Age 33 - Help needed badly - Am on day 2 and finding it super hard to resist

[PhoenixRevival]

Hi to you all,
Am a porn addict for over a decade. Am married.
Whenever am alone at home, its a ritual that I watch maximum porn (dopamine clicks).
I decided should quit porn recently because all I see in women lately are asses, boobs. Not very human.
Also, porn has been leading to fights with my wife. After porn, I am
somehow less caring and more aggressive to my wife (anyone got an explanation for that or similar situation?).
I need help right now since I am alone at home and finding it really hard to resist, the urge is very high. My penis is literally urging me to click
on that private tab and watch some porn. What can I do ? Help please.
I have been trying to read, to watch series, to watch movies but its as if am becoming like a hulk monster.

 

[vitam]

Dude.  Take a breath.  You can do this.

I am in a similar situation.  Married.  Also 33.  Porn for about 10 years.  Less caring and more aggressive with my wife... more selfish really.  Less understanding of her weaknesses. 

Here are some things that I think about: porn saps my energy and I don't try as hard to be a good husband and person.  My marriage isn't the only thing that suffers - my work, my hobbies, my passions.

Urges are really difficult to control if you can't change your scenery... and not just a subtle change.  You need something that is going to make your mind shift onto something else.  Cold showers work for some.  Get out of the house and exercise if you can.  I would say that sitting and looking at something (a book, a tv screen, or a computer monitor) is not working.  I go out and work in the yard a lot.  I find that if I can get away from sitting and staring at something and engage in some physical activity, I do much better.

 

[PhoenixRevival]

Thanks Vitam!

Did it. managed get to day 3.
What a day, had lots of energy and concentration to sell. I could also see better, that was weird.
Somehow, masturbation affected my vision the next day?
I know its not the porn since I stayed on PC and watched a course, tried to tire myself before sleep. Fighting the triggers face to face

My marriage, work , passion and hobbies have suffered a lot like you. So you seeing lots of benefits in your life now?
Thanks for advice, I tried exercise this afternoon. Did not think of that because was scared exercise just increases it more when its the time..
Tonight will be the time when I watch football, especially if the game is boring.

Anywa thanks again for advice.

 

[PhoenixRevival]

Vitam. what reason you want to stop porn?
For me, one of my main motivations for stopping porn is my newborn.
Want to have maximum energy to help around the house. Being too much of a lazy tiring figure lately.
My judgements are clouded as if.