Am I having too much sex?

Hello everyone, thanks a lot for all the support so far.

Well, it seems to me that I really still struggle with the very basics of PIED. I have heard/read a few times that some people avoid orgasms and I do understand that masturbating while fantasizing might throw you back. What I dont understand is how that could even be possible by coming inside your significant other while having lovely intercourse.

I met this girl and she's not only the best, most wonderful, most beautiful person I know, she also actively helps me with my progress. Or so we think. Now before her I was a virgin. Now a few weeks into our relationship we had sex. A lot of it. Sometimes daily. Sometimes multiple times per day. Here is what I felt at first: Things were great, even though it takes some effort to get me hard enough to penetrate, even though my erection is only like 70%. I get to cum every time, so does my girl (though not during penetration, but other means). We are very happy and see it as a sign of progress.

Now what I thought was happening is that I cant really expect things to work everytime we try. It looked like as if the level of erection is not the same every day. Only today I realize it might as well be getting worse. You see, every time we do it I feel like i get less hard, like it takes a lot longer to build up and also like as if I feel less when being inside my GF making it harder to cum. Could this be true? After everything going so well the past few days do I now need to tell her we need to cut back? By how I write, you can guess this would leave me devastated but I am willing to face the truth here. I just dont want to end something so pure and beautiful on a hunch. So please help me out...
 

STST

Active Member
I guess I am bad at explaining, it had happened to me before. the way we overcome it involved forming a deeper emotional connection by doing new things.
 
I guess I am bad at explaining, it had happened to me before. the way we overcome it involved forming a deeper emotional connection by doing new
Im sure you are trying to help but I assure you theres nothing wrong with the emotional connection between me and my girlfriend. We do new things every week and, well having sex is still a new thing as well.
 
Hello everyone, thanks a lot for all the support so far.

Well, it seems to me that I really still struggle with the very basics of PIED. I have heard/read a few times that some people avoid orgasms and I do understand that masturbating while fantasizing might throw you back. What I dont understand is how that could even be possible by coming inside your significant other while having lovely intercourse.

I met this girl and she's not only the best, most wonderful, most beautiful person I know, she also actively helps me with my progress. Or so we think. Now before her I was a virgin. Now a few weeks into our relationship we had sex. A lot of it. Sometimes daily. Sometimes multiple times per day. Here is what I felt at first: Things were great, even though it takes some effort to get me hard enough to penetrate, even though my erection is only like 70%. I get to cum every time, so does my girl (though not during penetration, but other means). We are very happy and see it as a sign of progress.

Now what I thought was happening is that I cant really expect things to work everytime we try. It looked like as if the level of erection is not the same every day. Only today I realize it might as well be getting worse. You see, every time we do it I feel like i get less hard, like it takes a lot longer to build up and also like as if I feel less when being inside my GF making it harder to cum. Could this be true? After everything going so well the past few days do I now need to tell her we need to cut back? By how I write, you can guess this would leave me devastated but I am willing to face the truth here. I just dont want to end something so pure and beautiful on a hunch. So please help me out...

This is normal. One of the mistakes we as men make is thinking we need to be sex machines every time we get in bed with our GF, wife, etc. Sometimes your body and mind are clear, relaxed and so in sync that boners are great. Other times, not so much. Go easy on yourself! My advice is to enjoy the wonderful emotions you're describing with this lovely lady, and don't make sex the priority of your hangouts (if possible).
 
Hello everyone, thanks a lot for all the support so far.

Well, it seems to me that I really still struggle with the very basics of PIED. I have heard/read a few times that some people avoid orgasms and I do understand that masturbating while fantasizing might throw you back. What I dont understand is how that could even be possible by coming inside your significant other while having lovely intercourse.

I met this girl and she's not only the best, most wonderful, most beautiful person I know, she also actively helps me with my progress. Or so we think. Now before her I was a virgin. Now a few weeks into our relationship we had sex. A lot of it. Sometimes daily. Sometimes multiple times per day. Here is what I felt at first: Things were great, even though it takes some effort to get me hard enough to penetrate, even though my erection is only like 70%. I get to cum every time, so does my girl (though not during penetration, but other means). We are very happy and see it as a sign of progress.

Now what I thought was happening is that I cant really expect things to work everytime we try. It looked like as if the level of erection is not the same every day. Only today I realize it might as well be getting worse. You see, every time we do it I feel like i get less hard, like it takes a lot longer to build up and also like as if I feel less when being inside my GF making it harder to cum. Could this be true? After everything going so well the past few days do I now need to tell her we need to cut back? By how I write, you can guess this would leave me devastated but I am willing to face the truth here. I just dont want to end something so pure and beautiful on a hunch. So please help me out...
You don't need to cut back, as long as both of you are enjoying it. However it is always great to keep your partner involved with your worries etc and she will be able to reassure you. Always make sure to communicate before, during and after sex.
 
This is normal. One of the mistakes we as men make is thinking we need to be sex machines every time we get in bed with our GF, wife, etc. Sometimes your body and mind are clear, relaxed and so in sync that boners are great. Other times, not so much. Go easy on yourself! My advice is to enjoy the wonderful emotions you're describing with this lovely lady, and don't make sex the priority of your hangouts (if possible).
😔 Look, I really want to believe that it is all in my head and that i am putting to much pressure on myself. My Girlfriend is saying the same but honestly it doesn't make any sense at all. I felt the best during the few days it worked, why would I suddenly doubt myself? Today she tried to get me up with dirty talk, because of course she can see me struggle. She knows how much I want it and the point is, she really can get me hard enough (barely so, but hard enough) the issue is how long i stay hard without constant stimuli. Its not even seconds and its also really hard to give myself physical stimuli. There is almost no feeling on my penis whatsoever and its easily turning into pain when i keep pushing. It simply cant be my state of mind.
 
😔 Look, I really want to believe that it is all in my head and that i am putting to much pressure on myself. My Girlfriend is saying the same but honestly it doesn't make any sense at all. I felt the best during the few days it worked, why would I suddenly doubt myself? Today she tried to get me up with dirty talk, because of course she can see me struggle. She knows how much I want it and the point is, she really can get me hard enough (barely so, but hard enough) the issue is how long i stay hard without constant stimuli. Its not even seconds and its also really hard to give myself physical stimuli. There is almost no feeling on my penis whatsoever and its easily turning into pain when i keep pushing. It simply cant be my state of mind.
Hey brother, so I have had the exact same symptoms that you explain. My ex was smoking hot and really sexy and could always get me hard, but when we had sex, my erection wouldn't last long.

I spoke to my ex about it, and said it wasn't her fault. Then I found this place, I didn't think it was my mind and went to doctors to rule out all physical options. Everything cam back good and normal, even bloods, sperm etc

Then after ruling out all physical possibility it had to be my mental thoughts. So I decided to stop watching porn and left Instagram etc and also did not pleasure myself for over 5/6 months and only my ex could pleasure me by sex, after 2 months I noticed that I had more sex drive and after 5 or 6 months, even after orgasm I still couldn't lose my wood!

Even though you don't think it's mental, I do believe it is a major factor in our sex lives. Any other questions, send them my way 🙂
 

aymentech45

Member
Do you still watch porn when you date your GF? If no, how has you been quitting porn? I think your answer is very important, so I can understand clearly your situation.
 
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