What's up Colb24,
I am glad you found us, and just know there have been many that have walked down the reboot path before you including me. You are not alone!
So I haven't been watching porn for about 10 days now? I have been beating it a lot. But I didn't last night so there's a start. Whenever I did I made sure I only thought about my girlfriend.
So you are able to get an erection and masturbate without porn right? If so that is a good sign that you are not as deep as others. Some guys need months before they can even get an erection to touch alone, it took me 15 months.
Now, it is not mandatory to give up masturbation during a reboot. However, it is HIGHLY suggested for guys with porn-induced ED, as it seems to speed up the reboot process and you may need a complete break from orgasm to regain sensitivity in your brains reward circuit. It is up to you though. My advice is go as long as you can without masturbating also.
Also, we do not know how thinking about a real person effects your reboot, so I can not say for sure if that is a good idea or not. But in my opinion I would avoid all fantasy during your reboot and have a mindset of "if it ain't real no deal".
I was just hoping for a little insight into how long it's going to take.
There is no way to answer this, as everyone's brain is different. I would prepare for the long haul just incase. It tends to take younger guys who started on high-speed porn during adolescence a few months to reboot. However, with that said you seem to be able to already get it up to fantasy so you may not need that long.
Can you get it up to JUST soft touch alone, WITHOUT thinking about anything? If you can, your ED maybe more anxiety related.
I'm going to be very patient with this because I want her more than anything.
Great attitude and mindset, just stay away from porn because it will never satisfy you.... and you know this.
Much love and welcome to Reboot Nation!