x/mo. I'm in counseling, have done EMDR and continue to engage in healthy alternatitive activities: reaching out to friends, meditating, working out, etc.
I'm reading through YBOP for the third time, and told my wife I was going to do a 30 days hard mode. We had done this once, and although it sucked, I also found it empowering and helpful. Well, after reading forums here I see most rebooters continue to have sex with their wives, and just abstain from artificial stimulation during their reboot vs going hard mode. My wife and I have a very very enjoyable sexual relationship, having sex 1-2x/week. I'm on day 16 and not only am I horny as hell, but I miss being with my wife badly.
My question is: Do I continue hard mode or should I shift down to avoiding artificual stimulation (which I have)...thoughts?
