Hello all, I have tried to reboot a few times now and the longest I went without M to IP was 13 days. I am trying again (last O via IP was last Sunday 4/6). The first time I tried, it was spurred on by an epic fail in the bedroom with my wife and another couple (we just started the swinger's lifestyle). And I know what you are thinking...."oh it was nerves" and I was inclined to think the same but I made several other attempts with various couples and last Sunday we met back up with a couple we have already met. So I was as comfortable as I could get really and even achieved an impressive erection without touching myself at all just by looking at my wife, just an hour before the couple arrived. When it came time to play I was completely flaccid and un able to get hard no matter what I tried. This was highly frustrating and again, spurred me to reboot for real this time. I am on day 3 and want to keep a journal since there is no real answer as to how long it will take or what to expect. Everyone is different but I hope I can help someone with a close situation as mine, plus writing about the process helps take the mind off of the urge to give in. So here is some background.
I am 32 and started M when I was about 12. I started with the usual's (as I grew up in the 90's) which meant bikini adds then hustler magazines and VHS porn. As soon as the internet became a "thing" I was never the same. I met my wife at the age of 15 and have been with her ever since. This is important due to the fact that I have had regular sex with her ever since. When not being sexually active with her I was M at least 3 times a day for over 15 years. And only came across a problem with ED after the fist failure to perform with our first couple (although I could inherently tell that my erection's were not as pronounced as they could be or were with IP). I shrugged it off as nerves but it keeps happening and it is painfully obvious that I have a problem. All the story's I have read almost mimic my problem so I want to reboot. As most of you are likely feeling....I want it to be as fast a process as can be. I know this is unrealistic but I will chronicle my journey so maybe someone can have an idea of what is going to happen and the result's. So....here I am.....day 3. I went nut's with IP on Sunday night and have done everything I can to avoid both sexual thought's AND sexual imagery. So far so good I'd say. No real cravings.....and it seems easy so far. I know I should refrain from O for a good while but I will likely have sex with my wife maybe once a week, I know some say this could be a beneficial act and some say it will delay the reboot. I will report on my progress WITH periodic sexual contact with my wife.
My goal: to get to a point where I can have a couple over and not have any trouble rising to the occasion. My strategy: NO IP at all, avoid ALL sexual thought's and imagery for as long as it takes to get to the "dead dick" stage of the process and then wait that out until I start to see any differences in my ability's (both negative and positive). I am desperate! I NEED to fix this! and my recent failure and the possible future fun that can be had is the motivation to beat this horrible problem. Stay tuned....
I am 32 and started M when I was about 12. I started with the usual's (as I grew up in the 90's) which meant bikini adds then hustler magazines and VHS porn. As soon as the internet became a "thing" I was never the same. I met my wife at the age of 15 and have been with her ever since. This is important due to the fact that I have had regular sex with her ever since. When not being sexually active with her I was M at least 3 times a day for over 15 years. And only came across a problem with ED after the fist failure to perform with our first couple (although I could inherently tell that my erection's were not as pronounced as they could be or were with IP). I shrugged it off as nerves but it keeps happening and it is painfully obvious that I have a problem. All the story's I have read almost mimic my problem so I want to reboot. As most of you are likely feeling....I want it to be as fast a process as can be. I know this is unrealistic but I will chronicle my journey so maybe someone can have an idea of what is going to happen and the result's. So....here I am.....day 3. I went nut's with IP on Sunday night and have done everything I can to avoid both sexual thought's AND sexual imagery. So far so good I'd say. No real cravings.....and it seems easy so far. I know I should refrain from O for a good while but I will likely have sex with my wife maybe once a week, I know some say this could be a beneficial act and some say it will delay the reboot. I will report on my progress WITH periodic sexual contact with my wife.
My goal: to get to a point where I can have a couple over and not have any trouble rising to the occasion. My strategy: NO IP at all, avoid ALL sexual thought's and imagery for as long as it takes to get to the "dead dick" stage of the process and then wait that out until I start to see any differences in my ability's (both negative and positive). I am desperate! I NEED to fix this! and my recent failure and the possible future fun that can be had is the motivation to beat this horrible problem. Stay tuned....