I'm male and 30 years old. I'm recently married and have a wife who I would live, breathe and die for. We've always had problems in the bedroom, but it never held us back. I just assumed it was "blue balls" or I would quit masturbating for a couple of days and bam! Hard and ready to go. I have been watching porn and masturbating since I was 12 and for the longest time, thought nothing of it thinking that it was normal for guys to "let off a little steam". But my addiction grew. It got to the point where I couldn't go out and relax unless I masturbated first. It affected my dating life when I was single severely. Yet miraculously, I found a girl that looked past all the terrible nights in bed.
It wasn't until recently I found out about PIED and the hurt I was putting on my wife. She said she felt unattractive, gross, and said things like "its no wonder that you can't get it hard for me, its cause Im ugly". And, for me, it was like a shock. I find her incredibly attractive but somehow my body wasn't connected to my brain. Funny thing is, I could get hard easily with porn. Yet, no matter how hard she tries anymore, she can't get me hard.
I started here because I need help. I've talked to her about porn addiction in the past, but I honestly dont think she believes me. It is also ruining my marriage. I'm sick and tired of hurting her and I want to be able to satisfy her the best I can. So seven days in and I honestly don't know how I'm fairing. So far, I have been having all the symptoms of PIED and Im honestly freaked out. Can this be fixed? Can I still be a father? So far from the posts and articles I've read, its given me comfort to know that its possible.
I want to have sex with my wife and I dont want to leave her high and dry while I sort myself out. Is it okay to have sex, albeit, even if its only foreplay during my reboot? I know pills like Viagra are a `bandaid fix`, but will it help while Im rebooting or is that considered cheating? Thanks for the support!
It wasn't until recently I found out about PIED and the hurt I was putting on my wife. She said she felt unattractive, gross, and said things like "its no wonder that you can't get it hard for me, its cause Im ugly". And, for me, it was like a shock. I find her incredibly attractive but somehow my body wasn't connected to my brain. Funny thing is, I could get hard easily with porn. Yet, no matter how hard she tries anymore, she can't get me hard.
I started here because I need help. I've talked to her about porn addiction in the past, but I honestly dont think she believes me. It is also ruining my marriage. I'm sick and tired of hurting her and I want to be able to satisfy her the best I can. So seven days in and I honestly don't know how I'm fairing. So far, I have been having all the symptoms of PIED and Im honestly freaked out. Can this be fixed? Can I still be a father? So far from the posts and articles I've read, its given me comfort to know that its possible.
I want to have sex with my wife and I dont want to leave her high and dry while I sort myself out. Is it okay to have sex, albeit, even if its only foreplay during my reboot? I know pills like Viagra are a `bandaid fix`, but will it help while Im rebooting or is that considered cheating? Thanks for the support!
