Bibbity
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It's ALWAYS easier to blame the other person for perceived faults than it is to face your own. Rationalization is the addicts ally. I wonder what Tiger Woods was rationalizing to himself when he cheated on his intelligent model wife? It really has nothing to do with us. The mind has a great way to rationalize behaviour for an addict. Those men whose journals you read are still in denial about why they are failing at sex and relationships. It's easier to say "she's not hot enough" than it is to say "I'm afraid of intimacy with a woman".
STR it's so great to hear that your wife has opened up sexually to you. We often open up to men we know we can trust. It's an intuitive thing. I'm a pretty spiritual person and I have read that sex can suddenly become painful if a woman is having sex with someone she doesn't trust. I can attest to this in my own marriage. Thankfully we are now having the hot and steamy sex we both always wanted but it certainly doesn't look like a porno and I'm grateful for that
STR it's so great to hear that your wife has opened up sexually to you. We often open up to men we know we can trust. It's an intuitive thing. I'm a pretty spiritual person and I have read that sex can suddenly become painful if a woman is having sex with someone she doesn't trust. I can attest to this in my own marriage. Thankfully we are now having the hot and steamy sex we both always wanted but it certainly doesn't look like a porno and I'm grateful for that