**Accountability Partner Requests**

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LegitVikingWithPIED

Member
operation_null said:
Hello everyone,
I'm 31 y.o. male from Europe and I would like to find an accountability partner (preferably from Europe/UK/Ireland, because of time zones).
I struggle with sexual addiction regarding masturbation and pornography, as well as ogling women. These behaviors took a large toll on my relationship with my girlfriend. Right now the only accountability partner is her, which, needless to say, isn't going very well for us.

Currently it's been about 9 months since I last time used pornography but since then I've been giving second looks to another women in front of my girlfriend and engaging in abusive and dismissive behavior towards her. Also, I've been struggling in keeping with my commitment to recovery work, namely procrastinating and focusing on other activities in my free time as a means to escape uncomfortable feelings.

I would like to talk to someone regularly, preferably over Whatsapp, analyze our slip ups or activities and hold each other accountable.

If you're in a good recovery and willing to be my accountability partner, please let me know by PM me.
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Still need a buddy? :)
 
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LegitVikingWithPIED

Member
Wolfman said:
Hey nation,
I'm looking for an accountability partner as I think just having 1on1 conversations can be an additional pillar of strength. I keep a journal here and I've been struggling with P and PMO for almost six years now. Preferably looking for someone located in Western Europe (just because of time zones), who is around my age (30+) and who, needless to say, is serious about quitting P for good. PM me here if you're interested.
Cheers
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Hi, I’m a guy, 38 from Denmark. And I’m on day 6
 
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Raymond84

Member
Hi, I am also looking for an accountability partner. I am 37 from the UK but live in Germany. I am having issues with online roleplay and chatrooms and after many failed attempts at breaking the habit, I really need to make this the time to stop. Being accountable and sharing with someone would help as I have mostly been doing this along and have not shared my struggle with many people. I know this is a recipe for disaster! I am happy to be there for others via whatsapp or telegram too! PM me if you need support!
 
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YSwantstostop

New Member
Hi I am a 31 year old male from South Africa. Been having issues lately with pornographic games in particular. Would like to find 1 accountability partner.
 
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SkazkiDreamin82

Member
Hi. I'm a 39-year-old male in the USA. I've been trying to quit porn for years, but have slipped up many times. I'm back on day 1 right now, and I'm determined to make it stick this time. I'd like to work with an accountability partner to help me stay on track.
 
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Squidward81

Member
SkazkiDreamin82 said:
Hi. I'm a 39-year-old male in the USA. I've been trying to quit porn for years, but have slipped up many times. I'm back on day 1 right now, and I'm determined to make it stick this time. I'd like to work with an accountability partner to help me stay on track.
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Hey man. I'm a 40 year old, just moved to central America from the USA. I'm currently working on getting rid of porn and MO. I could use a accountability partner too.
 
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Lionheart67

New Member
I am in my mid thirties, married, have been unsuccessful in achieving freedom from PMO or Fapping, but the burning desire remains. Looking for an accountability partner.
 
MountainCross90

MountainCross90

New Member
Lionheart67 said:
I am in my mid thirties, married, have been unsuccessful in achieving freedom from PMO or Fapping, but the burning desire remains. Looking for an accountability partner.
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@Lionheart67 I am in my mid thirties, married as well. I would be your accountability partner, I am 81 days free from P. I would ask you find me on nofap.com. I have the same username there. I am on there a lot more than this site, and I have AP partners on there currently also.

Let me know if that doesn't work for you, its a good community for recovery!
 
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hamilton8

Active Member
hey guys. im 35. not marries. would like an accountability partner. i just started a thread on here. let me know if any1 would like to partner up to help each other
 
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Unashamed

Member
I would love to have/need to find an accountability partner to help keep me clean! I’m new on here but love what I’m seeing so far! Thank you for these resources and everyone else here struggling, helps me feel less alone in my struggle!
 
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hamilton8

Active Member
Unashamed said:
I would love to have/need to find an accountability partner to help keep me clean! I’m new on here but love what I’m seeing so far! Thank you for these resources and everyone else here struggling, helps me feel less alone in my struggle!
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hey unaashamed- tellme more about yourself- age, struggles etc
 
Jhonny

Jhonny

New Member
I am from Romania. I'm still a addicted to porn. I want someone near me to discuss. I have 30 years.
I have Christian views and I am against porn.
I struggle with porn since I was a kid.
 
EarthWalker

EarthWalker

Respected Member
Hello everyone.

I've been here for a while. I am in mid 30s located in central Europe in CET (timezone). I am curious of trying an accountability / recovery buddy. If anyone feels like giving it a try with me send PM.

Thanks
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garagon0225

Member
Gabe Deem said:
**Accountability Partner Request Thread**

What is an "accountability partner?" = Accountability partners are pairs who hold each other responsible for their sexual habits - someone who commits to supporting and following you along the process of rebooting.

Why get an accountability partner? A few reasons...

1) As the forum grows it will be hard to keep track of everyone's journals. If you are busy, having a partner will keep things fast and simple. The days you have more time, you can venture off into other journals of course, but if you have a partner you can easily give consistent support and help each other, without becoming overwhelmed by numerous entries.

2) Giving/receiving support during the reboot process is highly beneficial, and if you can consistently do so that is even better. Knowing there is someone who is in this reboot process with you can be very calming and soothing. Knowing you are not alone is very helpful, and it is the truth.

3) You will have someone to relate to. Someone who understands some, if not most, of what you describe during your reboot, and who will be trucking along Recovery Road with you, cheering you on when times are bad, and celebrating with you when positive steps are taken.

*RULES FOR ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS*

1) Partners will post IN EACH OTHER'S JOURNAL, or if needed through private messages. This is very important, as your reboot account will remain all in one place, and the forum will not be broken down further into smaller, not as active sections. Ask for a partner in this thread, then once you have one, follow each other's journals and post there!

2) The main forum rules still apply in accountability partner posts. We will be positive and supportive and not push anything on each other. To review the rules go here: *FORUM RULES*

3) You can have more than one accountability partner, but PLEASE avoid doing this unless you are sure you have enough time to be of help to multiple people. The last thing a rebooter needs is a partner quitting on them halfway through their reboot and leaving them feeling abandoned. However, if a situation comes up where you no longer can be a partner (we all know life happens), please let your partner know so they can come back to this thread and request another partner!

4) If your partner relapses, do NOT shame or criticize. This will do no good. Instead offer advice or a different perspective of looking at the situation. Tough love is all right, a personal attack is not. If you have offered all the advice you can give and they keep slipping, you don't have to say anything, just be there for support and reassure them that they can in fact, recover, as many others have before them.

5) Encourage each other to learn as much as possible about this addiction. When you learn something new on this site or YBOP, share it with your partner. The more you know, the better the advice you can give your accountability partner. The better understanding you have of how porn can re-wire and actually numb your brain, hopefully the less desirable porn will become (as happened for me). Then you can come up with a plan of action. In my experience, knowledge is power for rebooters.

6) Just post a comment with a few things about your situation/life/reboot status and request a partner. But first go through earlier comments and see if anyone needs one.

7) After you get a partner please "modify/update" your request post at the top saying you now have a partner. This will save people time who are searching for a partner.

Keep it simple. We are ALL in this together.

Thanks and I hope the best for everyone,

Much love,
Reboot Nation!
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garagon0225

Member
Gabe Deem said:
**Accountability Partner Request Thread**

What is an "accountability partner?" = Accountability partners are pairs who hold each other responsible for their sexual habits - someone who commits to supporting and following you along the process of rebooting.

Why get an accountability partner? A few reasons...

1) As the forum grows it will be hard to keep track of everyone's journals. If you are busy, having a partner will keep things fast and simple. The days you have more time, you can venture off into other journals of course, but if you have a partner you can easily give consistent support and help each other, without becoming overwhelmed by numerous entries.

2) Giving/receiving support during the reboot process is highly beneficial, and if you can consistently do so that is even better. Knowing there is someone who is in this reboot process with you can be very calming and soothing. Knowing you are not alone is very helpful, and it is the truth.

3) You will have someone to relate to. Someone who understands some, if not most, of what you describe during your reboot, and who will be trucking along Recovery Road with you, cheering you on when times are bad, and celebrating with you when positive steps are taken.

*RULES FOR ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS*

1) Partners will post IN EACH OTHER'S JOURNAL, or if needed through private messages. This is very important, as your reboot account will remain all in one place, and the forum will not be broken down further into smaller, not as active sections. Ask for a partner in this thread, then once you have one, follow each other's journals and post there!

2) The main forum rules still apply in accountability partner posts. We will be positive and supportive and not push anything on each other. To review the rules go here: *FORUM RULES*

3) You can have more than one accountability partner, but PLEASE avoid doing this unless you are sure you have enough time to be of help to multiple people. The last thing a rebooter needs is a partner quitting on them halfway through their reboot and leaving them feeling abandoned. However, if a situation comes up where you no longer can be a partner (we all know life happens), please let your partner know so they can come back to this thread and request another partner!

4) If your partner relapses, do NOT shame or criticize. This will do no good. Instead offer advice or a different perspective of looking at the situation. Tough love is all right, a personal attack is not. If you have offered all the advice you can give and they keep slipping, you don't have to say anything, just be there for support and reassure them that they can in fact, recover, as many others have before them.

5) Encourage each other to learn as much as possible about this addiction. When you learn something new on this site or YBOP, share it with your partner. The more you know, the better the advice you can give your accountability partner. The better understanding you have of how porn can re-wire and actually numb your brain, hopefully the less desirable porn will become (as happened for me). Then you can come up with a plan of action. In my experience, knowledge is power for rebooters.

6) Just post a comment with a few things about your situation/life/reboot status and request a partner. But first go through earlier comments and see if anyone needs one.

7) After you get a partner please "modify/update" your request post at the top saying you now have a partner. This will save people time who are searching for a partner.

Keep it simple. We are ALL in this together.

Thanks and I hope the best for everyone,

Much love,
Reboot Nation!
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Hello everyone, I’m here looking for help and to be help for someone who is going to the process of better their life. I finally came to realize and understand the journey can’t be taken alone
 
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