Sexting.

[Xmnm]

Through our my journey, i had to the ability to stop porn usage, well of course i was proud of my self, but i had a bigger problem. And that problem is sexting. I have a huge addiction on sexting, I'm spending hours and hours finding women and trying to seek nudes. I thought it would be like quitting porn, but no, quitting sexting is as hard as quitting porn and moreover. Since you create an emotional relation with sexting more than just masturbating. You would feel lonely and there's definitely something wrong with you, *you should text someone* that's how you would feel every second from quitting sexting. I would appreciate if someone can help me. Thank you

 

[Androg]

I think you've spotted the problem for yourself. Sexting may be a porn-substitute for you. Have you considered an in-person support group, or an online group that meets daily? I'm sure others have struggled with similar challenges.

Have you tried daily exercise? Time in nature? Socializing IRL? Meditating daily?

 

[Xmnm]

I've tried daily exercises, reading, i spend 30min walking outside. And ofcourse i do socialise in real life... I didn't try a support group cz i can't find any... thank you

 

[Androg]

Stay strong

 

[TryingHarder]

Since you create an emotional relation with sexting more than just masturbating.

Do you really? Unless you actually meet, spend time with, get to know, and build a real relationship with someone, it's porn. Hope you can find a way to break this addiction. Spend more time with real people instead of going after digital "relationships" that do more harm than good.

 

[Xmnm]

Stay strong

Trying to...

 

[Xmnm]

Do you really? Unless you actually meet, spend time with, get to know, and build a real relationship with someone, it's porn. Hope you can find a way to break this addiction. Spend more time with real people instead of going after digital "relationships" that do more harm than good.

Sexting is literally porn, in sexting I'm just talking to the video, that's the difference. But in my case, I feel lonely tho I'm not alone, that's why an imotional relationship is being activated. I have so many relationships irl, and I'm represented as a social individual.

 

[Chris1986]

I can relate. I had a pretty busy social life and was in the music scene playing in bands and arranging gigs. I was living with my partner/fiancée but I still found myself compulsively sexting. Its a hard cycle to break. Granted it was formed in my brain from the age of 12/13 but I found being off social media has helped a lot. Instagram for example was very triggering.
Reddit was and still is about go.
Also having blockers on my phone so I can't download chat apps. Now a few years out and I haven't sexted in that time.

 

[Xmnm]

That's great, may you recommend any blockers? Btw i don't have any social media accounts..

 

[Androg]

Someone here recommended this article: https://basedgenz.com/how-to-overcome-porn-addiction/

Someone else recommended Qustodio. "It promotes itself as parental control for minors but it works just fine for adults too. It blocked all porn, and it has the option for adding the link to pages you specifically wish it to block. Ideally, it is best used by having someone else control it for you, so the addict cannot know the password."

If you give someone else your PW be sure it's someone you personally know. Not "just an internet buddy."

 

[Xmnm]

Thanks for your help

 

[tay97]

Same. Thinking about giving up my smartphone again. But is this the solution? I don't know.

 

[Blondie]

Hey @tay97, desperate times call for desperate measures. Now, that doesn't mean you have to, but if you can and still function with your daily life, then maybe it's something to consider. Of course, this is a progressive journey, and what you do at first doesn't mean you have to do it forever.

Good luck!

 

[tay97]

Hey @tay97, desperate times call for desperate measures. Now, that doesn't mean you have to, but if you can and still function with your daily life, then maybe it's something to consider. Of course, this is a progressive journey, and what you do at first doesn't mean you have to do it forever.

Good luck!

Thanks blondie. Love to see your name here again after months because of my abstinence. I am thinking about doing it for 100 days so I can let my brain heal.

 

[Blondie]

Thanks blondie. Love to see your name here again after months because of my abstinence. I am thinking about doing it for 100 days so I can let my brain heal.

Rock on.

 

[Androg]

One way to find out is to make the experiment for a few weeks (at least). Many people in recovery benefit from eliminating smartphone use as much as possible.

 

[tay97]

One way to find out is to make the experiment for a few weeks (at least). Many people in recovery benefit from eliminating smartphone use as much as possible.

I did it and feel so free rn.