ntg2978
Active Member
Once again, I don't have a lot of time, so I'm going to just make this short and sweet.
I really get excited when I think of you you're going to be when this part of your life is complete, and what you're going to be able to do with all the strength you are going to inherit as a result of it all...it literally gives me goose bumps all over.
All I've got to say, is that I think your last post is showing that you are becoming this person. I am really excited to see this; this is the same exact reaction I had to porn as a whole as well when I discovered everything that you are talking about as well.
And I'll say one more thing too.
@ntg- Part of my perspective is my age. I'm 30- I want to have a kid before I'm 35 or my risks go through the roof. Not that adoption isn't completely on the table but brother, I ain't got time to hold out for Mr. Perfect to waltz through the door. And I'm in AU, so that's all very messy stuff. I've got three years here then I'm going back to the States- where I want to pop one out (or hopefully pay someone to pop mine out) pretty immediately. You can see that it's not always as simple as waiting it out. You know, my good friend told me to quit babying my SO too. She said that sometimes people need to fall flat on their face. I've certainly been giving him more emotional responsibility lately but that seems easier now, since I've had to face my own demons- I find it easier to discuss things with him (since I'm not running away to P).
I got married originally based upon logic...it was the WORST decision of my entire life. I speak from experience when I tell you this: do not base love decisions on logic ALONE; yes, use logic, that is very necessary, but do not use logic and only logic and reason and convince yourself of things, because they are logical conclusions...this is the absolute wrong path to go in the matters of love.
I know you're feeling rushed, but the more effort you put into it, the more you try, the more it will all evade you. Learn how to relax through meditation. Learn how to rely upon the subconscious mind more than the conscious; the conscious makes decisions - it is logical; the subconscious does the actions, it is not logical, yet very powerful. A book I'll recommend is Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz, very good book on this whole subject, and a good start for you on this path, should you choose to take my advice.
As always sister, very proud of you, and I know you'll be just fine, even if you don't know it yourself yet.
I really get excited when I think of you you're going to be when this part of your life is complete, and what you're going to be able to do with all the strength you are going to inherit as a result of it all...it literally gives me goose bumps all over.
All I've got to say, is that I think your last post is showing that you are becoming this person. I am really excited to see this; this is the same exact reaction I had to porn as a whole as well when I discovered everything that you are talking about as well.
And I'll say one more thing too.
@ntg- Part of my perspective is my age. I'm 30- I want to have a kid before I'm 35 or my risks go through the roof. Not that adoption isn't completely on the table but brother, I ain't got time to hold out for Mr. Perfect to waltz through the door. And I'm in AU, so that's all very messy stuff. I've got three years here then I'm going back to the States- where I want to pop one out (or hopefully pay someone to pop mine out) pretty immediately. You can see that it's not always as simple as waiting it out. You know, my good friend told me to quit babying my SO too. She said that sometimes people need to fall flat on their face. I've certainly been giving him more emotional responsibility lately but that seems easier now, since I've had to face my own demons- I find it easier to discuss things with him (since I'm not running away to P).
I got married originally based upon logic...it was the WORST decision of my entire life. I speak from experience when I tell you this: do not base love decisions on logic ALONE; yes, use logic, that is very necessary, but do not use logic and only logic and reason and convince yourself of things, because they are logical conclusions...this is the absolute wrong path to go in the matters of love.
I know you're feeling rushed, but the more effort you put into it, the more you try, the more it will all evade you. Learn how to relax through meditation. Learn how to rely upon the subconscious mind more than the conscious; the conscious makes decisions - it is logical; the subconscious does the actions, it is not logical, yet very powerful. A book I'll recommend is Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz, very good book on this whole subject, and a good start for you on this path, should you choose to take my advice.
As always sister, very proud of you, and I know you'll be just fine, even if you don't know it yourself yet.