Need to rewire but I dont find my girlfriend atractive

[Alex R.]

I have to rewire as I had severe pied and never had any sexual experience but I have a girl eich is not my girlfriend but kind of we are seeing each other.

The thing is although she is cute there is something I just dont feel very atracted to her. I see other girls more atractive. She is very nice and we get allong realky well but Im just not in love and I dont finde her physically very atractive. What should I do

Should I stay with her to rewire or is it Counter productive if I don't like her too much.

 

[Gracie]

Just a female perspective. If I was with a guy and he these thoughts, I would want him to not be around me. Just let her go.

 

[ImBroken]

As a partner to a sex/porn addict in recovery - if you do not have solid feelings for this girl…DO NOT drag her through your shit - she may not realize it now - but it is the right thing to let her go. Focus on yourself - devote that time to getting yourself better.

 

[Daybyday1988]

I have to rewire as I had severe pied and never had any sexual experience but I have a girl eich is not my girlfriend but kind of we are seeing each other.

The thing is although she is cute there is something I just dont feel very atracted to her. I see other girls more atractive. She is very nice and we get allong realky well but Im just not in love and I dont finde her physically very atractive. What should I do

Should I stay with her to rewire or is it Counter productive if I don't like her too much.

my first point is that you definitely should not continue things with her, particularly if she is not aware of what is going on with you. You arent really ready for a committed relationship yourself because your brain is out of whack. Plus, let me tell you from experience as an addict that even if you got with another woman that you felt was "more attractive" you will hit the dopamine wall where you need more novelty (i.e. different partners, porn novelty etc). this effect is called the coolidge effect. It has happened to me even with very beautiful women where i have sex, am super excited for the first few experiences, then i just get bored to the point where i cant even keep an erection anymore.

the second and last point is that i think there is ample evidence, at least anecdotally, to show that rewiring is not necessary to recover from the addiction and cause the addictive pathways to fade. All the best

dBd

 

[Red Moon]

I have to rewire as I had severe pied and never had any sexual experience but I have a girl eich is not my girlfriend but kind of we are seeing each other.

The thing is although she is cute there is something I just dont feel very atracted to her. I see other girls more atractive. She is very nice and we get allong realky well but Im just not in love and I dont finde her physically very atractive. What should I do

Should I stay with her to rewire or is it Counter productive if I don't like her too much.

If you don´t love her then you have my permission to stay with her. Only if you don´t love her. Did that make sense ?

Or...tell her that this is an academic experience :

" Hey sugar tits, i don´t love you but i wanna rewire, capisce ?! "

If she is also good at math, give me her number.

 

[Michael89]

If you don’t find her attractive at all, then leave her alone.

 

[Alex R.]

Its not at all. I like her but not as much as I liked other girls in the past.