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ADFECTATIO

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Amor fati is also used by Nietsche and he goes even furthern than just accepting. Amor is love and he says "amor fati" is the strongest way to say yes to life - YES to the fate - love whatever situation and card you get played and deal with it the best way you possibly can.
 

AJ7

Active Member
Day 9

plans with friends for tonight fell through. but I’m not too bummed, I know I will not ruin this streak and momentum I have behind me for some women I will never meet and feeling like a hollowed out shell of myself. as a precaution I will put my phone away in my dresser while I am home alone. I’ll focus on reading and playing with my dogs and just relaxing. A few alcoholic drinks sound nice but I don’t want to lower my guard which has happened in the past. I’ll probably have a drink once my wife gets back home. Hope you guys are enjoying the weekend
 

TypeN

Active Member
Day 9

plans with friends for tonight fell through. but I’m not too bummed, I know I will not ruin this streak and momentum I have behind me for some women I will never meet and feeling like a hollowed out shell of myself. as a precaution I will put my phone away in my dresser while I am home alone. I’ll focus on reading and playing with my dogs and just relaxing. A few alcoholic drinks sound nice but I don’t want to lower my guard which has happened in the past. I’ll probably have a drink once my wife gets back home. Hope you guys are enjoying the weekend
Sounds like that was a great moment to practice your amor fati (loved that post, by the way -- great attitude).
 

AJ7

Active Member
Day 10

thank you @TypeN 🤙

nice weekend. motivation is increasing and finally getting back into the swing of working out.

definitely feeling that sexual energy swirling around - especially in my chest and stomach area at times. it’ll take some time getting used to and channeling that energy in positive directions
 

AJ7

Active Member
Day 12

noticing myself able to relax a little more while talking to people and just be more in the moment. I feel like when I have that calm demeanor I am able to show my personality a little more and joke around with others. It’s a beautiful thing!

feeling a lot more in control today. proud to have gotten through those initial waves of urges, would have most likely said fuck it if not for this group and all you guys on this journey beside me. Thank you all
 

TypeN

Active Member
Day 12

noticing myself able to relax a little more while talking to people and just be more in the moment. I feel like when I have that calm demeanor I am able to show my personality a little more and joke around with others. It’s a beautiful thing!

feeling a lot more in control today. proud to have gotten through those initial waves of urges, would have most likely said fuck it if not for this group and all you guys on this journey beside me. Thank you all

A beautiful thing indeed. Those subtle good feelings will just keep growing stronger (as I bet you know from your previous reboots). Stay strong dude, you're doing great.
 

AJ7

Active Member
Day 13

little bit of a stressful day but remained porn free 👍

one thing I need to tread lightly around is Netflix. I like to watch roughly an hour or so with my wife to unwind for the day and eat dinner. Watched a show recently and felt myself getting drawn to an actress. Started getting the itch to search for some revealing content online but quickly put those thoughts to rest. I will have to stay grounded and not get lost in all that. Maybe find an alternative to Netflix every now and then.

a positive thing to note is I haven’t had a nicotine pouch in a week and a half, which hasn’t happened in a damn long time.
 

Blondie

Respected Member
Yeah that can be tricky, especially at first.

Over this last streak, I've trained my eyes to stay focused on their faces only and try not to think of TV/movie time as a way to check out women. Obviously I still enjoy watching beautiful women (I can't lie about that :cool:) and I'm not perfect at this either, but since in general I'm not staring at their bodies, it's quite a different experience than it was before.

It's not a perfect system, and I probably won't do it forever, but it's worked so far.
 

AJ7

Active Member
Day 15

It feels wayyy longer than 15 days since my last pmo session. I think my brain is trying to minimize the negative impact that this shit has had on me.

if my brain could talk: “okay, this has been a cute few weeks for ya buddy but when are you going to return back to normal?”

oh the antics of our minds..

been a bit of a yoyo of emotions. most notably is being pissed off at things that don’t usually get under my skin. luckily, these emotions haven’t been followed by strong urges. just gotta continue to learn to live with them and cope in positive ways.

hope you all are doing well!
 

AJ7

Active Member
Day 16

went on a walk with my wife and dogs at a park nearby my house. It has been a beautiful day and I’m glad I can fully enjoy it without the cloud of dissatisfaction that porn brings. I know there will be good and bad days ahead but I was truly able to cherish this day and was reminded of one of the reasons I started this reboot journey - to better enjoy simple everyday moments.
 
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TakeActionNow

Respected Member
Day 16

went on a walk with my wife and dogs at a park nearby my house. It has been a beautiful day and I’m glad I can fully enjoy it without the cloud of dissatisfaction that porn brings. I know there will be good and bad days ahead but I was truly able to cherish this day and was reminded of one of the reasons I started this reboot journey - to better enjoy simple everyday moments.

What you wrote here is the foundation of reboot.
Recognize all the good you have in your life and being happy and grateful.
Aside from getting good rest and recovery.
You need to focus hard on all your blessings!

P is compensatory.
It is founded on lack. And it will expand that belief that our life is lacking, to the point of destruction.

I wish I was married in my 20s!
I wish I had dogs! They give unconditional love!
My unconditional love is from my child. This love saved me. Love will save you too. Let their love overwhelm you. Whenever in need, seek them out.

You are very blessed!
 

AJ7

Active Member
@TakeActionNow you hit the nail on the head.

i’d have to admit that not until recently, a majority of the time my perspective has almost been entirely focused on what I don’t have instead of all my blessings. Probably brought on by my addicts need for more more more. Feels good to be grateful.. even for simple things like waking up to see another day.
 
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