Age 24, ED fully healed after 15 months! Here to give back to the reboot community :)

JOEJOE90

Member
Hi guys,

Long time visiter, first time posting! Fully healed and ready to share my story with the Reboot community.

I am 24, and have been using porn since early teens, pretty much exactly the same as Gabe to be honest. Oh what was I thinking right! Don't you just love hindsight. I know you got to roll with the punches in life but man, a broken noodle is one low blow from the man upstairs?..but hey I'm a much stronger, resiliant and better human being for it now?..As they say, god works in mysteries ways not that I'm really religious or anything though.

Just wanted to share my recovery story and let you all know that I have healed from Porn ED over a 15 month period and still seeing improvements. I am not sharing this for a pat on the back but because stories like this really helped me get through the dark days of withdrawal, flatlining and the ever so charming anxiety?right when I needed it most! As you can see, i've been through it all just like the good man himself, Gabe.

I often come across a lot of stories of people feeling frustrated and not seeing results through various forums and google etc. and when I was recovering, this sometimes  made me second guess the process for a moment and I began to worry that I would never recover, especially in the first few months when feeling like shit with a shrunken willy was just another day at the office. However, i reassured myself that this was not a normal feeling (terrible anxiety, loss of motivation, penis shrinkage, low libido) and that my body was sorting itself out, so I endured it just like all my fellow recoverers who got hooked to PMO at a young age. Besides, I was following Gabe's advice and he recovered right!

On a side note, I think it is important to acknowledge that a lot of recoverers unfortunately probably don't post or view YBOP etc as much as they should when they have fully healed. why would they right? they feel great and are too busy living their lives and shagging anything that walks :p (I joke) In all seriousness though, my point is people on here are still recovering which is why sometimes we tend to view a lot of people who are still going through withdrawal and not feeling to great about it all etc. It was the same as when I had acne in my teens, i use to google forums constantly for a remedy and would always come across more people who were depressed from severe acne then people who had found a solution and healed their acne. Why's that you ask? because people who are healed no longer have the need to view the forums anymore?except for the small handful who give back to the community (gotta love them.) That's just my opinion though, nothing more.

Anyway, once I read the YBOP FAQ's and everything else their is to read on YBOP, Reboot nation etc. I made a point to just read Gabe's posts on here as he was always positive and gave me hope and confidence in my darkest days of withdrawal. If you are reading this Gabe, I can't thank you enough?.Your perspective and outlook on porn addiction, your countless Youtube videos, constant posts have made all the difference and got me to where i am today on this long and winding journey. You are the man indeed! I sir, raise my glass to you ;) I also thank Gary as well for YBOP. Nifty site that one ;) check it out folks if you haven't?.but surely you have if you are here :)

Anyway, it was just over a year ago that I finally figured out why I had ED?Poor little me hey, about to lost my virginity at age 18 and my noodle doesn't want to get hard..oh the confusion that caused me at the time. However, I had no problem getting hard to oral sex at age 16-17?so figured it must be the nerves and besides, Mr Johnson still worked when I watched porn so must be no issues right? WRONG!!!!!!

Moving on, I eventually stumbled across YBOP and that's when my life changed. after realising what I had done to myself, I broke down and thought oh no!?.how could i think watching porn 2-3 times a day was normal. Why wasn't i chasing the real deal, I'm a monster! As Gabe stated?.I instantly began to despise porn and had a change of heart right then and there. I was never going to watch porn again.
Done for good! AU REVOIR!!     

Despite the horror of realising what I had done to myself, I was also a little relieved because I knew what was wrong with me now and what I had to do. It wasn't because of low testosterone or nerves like every website suggested ( i did get check by the doctor by the way), it was because of the brain changes in my head induced by porn a.k.a devil woman or satan if you like ;)

However their was one catch, I was 23 and just started to date a girl I really liked and had just figured out my condition. oh the irony of it all. This time though, i was determined to fix my ED and get hard instead of stuffing my penis into her vagina like a floppy sock. No, not much fun, but perhaps a feeling you identify with?..just maybe.

At first, i didn't have the heart to tell her my problem, as just my luck, she wanted to fuck like a rabbit (oh why now out of all the times in my life) so i decided to try and do my best to keep up with her. Despite a few miss fires, I somehow forced an erection from time to time and this was just enough to keep her satisfied even though i had no libido and half an erect penis. To this day, I still don't know how managed to get it up because trust me, my penis was broke dude. Not too well as all.

Eventually a few weeks later, I told her of my issue but sugar coated it. She understood and agreed to take it a little slower even though we still had sexual encounters from time to time. This use to stress me out beyond belief as Gabe said no orgasms for young dudes and I agreed with him, so I felt like i was in a catch 22. Didn't want to lose the girl but didn't want to carry on living with my Johnson on sick leave due to excessive PMO. As per usual, I went with pleasing the girl, so i carried on forcing erections whenever I could to try and keep the relationship alive.

During this time, the withdrawal symptoms really kicked in and it was most certainly non linear as Gary and Gabe mentioned from time to time. This was hell, I felt like shit, penis shrinkage, flatlining, semen leakage, no motivation, no libido and intense anxiety?.basically horrible feelings I never knew existed. Oh please make it stop and I'll be a good boy :p

This carried on for months but as time went on, I noticed that I use to get firmer erections and semen leakage began to subside. I also noticed morning wood coming back around 3 month period (it had been years since I got a morning woody) and wet dreams started occurring around the 6 months mark if I recall correctly. It was very clear that changes were taking place even though I would still orgasm with my partner, This gave me hope even though I would have days when an orgasm would send me back into flatline status, for sometimes a few weeks or maybe just days?What can I say, it's a non linear process but I could see progress and that's what mattered most to me.

Eventually the anxiety subsided and I began to feel warm and fuzzy inside as if someone was feeding me happy juice or something. I had no idea I could feel this good?This is when I began to notice the full affect of what PMO had done to me?.Fark! Oh and penis shrinkage began to subside when the anxiety feeling eventually passed. Another tick! :)

By the time I hit the 10 month mark, i felt great despite a few lingering side effects i.e Brain fog, lack of concentration, Premature ejaculation and my refractory period wasn't too flash either.

I'm now 15 months free of PMO and feeling pretty damn good! Refractory period is much better but I'm sure it will continue to improve, brain fog is getting better and so is my concentration. I imagine I will continue to see benefits over the next year or so. Also, my social anxiety has gone. I thought I was just shy around people I didn't know at the time but i suspect PMO caused this change in my brain as I am now super confident chatting to random people or giving presentations at uni or work etc.

My main problem now is still premature ejaculation, my erections are the hardest they have ever been?like super hard but I can hardly last 2 mins in the sack at times which is quite frustrating. I am hoping it will sort it self out though as I continue to heal. Still my girlfriend is losing a little bit of patience with it and so am I, so any advice would be much appreciated. I am keeping it in perspective though as it beats having porn ED. Maybe I need a little time out or something will do me good?

Anyway that's all I'll say for now but if you have any questions regarding my journey, please don't hesitate to ask :) I'm here to help wherever I can.

A few last notes:

- In terms of recovery, please just watch Gabe's Youtube videos, posts and try not to over think it too much. follow Gabe's advice, read YBOP FAQ's and you will heal, end of story. Most of all, never be discouraged?.As Gabe said, the brain can change due to neuroplasticity and if you follow his advice like I did, you will reverse the brain changes caused by PMO, even if it takes 2 or so years. It's just my opinion but i felt like a worse case scenario and I have healed and got my sexual function back. Oh and it will suck the withdrawal, so be strong because their is light at the end of tunnel. I'm living proof as well as Gabe and all the other guys.

- Note, I did masturbate 4 times during my reboot and felt it set me back every time except the last time around month 12. Hard to say though. At the very least, do not fantasise while M. I learnt this the hard way. Touch alone people. Trust me :)

- Rewiring was everything to me. Cuddling, flirting, kissing, socialising with friends  and even intercourse made all the difference. As i mentioned, I had oral sex a few times throughout high school but never went any further until my early 20's, so i lack experience which is why rewiring was so important to me I feel. That's one thing Gabe had on me which is why I would sometimes second guess myself with the healing i think.

-Also around the 10 month mark, I came accross a few suggestive images of Facebook which to my shock, brought on the anxiety again and the penis shrinkage for a couple of weeks. Rewiring with my girlfriend got me back on track though. What's your thoughts on this Gabe if you ever read this? why did the anxiety feeling come back for days when i saw those images. Made me realise how careful I have to be. I was never going to relapse but i felt shit for a week or so again and couldn't get the anxiety feeling to subside. I'm just interested from a learning point of view and to get your take on in it. I'm a little afraid to view FB sometimes, that's all haha. Thanks buddy.

I wish you all the best on your journey guys. Best of luck :)
 
Thanks for checking back in! It's great to read success stories and I appreciate you giving  back to the community.  I'm only on day 12, and starting to enter the flatline. It's rough, but I'm staying the course with the mentality that porn isn't an option. The problem it seems now is that I'm still running into sexually suggestive images all over the place: TV, in stores, on facebook, instagram, tinder. It makes me think I should avoid all this stuff, but I have to use the internet for work. ...

Any ideas or thoughts here?
 

JOEJOE90

Member
regguyinpa said:
great post! congrats on your accomplishment . You should feel proud !!!!

Thank you for the kind words REGGUYINPA. We should all feel proud of ourselves that we are here tackling our demons and showing PMO who's boss! Only upwards from here :)
 

JOEJOE90

Member
GettingBetter said:
Thanks for checking back in! It's great to read success stories and I appreciate you giving  back to the community.  I'm only on day 12, and starting to enter the flatline. It's rough, but I'm staying the course with the mentality that porn isn't an option. The problem it seems now is that I'm still running into sexually suggestive images all over the place: TV, in stores, on facebook, instagram, tinder. It makes me think I should avoid all this stuff, but I have to use the internet for work. ...

Any ideas or thoughts here?

Hi GETTINGBETTER, this is only my opinion from my experiences and knowledge but here's my advice:

First of all, congrats for making it this far! I entered flatline around the 2-3 week as well, so I know the feeling all too well.
I also needed the internet for my work and life in general, so I understand the dilemma you are in.
Anyway, here are my thoughts?Apologies if I go off on a tandem a bit haha

- Sexually suggestive images are everywhere right! Which is what makes this such a tricky addiction. It's not black and white like alcohol addiction etc. However, I think it is important to acknowledge you are addicted to the dopamine high that porn provides, not so much the porn it's self if that makes any sense. What I'm saying is I think it's ok to use the internet and watch TV etc. as long as you are not actively seeking out a rush (i.e peeping at hotties on Facebook or watching sexually arousing content on TV etc.) If you are researching an article and accidentally come across a half naked woman on a pop up and click out of it straight away, that is fine as you were not actively seeking it. It's a different pathway and will actually strengthen your will power in return. So continue using internet for work, just make sure you are focused on work and not browsing at woman you know on Facebook or instagram etc. Oh and for now, maybe just use internet for work and online banking etc. and perhaps read a book, go the gym, hang with friends, go on reboot nation,cook, play guitar in your spare time. It's actually quite liberating after a while as everyone watches TV like zombies after work but here you are working on doing something constructive?hopefully you get my point?.and I read somewhere it takes 4-6 weeks to form a habit, so it will be second nature before you know just need the motivation at first.  Live life, don't be a spectacular like everyone esle :) and this will help speed things up too as these activities are real life (help rewire and provide feel good endorphins) and are not artificial. These habits will stay with you and make you a better person, well from my experience anyway.

- Although, as per one of Gabe's earlier Youtube Videos on his account or here on reboot nation, I do recommend limiting your exposure on the internet and TV for a little while just until the sensitised pathways weaken a little and the cravings and anxiety'a subside a bit. I remember when I was feeling better, I started getting over confident and starting checking hotties out on fb and around town, thinking this was different to PMO, and my true libido. This sent me into a small flatline again and was a reminder on how the brain can fool you if you are not careful, By doing this, sure it was not R rated content but i was still peeping at various artificial arousing content and reactivating these PMO pathways. Just be careful, that's all. Real life interaction and sex (cuddling, kissing, flighting, intercourse) with a loving partner is best in my books.I know this isn't always easy to obtain though. As long are you having real life interactions with friends , family and woman, you are rewiring though.

To keep it simple, avoid artificial arousal, seek real woman, appreciate and love their personality, bodies features, smile etc. rather then lust over bending them over a chair and these PMO pathways will fade in time and do not stand a chance. 

By the way, love your mentality, you are absolutely right?.the only way to fully heal is to accept PMO is gone forever and is no longer an option. Trust me, in time you will no longer crave it. You will want the real deal only. I owe a big thanks to Gabe for that one.

I'm so happy for you man?..you are doing great and are going to feel so much better once you are out of flatline. This will change your life for all the right reasons. Only upwards from here my friend. Also, withdrawal does suck (not here to bullshit haha) but it means your body is healing itself to normal status, so it's actually a great thing and a sign your body is sorting it's self out?.and of course, it is only temporary. You will feel the happy vibes before you know it. One day, I just noticed I felt better and was like wow?.holy fark! I feel a millions dollars and I was worse case scenario as far as I'm concerned. Keep going man and you will be fine :) I wish the best for you.
 

Daniel123

New Member
Well done, i think you were actually in a good position having a girlfriends just as you began to solve the problem. As long as they have an understanding attitude, it probably helps a lot with rewiring as you said. A lot of guys, myself included, look at the reboot as a question of sheer will power to quit porn, and dont really give enough importance to the rewiring, which is at least half the battle, especially if you started on porn early.
 
Hi Gettingbetter,


When you start going through flatline. You mind will start looking for anything to feed that addiction. So it is craving looking at FB or instagram anything for that rush. It did for me. The good news is that is means you are going through withdrawl which is great.  Start to like the feeling of withdraw and think about it as if everytime you feel something you you are healing.


keep it up
 
Thanks guys, for the responses! I really appreciate the support you get on this community. I will definitely take your advice to heart as I continue on.

A (very attractive) girl asked me out on a date today, and i'm honestly a little worried that it might move into sex lol. I know i should go out with her on a date to help with rewiring, but just wasn't sure of the community's thoughts on starting dating when someone (more or less) just starts a reboot. This girl is a smoking hot TV reporter so I was a little taken aback haha. I'd like to grab a drink with her, but wouldn't want things to move so quick that I get embarrassed with an ED situation ...

Think it's too early to start dating? Anyway, thanks for the thorough response and for sharing your story.

Porn isn't an option!

- GB
 

Gabe Deem

Administrator
Staff member
Admin
Moderator
Hey JOEJOE90,

First off I want to say thank you so much man, for taking the time to come back and share your insight and experience with the reboot community. It really is SO helpful to guys struggling to get a fresh dose of motivation and maybe some new perspective. To not only be better prepared and educated, but to know they are not alone. So thank you so much. I'm also very glad to hear some of my videos were of some help. Thanks for the feedback it keeps me motivated to keep helping.

answer his question about anxiety returning after seeing "suggestive images on Facebook.": I have two thoughts.

  • Seeing the sexual pixels/pictures reactivated addiction/conditioned pathways in his reward circuit, triggering several possible physical things which may include increased stress hormones.
  • Over thinking things and subconsciously thinking that seeing those pics would set him back, thus leading to increase in anxiety and stress. This would simply be an example of "over thinking things."

Of course I can't be sure, and everyone is different. Thanks for sticking around to answer questions too, you're awesome bro! We greatly appreciate it and hope for continued improvement and success for you. Much Love
 

PiedSux

New Member
First of all congrats, you've inspired me with this post I actually registered just to reply, now if I was to say I'm 24 like you and currently on day 14 of no fap on hard mode would you tell me to try and have as much sex as possible like you or do you think it actually slowed the reboot down?

If I had to give numbers ild say I can get around 75% hard with porn ( needs constant stimulation or ild lose it) and about 50% with a girl.
 

JOEJOE90

Member
GettingBetter said:
Thanks guys, for the responses! I really appreciate the support you get on this community. I will definitely take your advice to heart as I continue on.

A (very attractive) girl asked me out on a date today, and i'm honestly a little worried that it might move into sex lol. I know i should go out with her on a date to help with rewiring, but just wasn't sure of the community's thoughts on starting dating when someone (more or less) just starts a reboot. This girl is a smoking hot TV reporter so I was a little taken aback haha. I'd like to grab a drink with her, but wouldn't want things to move so quick that I get embarrassed with an ED situation ...

Think it's too early to start dating? Anyway, thanks for the thorough response and for sharing your story.

Hi GETTERBETTER,

The below is just my opinion, nothing more but here it is:

Congrats on the date, that's great news! Just because your are going through this, doesn't mean your dating life and interactions with the other sex should stop. In fact i promote it anything from my experiences.

However, I do understand your dilemma, I was in the same situation when I started dating my girlfriend. I figured out I had the same problem on our third date when we had sex. I couldn't get it up and had to force it up by thinking of dirty erotic images in my head?Not ideal at all. The next day, I did my research and came across YBOP and then my world changed forever! but I made my way through it like you will and everyone else on this site.

I say don't over think it, go on the date with her and see how things play out. At the very least, it will do good for your rewiring.
It's a tough situation to be in and you just have to play it out the best you can. Just take it slow with her and be real about it. If you form a bond with her over a few dates, chances are you will feel more comfortable being honest with her and she will be more understanding and help you get over this addiction. If things do get sexual, see how you go and if it's a disaster (i,e ED is in town), maybe just be honest with her and let her know you just want to focus on her until you fully bounce back?..let her know a lot of guys are going through it and you will be over it before you know it and be in best shape of your life.. Most girls will be understanding?.I feel it's just in the manner and way you explain it. Also, don't be embarrassed if things go wrong, it's more a reflection on her than you if she treats you badly for it.

You may have to go through a few embarrassing misfires from time to time until you fully bounce back but treat it with a sense of humour (that's what i did) and know it's a small price to pay in the long run to get to where you were before you discovered PMO. Trust me on this! and always keep rewiring - i.e flirting, socialising and kissing etc. and of course time out to recover never goes astray. I did do a lot of 1 3 week, 1 month reboots etc.

Just roll with it buddy and things will work out in the end?.As I said before, I'm living proof of this! I wish all the best for you.

Hopefully I helped a little but it is a difficult one to answer.





 

Calesson

New Member
Hi Joejoe! You remind me of Jojo's adventures ^^

So, I registered only to ask you questions. That shows how much I'm motivated to talk to you :p

I didn't read all the replies but I guess they are all PIED related but what I am interested in is the little part where you say that you are not shy. When you say you have no social anxiety anymore.
I have social anxiety like you had and that's basically why I'm doing nofap.

So I wanted to ask you if your social anxiety was severe? What caused you social anxiety?
When did it become obvious that your social anxiety has lessen?
And as weird as it seems, if you went on the internet or played video games? If yes how much :p

Sorry for my boring questions, I don't know how to make it more appealing ^^
I really hope you'll answer, cheeeeeeeeerz!
 

andsauce

Member
JOEJOE90 said:
My main problem now is still premature ejaculation, my erections are the hardest they have ever been?like super hard but I can hardly last 2 mins in the sack at times which is quite frustrating. I am hoping it will sort it self out though as I continue to heal. Still my girlfriend is losing a little bit of patience with it and so am I, so any advice would be much appreciated.

Hi JOEJOE90:

I found something on another forum hope this helps your PE situation. The original link is: https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/66866-how-i-cured-my-severe-pe-month-comprehensive-guide.html

Here is the quote that may help:

4- This is the MOST IMPORTANT step! I had tried every method to cure my PE to no avail, nothing worked until i started doing penis stretches.

What you need to do is penis stretches. While flaccid form an O with your thumb and index finger and with your pinky facing away from you, grab your penis just under the head. Pull away from your body (You may notice that you already involuntary kegal) If you don't automatically kegal, do one and you will see by doing that your penis is pulled closer to your body. So by pulling away you are stretching your PC muscle.

Pull away from your body at all angles.

Forwards, Up, Down.
Left Down, Left Forward, Left Up
Right Down, Right Forward, Right Up

Hold each stretch for 30 seconds.

Do this Every Night.

Over time you will notice that when stretching you will no longer involuntary Kegal and over time you will notice less resistance when performing this stretch.

Hope it helps
 

JOEJOE90

Member
Gabe Deem said:
Hey JOEJOE90,

First off I want to say thank you so much man, for taking the time to come back and share your insight and experience with the reboot community. It really is SO helpful to guys struggling to get a fresh dose of motivation and maybe some new perspective. To not only be better prepared and educated, but to know they are not alone. So thank you so much. I'm also very glad to hear some of my videos were of some help. Thanks for the feedback it keeps me motivated to keep helping.

answer his question about anxiety returning after seeing "suggestive images on Facebook.": I have two thoughts.

  • Seeing the sexual pixels/pictures reactivated addiction/conditioned pathways in his reward circuit, triggering several possible physical things which may include increased stress hormones.
  • Over thinking things and subconsciously thinking that seeing those pics would set him back, thus leading to increase in anxiety and stress. This would simply be an example of "over thinking things."

Of course I can't be sure, and everyone is different. Thanks for sticking around to answer questions too, you're awesome bro! We greatly appreciate it and hope for continued improvement and success for you. Much Love


Hi Gabe,

Thank you so much for the response and the kind words, really appreciate you taking the time to get back to me on my query.
I 100% agree with your answer regarding the anxiety returning. That makes a lot of sense and explains why the feeling subsided after hanging out with my girlfriend after a period of time etc. Obviously, spending time with her weakened the PMO pathways again and reinforced the new pathways for the real deal again. I can almost imagine the two pathways fighting each other in my head for control haha but it feels as if the old PMO pathway doesn't stand much of a chance anymore as the new healthy neural pathway i have reinforced for the real deal is much stronger now, even though the PMO pathway can still put up a small fight here and there if I mess with fire. I guess you just have to be a little careful for the first year or two or for however long. Scientifically, It's a fascinating and very intriguing topic, well once you get over the withdrawals and all haha.

Also, no sweat if you don't get around to it buddy, but when did you start adding TV, internet and radio etc. back into your daily life. I remember in one of your early youtube videos, you said you cut out everything while rebooting except occasions like watching football with friends. etc. I'm just curious because sometimes I think I over think what I see and do if you know what I mean?.since I had that minor anxiety scare a few months back. Anyway, just interested man. Thanks

Once again, without sounding like a broken record, thank you so much again Gabe.. Your YouVideos, posts, reboot nation, speaking to the community to increase awareness of the issue etc. is literally saving lives and helping people recover and live the best life possible. And to know you are not alone and that people are in the same boat and healing themselves from PMO and living happy lives is everything here to this community I feel anyway. Man, THANK YOU!

Also, not a problem buddy?..I'm always happy to stick around and answer questions where I can to give back to fellow rebooters. From my experience, I know taking a few minutes out your day to write a few posts can make all the difference to someone's life who is in struggle town with withdrawals etc. Did for me anyway :) Positivity works wonders I found.

Thank Gabe, Keep doing what ya doing! You are awesome man!

Thanks,
JOEJOE90
 

JOEJOE90

Member
Calesson said:
Hi Joejoe! You remind me of Jojo's adventures ^^

So, I registered only to ask you questions. That shows how much I'm motivated to talk to you :p

I didn't read all the replies but I guess they are all PIED related but what I am interested in is the little part where you say that you are not shy. When you say you have no social anxiety anymore.
I have social anxiety like you had and that's basically why I'm doing nofap.

So I wanted to ask you if your social anxiety was severe? What caused you social anxiety?
When did it become obvious that your social anxiety has lessen?
And as weird as it seems, if you went on the internet or played video games? If yes how much :p

Sorry for my boring questions, I don't know how to make it more appealing ^^
I really hope you'll answer, cheeeeeeeeerz!

Hi Calesson,

Thank you for registering and for the question. Not a boring question at all. The more people on here asking and answering questions, the better! I believe it is all relative and no question goes to waste. I'm sure other people like us on here have a little social anxiety as well, so no doubt they will be interested in this as well. It's important to remember a lot of people are still not comfortable telling loved ones and family about their PMO addiction, so this is more or less a family for a lot of rebooters on here. We all have each others back. We are all going through the same thing just like a lot of people out there who are yet to discover reboot nation and YBOP. Nice one man.

To answer your question, I use to get social anxiety around strangers or a lot of people where I felt everyone was watching and judging me, even though I knew that wasn't the case haha. This use to frustrate me as it would make me feel and look a little clumsy sometimes and be at a loss for works i.e wasn't cleared headed in my thoughts or able to make eye contact well etc. Hard to explain but I definitely didn't feel myself at times around a large crowd?..and it was unpredictable when it would come on at times.

Around a few months into my reboot, I noticed i longer felt awkward around people and could walk throughout the shops or city without feeling uncomfortable, clumsy or unable to make eye contact with passing strangers etc. I was a totally different feeling, felt like a new and improved me and this continued to get better and better over the year. I can now approach and talk to woman or hold presentations without any of my old social anxiety traits. A great feeling indeed. Everyone is different but I think PMO definitely brought this social anxiety on and adds up with a lot of other stories I've read on here and on YBOP. Everyone is different and I have had bloods tests etc. and know nothing is wrong with me, so I do believe this was PMO related.. Could be a little of a placebo effect but the changes feel very real to me. Just my thoughts though.

Also, I was never a hermit, I always loved people and loved socialising with friends and family, so I never saw myself as a shy person but assumed I must be as I would get social anxiety even though I knew I had nothing to worry about?.weird right?

Anyway hoped this helped a bit?..and I played a lot of video games throughout high school and as a kid but stopped about 5 years ago due to lack of time really. Still played games with friends on the weekend here and there though. As for the internet, I spend way too much time on it man, even today I'm still on it a fair bit but it is the world we live in unfortunately. At moment, I'm just trying to use internet for work and other important things in life?Not games, social media or Youtube haha. Why you ask? because I want to LIVE! haha and because I'm more interested in real life interaction now i.e gym, social basketball, hanging out with friends and family. Moderation is key though I feel.

All the best buddy with your journey, let me know how you go :)

thanks,
Jojo's Adventures ;p
 

JOEJOE90

Member
Never_give_up said:
JOEJOE90 said:
My main problem now is still premature ejaculation, my erections are the hardest they have ever been?like super hard but I can hardly last 2 mins in the sack at times which is quite frustrating. I am hoping it will sort it self out though as I continue to heal. Still my girlfriend is losing a little bit of patience with it and so am I, so any advice would be much appreciated.

Hi JOEJOE90:

I found something on another forum hope this helps your PE situation. The original link is: https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/66866-how-i-cured-my-severe-pe-month-comprehensive-guide.html

Here is the quote that may help:

4- This is the MOST IMPORTANT step! I had tried every method to cure my PE to no avail, nothing worked until i started doing penis stretches.

What you need to do is penis stretches. While flaccid form an O with your thumb and index finger and with your pinky facing away from you, grab your penis just under the head. Pull away from your body (You may notice that you already involuntary kegal) If you don't automatically kegal, do one and you will see by doing that your penis is pulled closer to your body. So by pulling away you are stretching your PC muscle.

Pull away from your body at all angles.

Forwards, Up, Down.
Left Down, Left Forward, Left Up
Right Down, Right Forward, Right Up

Hold each stretch for 30 seconds.

Do this Every Night.

Over time you will notice that when stretching you will no longer involuntary Kegal and over time you will notice less resistance when performing this stretch.

Hope it helps

Thank you so much Never_Give_Up.

I will definitely look into it and give it a go. I haven't been too proactive with my pre-mature ejaculation because I was a believer that it would subside just like my semen leakage in time but appears to be quite persistent. I feel either I'm not use to the new sensitivity or years of bad practice and bad PMO habits have caught up with me once again haha Definitely understanding the importance of your PC muscle now though with ejaculation control. Sounds like it's half your nervous system (PMO induced) and other half balancing you PC muscles so you don't do involuntary kegals throughout the day and during sex which I notice I do now haha

Thanks for the advice buddy, I'll let you know how I go over the next few months as I imagine other people are experiencing this and will experience this in the future as well. I believe it is curable just like PMO addiction though.

Thanks man
 

kopp

Active Member
wow I thought the reboot process took 90-120 days... I didn't know it could last for 15 months...

I'm really happy for you but also worried for me... I can't picture myself not having any kind of sex for 15 months :s
And of course after 15 months you have PE... it seems normal to me

I'm afraid guys :/
 

JOEJOE90

Member
kopp said:
wow I thought the reboot process took 90-120 days... I didn't know it could last for 15 months...

I'm really happy for you but also worried for me... I can't picture myself not having any kind of sex for 15 months :s
And of course after 15 months you have PE... it seems normal to me

I'm afraid guys :/

Hi KOPP,

Nothing to worry about buddy, you will be fine. Perhaps I didn't make myself clear enough here.

I meant I've been on this joinery for 15 months and continue to notice improvement with my mind and body. I noticed small improvements from the get go but also a lot of withdrawal effects as well but are often a part of the process. I was almost identical to Gabe in my recovery in terms of when I got my morning woody and sexual functions fully back etc. 3 months, I was noticing a lot of improvement and by the 6 month period, I was in a much better place but had to be very careful with orgasms and was still having non linear days but I could see the improvement and that's what mattered most to me. By month 9, I was rocking an rolling like Gabe but still was noticing improvements for months afterwards with refractory period, brain fog and other minor things.

My longest reboot was 4 weeks by the way but I did several of them.  I recommend Gabe's advice by abstaining for a period time if you can?.If not, don't fret about it?just stay away from PMO and fantasy etc?.This is your own experiment and you will soon learn what works best for you just like Gabe, myself and every other rebooter who has recovered.  Rewiring is a big part of it as well i feel?.Don't hide away and count the days?That does no good for your mind, body and soul. Live your life, socialise, exercise and flirt with girls etc. and refrain from PMO at all costs. Those cravings with eventually subside, trust me :)

Soon you body will catch up with your new direction and you will have a new outlook on life and be better than ever. Don't over think it. Just know this is a journey that will set you free and help you deal better with life's hang ups. Put it this way, my life is in perspective now?I'm just happy to just be alive and make the most of my day with the people I care about most etc?.I know longer dwell on little things anymore. I have motivation and want to achieve in life but no longer get as caught up in life's little hang ups that really don't matter in the long run etc. if that makes any sense.

Be strong, never be discouraged (you will heal and reverse brain changes induced by PMO - My honest belief) , accept PMO is gone forever, be active of Reboot nation for support, Rewire! Rewire! Rewire!, seek love, not lust (I recommend a loving partner who understands you, you will find her if you haven't but don't force it or anything - it will happen when it happens just make sure you put yourself out there a little like I eventually did!) and get out their and live and this will soon be a thing of the past before you know it?..just acknowledge you may have to deal with a little hell before you get to the light on the other side of the tunnel (we've all been there buddy and made it out). Trust me, I feel I was a worse case scenario in a way and I made it out just fine and it was all worth it as crazy as that sounds!

Despite what I've been through,I can't believe it's been 15 months since I've started this joinery. It's touched me so much that I want to help as many people I can with this unforeseeable addiction. How the hell were we meant to know hey! haha but no use feeling sorry for ourselves?.We owe it to the next generation to better inform them or else they are really up shit creek. Gabe, Gary and the other guys have done a wonderful job at this thus far.

Lastly, withdrawals can be horrible for some people like myself, so please understand it's just your ways body of correcting itself and take pride in withdrawal as it means you are healing yourself and doing something right?no pain, no gain right!. A small price to pay in the scheme of things to get to the other side (I know it's hard to see it that way sometimes but you just have to man) . Oh and don't over think it too much, it's not the end of the world?.This is reversible and will pass in time like every other problem you have gone through. Just be strong, persist with it and remain consistent and you will see results sooner or later. Anyway, hope this helps a little.

As I said before, Gabe's the man my friend. His posts on here, radio interviews, Youtube videos put everything into perspective for me and made me realise I can heal too and I can do it in a positive way without feeling sorry for myself. My only regret is not posting sooner on here but hey better later than never right!

I wish all the best for you, you can do it :) Only my opinion but don't over complicate the process man. Keep it simple: Reboot (don't fret too much about 90 days or whatever, just keep away from PMO and anything related to it and try to take a little time out from O when you can, everyone is different. If you relapse, don't beat yourself up?.Just keep heading in the right direction and you will get there. Always rewire, be positive and persist for as longs it takes just like Gabe and myself did. You got to want the change man and listen to your body?it's constantly guiding you and telling you things?.I found yoga helped with this. Ashtanga is physical yoga and a lot of dudes do it now and besides, you might even meet some woman there anyway.

All the best buddy!
 

Gambit123

Active Member
Joejoe congrats! You are an inspiration and im so happy for you!

Out of curiosity, when did you start having sex and oing w your partner? How many os did you have w your partner during the reboot?

Im older than you , 32, but had about 10 yrs pmo under my belt so i am a longer rebooter too. Im almost 9 months hardmode inand have made a lot of progress both mentally and erection wise but im not 100 percent yet. Im likely going to start having sex soon ( fairly confident ill be successful although im not fully cured yet). Any advice?
 
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