What is the main reason that drive u to get free of P?

[lee]

I mean the things that influenced u most. List three of them.
There is must be something that deeply changed ur life in a bad way and which make u don't want to use P anymore since we are man and P are really attractive to man.
Of course pain is greatly larger than what we "gain" from P.

 

[lee]

For me:

1. Brain fog
2. Always Sleepy
3. Low confidence 

 

[Hoopdogg]

1. Caused MAJOR problems in my marriage.
2. It was out of control and made me lose my career.
3. My life was un-manageable.

 

[indiana]

I guess all of these fall under the header of unmanageability and out of control.

1)Escalation.
2)Disconnection from the world around me.
3)Suicidal Depression.


4)Loss of nearly all close friends and severely strained family relationships.
5)no career or future, out of options, life disintegrating away. Especially after severe binges where I felt like I was living under water and could barely function. There have been times where I'd binge for weeks on end, leaving the house only a handful of times for fast food.

 

[challenged]

Not necessarily in order of importance, but rather in order of motivation (I'm sad to say):

1. The onset of PIED.
2. It is contrary to God's will/commands as set forth in his Word.
3.  It impacted my appreciation of my wife and relationship with her.

 

[qrayzHD]

Mine are also in no particular order.

1. Zero Libido - Can't remember the last time i was aroused by a real girl.
2. Brain Fog - I always thought that maybe i had ADD or something similar, didn't realize that porn was the cause and now its cured.
3. Numbed Pleasure Response - I was sad, little things that should bring me joy did nothing for me. Now i feel more alive and i can actually feel.

 

[Vincent]

1. realization that I had no control over it anymore and it was my #1 Habit (even before checking Messages/Mails!!!)
2. wanted to respect myself again as a man who had at least a 1/1 sex/wank ratio.....
3. PIED and no real arousal by sex / favoured Porn over sex

 

[Pr3c1se]

1. PIED
2. Using women as sex objects
3. Ever increasing hardcore porn needed

 

[indiana]

Definitely echo using women as sex objects... I've had beautiful loving girlfriends that I unintentionally treated terribly.

 

[Fappy]

Just three!? Its hard to pick a "top" three, but heres mine.
1) PIED
2) resentment, even contempt, toward my wife among many other problems with my marriage
3) losing the person i once was

Fapee

 

[Josh.Thomas1989]

1. PIED- I didn't even know I had it until I started dating somebody and couldn't perform. I don't want it to ever affect a relationship I'm in again.

2. To be healthy for future relationships. Women like to hear that their man doesn't watch porn.

3. Improve the quality of my life. I was spending almost all of my alone time everyday watching porn.

And then here's 3 positive effects I've experienced so far (37 days) that were unexpected:

1. Motivation- Ever since I've got my mind away from the trap it's been in I've found that I'm extremely motivated for life now. I'm applying to graduate school as we speak. I have started working out regularly and have lost weight.

2. Confidence- I'm much more confident in every aspect of life. Girls, work, social interactions etc. I feel like I can achieve anything now.

3. Energy- I sleep less but still feel more energetic when I wake up. I no longer need coffee to get me through the mornings. That probably has to do somewhat with results from working out but I wouldn't have started if I didn't give up porn.

 

[tostadora]

1) My girlfriend. She deserves to have the best version of myself.
2) First ED, then DE
3) Be able to experience sex fully.

 

[Bulldozer]

1. DE
2. Brain Fog
3. To use my time with things are really important in my life

 

[brewster]

1. Not being happy with my sex life because comparing it to porn
2. Brain fog and lots of wasted time
3. Needing to watch certain types of porn that are unattainable in real life to get off

 

[lee]

So we listed them up, just remember them and keep away from P forever.

Like me, I quit 47days from P and 27 days from M. But there is still times that we want to do the bad thing even if we have suffered a lot.

I will think of the things I listed here and erase those thoughts away from my brain. I will definitely say NO next time.

Good luck with everybody and be positive, just imagine what we will be after we get out from this shitty period. Best wish to all.

 

[Chaos Mind]

1. Pathetic opinion about love and partnership
2. Not wanting to want to have sex anymore
3. Extreme time consuming

 

[marsturm]

1. PIED and losing interest in real people/sex
2. Fearing I might commit suicide because of my binging
3. Massive shame/Feeling like a zombie in everyday life