nevergiveupman
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Hi there all
This is my first post, but I've been familiar with YBOP and Marnia Robinson's work for a while.
I'm basically an early forties dude who got ensnared in the whole internet porn thing in the late nineties. Seemed so harmless at first, could take it or leave it.
Forward ten years later and it was wrecking my relationships and triggering other unwanted sexual compulsive behaviour, which I won't get into here. I'm very fortunate for my faith and like minded friends who have been on this recovery journey.
I'm a very young looking guy for my age, slim and attractive to women, which, instead of being humble and grateful for, I've often used this to feel entitled to the addictive sexual behaviours.
Now, for me, porn is the gateway drug, it gets my adrenaline going, lowers my inhibitions, and gets me cruising personal ads and chat rooms and things. Way too much of an intoxicating cocktail.
And withdrawal for me means increased craving, risky flirtations, and sudden bursts of temper that surprise me and the people around me.
But I want to stay focused on the benefits, yet, at the same time, I want to leave the results to my Higher Power.
I am hoping I can desire to be PMO free for its own sake, not some extrinsic reward, because ultimately for my brain the ultimate reward is sex.
I just also find everything I truly value in life, every principle, ideal, person, relationship, or career, is enhanced simple by abstaining from PMO. I value the peace of mind.
I am also presently and recently single.
One challenge is a woman I work with who is very attractive, young, extremely flirtatious and vivacious. She clearly likes me. But I strongly intuit that at only 3 days no PMO, I would not be able to handle messing around with her, it would set off a neurological rollercoaster.
Anyways, that's a bit about me, I appreciate everyone's support
This is my first post, but I've been familiar with YBOP and Marnia Robinson's work for a while.
I'm basically an early forties dude who got ensnared in the whole internet porn thing in the late nineties. Seemed so harmless at first, could take it or leave it.
Forward ten years later and it was wrecking my relationships and triggering other unwanted sexual compulsive behaviour, which I won't get into here. I'm very fortunate for my faith and like minded friends who have been on this recovery journey.
I'm a very young looking guy for my age, slim and attractive to women, which, instead of being humble and grateful for, I've often used this to feel entitled to the addictive sexual behaviours.
Now, for me, porn is the gateway drug, it gets my adrenaline going, lowers my inhibitions, and gets me cruising personal ads and chat rooms and things. Way too much of an intoxicating cocktail.
And withdrawal for me means increased craving, risky flirtations, and sudden bursts of temper that surprise me and the people around me.
But I want to stay focused on the benefits, yet, at the same time, I want to leave the results to my Higher Power.
I am hoping I can desire to be PMO free for its own sake, not some extrinsic reward, because ultimately for my brain the ultimate reward is sex.
I just also find everything I truly value in life, every principle, ideal, person, relationship, or career, is enhanced simple by abstaining from PMO. I value the peace of mind.
I am also presently and recently single.
One challenge is a woman I work with who is very attractive, young, extremely flirtatious and vivacious. She clearly likes me. But I strongly intuit that at only 3 days no PMO, I would not be able to handle messing around with her, it would set off a neurological rollercoaster.
Anyways, that's a bit about me, I appreciate everyone's support