Day 30
I made it to one month, but the allure of porn stays strong. As long as I 'refresh' it in my mind, it feels like I will never be able to release myself from its pull. I started going to a mental health professional again, the same one I had gone to before. We're working some other things out, and I'll apply what I learn to my porn addiction as they are closely linked.
I have been having doubts about masturbation in general. I've talked to close friends about it and I've looked at papers that mentioned its benefits and downsides. If it is done without external stimulation from porn, without a firm grip and in moderation (like once a week or month at most), it doesn't seem like there are downsides. Recovering addicts are even told by professionals that in order to regain a normal sensitivity and improve their sex life they need to adjust their habits around masturbation. Im addition to that, it seems like abstinence from masturbation is like punishing your biologial state. Surely that libido, drive and urge to mate serves a purpose, I just don't know what that exactly is in today's world.
I know I am playing the advocate of the devil here, and I recognize that it is a dangerous avenue of thought for a recovering porn addict. I would much rather figure out how to learn to live without masturbation, and apply the lessons I've learned in doing so elsewhere.
I know personally though that I could never manage masturbation moderation or slipping back to porn binging, so "Could I maintain a healthy relationship with masturbation?" is not a question I want to ask myself.
I started seeing someone, and I am anxious about the challenges that this will bring. I remember not having issues in the past despite having poor PMO habits. At worst I was insensitive, which makes sense after the abuse and conditioning I put myself through (death grip and escalating preferences).
I believe I could have enjoyed sex much more though, but I don't exactly know what goal I am shooting for there. Maybe that's something to look forward to it the future, unexpected benefits.
Onwards.