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franky jr

Member
Hey guys it's been a little while and the reason is because I am doing fantastic! I just looked back and read some of my old posts and couldn't help but think about how far I have come. Long story short I was dealing with PIED for over a year and a half. I knew what my problem was and 'how to fix it' but it wasn't working. Multiple failed attempts in the past at having sex, zero confidence, anxiety, and much more was standing in my way. I honestly think I recovered long before I had realized but was too depressed and anxious to know it.

I had minimal morning wood and didn't have the greatest sexual experiences with the girl who is now my girlfriend. I was literally too freaked out to pay attention to the important/fun things, In life including sex. After many times of premature ehaculation, partial boners, and crappy experiences I finally got the hang of it. Rewiring is CRUCIAL. We have great sex now. I got her off 5 times the other day while having sex! I had zero ED issues and could last as long as I wanted. If you read some of my older posts you'd think I am lying.

My advice is to CALM DOWN. Enjoy the for play and kissing. Enjoy every part. Take it slow. You don't need to be walking around with a boner to feel recovered. I started getting my morning wood back when I relaxed. It's a viscous cycle. You might ask how can I relax when my dick doesn't work? My answer is to just trust me. I was in the exact same boat. My gf was patient with me while I was figuring it all out. I think a common misconception here is that once you're recovered youre horny all the time and that's just not true. I feel like I'm rambling now. If you have any questions just respond and I'll answer as best as I can.
 

Stretchcomic

Active Member
Hey congrats man! I was just wondering how long it took to rewire and how to stay calm while rewiring? I've found that whenever I'm with my girlfriend all I can think of sometimes is how I can't get it up with her yet. We've talked about it and she's willing to stay patient with me, but it just gets worrisome ya know? Thanks man!
 
M

McQueen

Guest
Man I remember reading your posts and hoping you would make it nice man! So Happy for you!

How was your withdrawal symptoms during the initial months of recovery?

Thanks for the update..
 

keyballa

Member
Hey bro thanks for your story. I'm going through The same thing u used to go through now. It's very frustrating that I can't satisfy my girlfriend when she wants it. I'm going thru a reboot now.

Question, I'm about 3 weeks into my reboot now.  How long should I wait to after my flatline to start having sex again with my gf? Is it safe to kiss and make out?

How can I get rid of my anxiety of sex and be confident again?
 

Phase2

Well-Known Member
That's so great. Thanks for posting. You've come a long long way. Please take time to share more in depth about how you went from completely nowhere sexually to a success story (how you 'got the hang of it'). There are lots of men on here who need encouragement and tips. Personally, I'd like to know more about overcoming anxiety. Anyway, congrats again. Way to go!
 

Zkorle00

Member
So how long did it take you to fully reboot?

I haven't watched porn in about 2 months and just my luck I end up attracting one of the sexiest women I've ever seen. I tried to hold off sex as long as I could, but eventually it came down to it. We ended up having sex, a quickie in the office--yea I know don't judge me lol! Quick doggystyle and I didn't have a problem. But when it comes to being alone and having time and the opportunity, it seems like anxiety starts to kick in. It's such a shitty feeling. The thing is, I can get erect from kissing and touching, but then anxiety kicks in RANDOMLY, and sometimes it just doesn't want to stay up. I dunno why. It sucks tho man. Starting to alter my mood and my confidence a little bit.
 

franky jr

Member
Gentlemen, I apologize for literally taking years to respond. That?s what happens when you recover. You start to live your life. If you take a look at my most recent post you?ll see I have relapsed over a long period of time and my relationship with the woman that helped me rewire is now out of the picture. I feel as though I?m back at square one. I?m hesitant to even respond to this post because I don?t want to take up too much of the message board, but I?d like to answer some questions.

I?ll start by saying it took me between 6-9 months to feel fully recovered. I?m having to remember from over 5 years ago because I was doing alright until now, or at least I thought I was. I started to PMO again during my relationship and could still have sex because I was comfortable with my GF. I don?t think the anxiety factor of all of this is taken into enough consideration. Going on dates with my then GF was enough to get me rock hard. I remember early in our relationship I struggled to even get my pants off before I came with her. (That got better with time and practice). The crappy answer is you have to find a girl that won?t hate you or judge you if you can?t do it right away. That is harder said than done. Bottom line, if you can have sex I suggest doing it. It will help with the confidence and rewire. Just knowing that going on dates, holding hands, and kissing was enough to raise my flag gave me enough confidence and courage to have successful sex despite having virtually no experience prior to that.

A lot of questions seem to be about when you should kiss and have sex. Again, I suggest doing all the above when you can. I can remember the high I got having consistent sex after never being able to do so in the past. There is literally nothing better. The withdrawals are weird. I?m going through them again right now. You think you?re horny but you?re not. You?re addicted. Depression is brutal. Feelings of worthless and hopeless is common. I?ve literally done this once before and still feel like there is no hope but there is. You just gotta remember that. For those of you that have an understanding girlfriend, you?re in a good spot. As hard as it is, just relax and take care of her. Make sure she is happy. That doesn?t necessarily mean you have be inside her to make that happen. Just be a good man. I?m learning that the hard way.
 

bilbobaggins

Active Member
Great post. As I said in your other thread, posts like that are important, they remind us that we have to stay cautious with this. It sucks that you have to learn this the hard way, but I?m sure you?ll be back where you want to be in no time.
 

Max1230

Member
damn it, I read your past posts - it's fucked up. You described my own life. I have suffered from PIED for probably my whole life. And I had the same problems, how do I date a girl, if I don't even have to? And this eternal depression, which because of this accompanies me, makes life very difficult. The meaning of my whole life is to recover. So friend, thanks for your story! I have only 2.5 months of reboot and I still have everything ahead of me. I hope so someday I will be able to write exactly the same post, but now about my success story!
 
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