Going on 15, and age shall not be the only thing that changes..

User123

Member
Hi! I'm just turning 15, and started my reboot 4 days before writing this initial post! I've decided a journal could be good, as coming into realisation of having PIED reading and writing on here helped a lot, and may help if things get tough! Also, I hope it can help anyone else reading it whilst on this journey..

I've been PMOing since about 12, and began to develop slightly specific preferences when 14. I've had my girlfriend now for over 8 months, and overall, our sex life is great! On occasion, I would not get an erection, and would normally put it down to stress or it just being natural, and my erection would struggle to last very long during sex, not so much foreplay. The real problem started occurring when, from about December, I started using condoms, and began to regularly loose my erection before I had time to put the condom on! It was really getting me down, and I was hinting myself towards masturbation to be the problem! So on Saturday night, when it happened earlier that day and was beginning to get me and my girlfriend confused, frustrated and upset, I came across this website! Well fu**!!! I concluded that my erections could be much stronger without the PMO in my life, and I had became so accustomed to a constant stream of simulation - erotically through porn and physically through jerking off - causing my hard ons to be lacking, hence why without it I would lose my erection like when putting on a condom.

My true dilemma was not deciding to stop, that was an easy YES!!! Reading some other guys stories, I'm really lucky to have stopped after only about 2 years, so I am determined to stop! The real worry for me was how my girlfriend would react, we had been putting it down to performance anxiety, and my delayed ejaculation to just be 'weird', but there's no way I could pull that off for what could be many months. I made the plan that I would try and minimise sexual activity between me and my girlfriend 2-4 weeks, assuming I don't hit a hardline of some sort after that, with no orgasming for me for quite a while, and obviously never again with porn and masturbation!

Really, I'm beginning very optimistic, and see myself to be in a good position for recovery! I'm dedicated, have studying and fitness to distract me, and my girlfriend will help me rewire very much. P.S. Excuse some days missed out, I am quite busy with studies and gym so I might not get on the laptop, but will post when I feel it is relevant!
 

User123

Member
[Day 3] Went into Cambridge ( my closest city ) with my girlfriend, had a good day with a nice meal, and overall had no urges at all! I was still thinking about it all very much, but about the situation oppose to porn and masturbation itself! I have been horny, but only as much as normal, and am not necessarily craving porn, but instead just sexual activity which is pretty natural!

The big point is I confronted my fear.. I told my girlfriend! It went great, she understood and was happy to help any way! I spoke about what problems I could face in the future and what I could go through, and after I have told her it feels great! In a way she doesn't care, and understands how even if she don't like it, I'm not gonna be cumming so it's only about her. (Don't see why she's bothered, I mean hey thats all the attention on the girl, which is all they ever want! ;D) So yeah, I advice telling at least one loved one or close friend, it helps to be able to talk to them!
 

User123

Member
[Day 4] Pretty random, but ended up getting really hard and having short sex with my girlfriend ( had to stop, long story ), so in a way like Karezza, and it was great, more focused on just the moment than achieving orgasm. I was hard as ever really, but I didn't put a condom on so I didn't approach the problem of lack of stimulation! With my girlfriend I don't have any anxiety of losing my erection now I've told her, and it felt so good to not have performance anxiety, now it's just PIED. I finished her off, and stayed hard throughout that surprisingly, but did lose it quite suddenly after that, but I didn't let that dampen my spirits. Also, so far it hasn't made me really feel cravings for porn. Improvement isn't linear, and I'm sure this won't continue, but I feel good about it still, and it's surprising to see effects after just 4 days of quitting that stupid stuff.

About half an hour ago, around 10:30PM I was looking through some posts on here and got a strong, but very brief flashback of some old porn scene. I had an urge for about, 5 seconds, then I controlled it and it went away. I did then meditate for a little, and listen to music then write this to keep myself completely distracted.
 
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DanteKO

Guest
Keep away from porn and having a lot of sexual fantasies during your reboot. Being busy with lifting and school will give you plenty of things to focus on besides PMO. Good luck to you!
 

Sampson Munk

Active Member
Hey  man. Great work with your fight and facing your fears! I'm still working up to tell my parents about me. Although this is a safe place for you, I'd still check with her before posting about your sex life. She may not even care and you have already told her, but it's a good thing to do. Hopes she helps you and you have many victories against porn in your reboot!
All the best
-Sam
 

User123

Member
Yeah I do go to the gym and I've got my exams coming so I'm pretty distracted! Good luck Dante!!
Well I hope you can tell them soon Sam, it helps a lot trust me, and your parents would only want to help! Yeah she doesn't seem to mind, I haven't showed her any of it but it's anonymous really so she doesn't mind! Good luck to you Sam, hope you keep strong through all of it!
 

User123

Member
Haven't posted for a few days, haven't really had anything to say! Urges getting a little more regular, a few a day, but only triggered by something sexual (on TV or what someone says etc.), and have been noticing it pops up in my head before sleep, and I think that is because I used to PMO on a routine before I sleep! So a good week for my reboot! I'll be posting as things happen.. Hope all you guys are doing well!
 
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