bob
Respected Member
Hi folks,
Last night I read the following link. I felt like it held a great deal of wisdom regarding this reboot process.
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0[/url]
A couple of the points were as follows. Please forgive the paraphrasing of this link...
Because of this link, I am going to change the way I approach the reboot process. I will be removing my current counters and replace it with a counter measuring the time from my last PMO. This was my main goal, one in which I have had success.
I will continue to work on MO and P subs but even with "slips" I have not returned to PMO.
To get a better sense on the progress, I will set up a spreadsheet on my MO slips, I will also provide access to this spreadsheet through RN.
I am in this for the long haul; the rest of my life. It sounds like a spreadsheet will give me a more effective visual to follow my progress. This may take a bit of time to set up but will work on it and get it set up as soon as I can.
I may also reduce the time I am spending on RN. I still want to be here as this site is a true lifesaver, a place to understand this crazy addiction to porn. The thing I don't want to do is be obsessed with process. This isn't to say that it will be easy but is is worth it.
Your love and support for me during this process is important as I continue to redirect my life. May we continue to move forward together while encouraging others as we struggle with this addiction.
Peace brothers and sisters.
Last night I read the following link. I felt like it held a great deal of wisdom regarding this reboot process.
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0[/url]
A couple of the points were as follows. Please forgive the paraphrasing of this link...
- Don't deall with the P, put your energy in being a new you.
- Don't dwell on your counter, dwell on your progress. Use of a spreadsheet may give a better picture. If one has cut down on PMO then that's success! If you relapse, its not "start over." Its just part of the process. Realize you want to change and get back to it. A counter may make you feel like you are starting all over again
- Post positive, don't give this thing the power of a negative post. Anything that includes shame gives power to PMO, (I want to make sure to differentiate between shame and guilt. Shame is "I'm stupid. I have relapsed." Guilt is "I relapsed. I don't feel good about it but it doesn't make me any less of a person.)
Because of this link, I am going to change the way I approach the reboot process. I will be removing my current counters and replace it with a counter measuring the time from my last PMO. This was my main goal, one in which I have had success.
I will continue to work on MO and P subs but even with "slips" I have not returned to PMO.
To get a better sense on the progress, I will set up a spreadsheet on my MO slips, I will also provide access to this spreadsheet through RN.
I am in this for the long haul; the rest of my life. It sounds like a spreadsheet will give me a more effective visual to follow my progress. This may take a bit of time to set up but will work on it and get it set up as soon as I can.
I may also reduce the time I am spending on RN. I still want to be here as this site is a true lifesaver, a place to understand this crazy addiction to porn. The thing I don't want to do is be obsessed with process. This isn't to say that it will be easy but is is worth it.
Your love and support for me during this process is important as I continue to redirect my life. May we continue to move forward together while encouraging others as we struggle with this addiction.
Peace brothers and sisters.