feeding the right wolf

treetop

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i managed 5 days again before i relapsed, so im starting again...

im off sick for a month, not sleeping was driving me mad and i couldn't cope with the feeling like crap all the time, the anxiety, the lack of energy, depression etc,etc.

and in this time i need to sort out many things especially to do with my mental and physical health as im not sleeping and my sleeping pattern is all messed up and one of my goals is to become a better sleeper and to be able to sleep at the right times...

iv also quit caffeine i was drinking upto 2 to 3 cups of tea a day mainly in the morning and one thing iv noticed is although its been a week the feeling of anxiety in my tongue and my throat has definitely gone down and im almost in tears to be relieved of that feeling as it was bothering me for years :)  iv also got through the headache stage :)

caffeine is no good for anyone suffering from sleep deprivation (insomnia) and anxiety and depression.

i don't take any medication or antidepressants anymore.

Areas i want to improve on in my life....

to quit porn of all kinds, photos, videos, weather on youtube, or in my imagination, im no gentleman if im using pmo as a means of escape, i want to look back and be proud of myself knowing i made the right choice feeling cleaner inside because of it :)

to strengthen my relationship with my 7 year old daughter who i see mainly see at weekends.. it saddened me the other day when i took her back to her mums and she just walked off up the stairs without even saying goodbye and hugging me, i had to say hey! where's my goodbye hug... (its hard for me to stay positive when i m thinking about the situation im in with my daughter as she has her mother and stepfather to look after her in the week but when she's with me she's on her own unless we are at my mum and dads on a sunday.

meditation, iv been trying this for a few months now, not every day but it definitely works if your struggling with negative thoughts that can make you anxious and frustrated and feel angry,

i also play destiny quite a bit on the playstation 4 but im not sure if computer games are gonna help me to quit porn as i read that your dopamine levels are increased while playing and iv noticed that i get triggered during or sometime after a gaming sesh on destiny or any game i play.

thing is i don't want to cut gaming out altogether because i do enjoy playing destiny with friends online even if its just for a few hours a day, (any one with any advice on gaming let me know your thoughts on this)

to exercise more, hopefully that will have a knock-on effect and il sleep better because right now my sleeping pattern is not where i want it to be i need to be going to bed earlier and waking up earlier.

any help is appreciated guys.

keep up the good work  :)



























 

treetop

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so far so good,

im feeling better in my recovery from anxiety, insomnia, and depression, meditation is helping me a lot just sitting with my legs crossed and my back straight taking in some deep breaths while I have a guided meditation running, helps me to relax and calm myself..

iv not made it past 10 days for a long time I slip up somewhere along the line but I have a trigger sheet I have wrote out yesterday so If I do get triggered and find myself being minupilated and pushing for that p button im gonna grab and read this list of reasons to remind myself why I should not, Im probably going to be doing this a hell of a lot and struggling with urges so iv goto find other things to do to take my mind off it.

anyway im gonna try n stay positive and make the right choice when the time comes...



 

treetop

Active Member
still going,
i am tempted and my feelings are pulling me toward pmo, yes im single, lonely, and had a lovely dream about a girl last night but im not going to give in that easily.

i have a list of reason why i should not act out and those are very close to me today.
 

treetop

Active Member
Next time if I can't sleep and  I'm thinking about relapsing I'm gonna get on here and write down my feelings...

so far today iv played football with my daughter on the park and been for a walk... make that 2 walks and I been shopping, bought some kiwis for better sleep, iv had a few hours of sun today so hopefully will be sleeping better tonight and il be more prepared when withdrawls hit.

im not giving up, this time im gonna make it, I feel more dertermined now iv watched a video on withdrawls so I know what to expect... il be posting my progress in here im gonna do it this time I don't care if im dragging my heels, depressed or lonely or whatever, il find a way around it somehow, but for now its 90 days... any trials and tribulations il be posting on here.. any benefits il be posting on here....

 

treetop

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was stuck in traffic for over two hours today as marathon was running in the city where I live.

yes there were plenty of triggers about today, I saw a lot of very good looking girls but coming home n jacking off about it is not going to get me a girlfriend...

yes im tempted too but im not going to... iv been down that road too many time and I know where it leads....  that's why im on here and journaling about it im going to stay clean nomatter what the price because I know I will get through the difficulties and become a better person...

and on the side I v got toothache owwww !!!! (dentist for me tomorrow)

ibs and pains in my tongue which is rather annoying...

anyway here to a fap free weekend  :)
 

treetop

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I'm still going.. not done much today played a lot on destiny..

Had a tooth pulled a the dentist so been resting up taking ibuprofen for the pain.. I seem to be sleeping better but my pattern is still off I wanna be going to bed earlyer and getting up earlyer...

Anyway another fap free day I hope this will Continue I know I must stay logical and not fall back into a bad habit of pmo or mo
 

treetop

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Still going.

Feel like iv got no energy tho and just can't be bothered to do anything
I think withdrawal has hit me.. 
 

treetop

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I'm not sure if it's the toothache or of its no fap withdrawal but I feel drained of energy. Is this no fap withdrawal? It feels like it is. I have less motivation as well even tho I'm sleeping better... I can't even be bothered to go out for a walk and that's what I usually do I feel iv got to push myself to do it.
I hope this will pass I'm not gonna fap I'm gonna press on through....
 

treetop

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withdrawls have hit, iv no energy or motivation, iv had to resist this morning wanting to fap to vids on youtube, im glad I got through it without fapping and im now looking to keep clean and push through this low energy state.

im determined too make it this time, I want to quit for good and leave this addiction in the past, im not just talking about porn.. im talking about fapping with or without porn, I don't care if im pulling my hair out I know that if I don't fap il be a better person, Il feel cleaner, more motivated, I want to see whats on the other side, I want to know what it feels like to be clean and have the motivation and consistency to get on with my life.

heres to no fap and whatever comes my way on my recovery, il be sure to be prepared but for now im trying hard to keep up the good work and get through this terrible withdrawal of low mood and energy....

im still struggling with urgers being on my pc is a big risk as I know im only a few clicks away from images, to be honest im getting pissed off with myself and now when I get an urge to goto youtube or @:*"~~### website I just pull myself away from the pc and sort myself out.
I allways thank myself later for not fapping thinking to myself the urgers have gone and I feel ok now (the urgers will pass my friends just keep buisy and don't give in and pust that button)
(YOU ARE THE ONE IN CONTROL)

I don't take my phone in the bedroom with me anymore because I know if its there I can access youtube conveniently (the nights when I cant sleep I would be thinking about going on youtube)

I use the bedroom for sleep only and anything else other than sleep can be done in another room.

and my tooth extraction area is stil quite sore and im still in pain after 7 days  :-/
 

treetop

Active Member
6 days and clean  :)

Although I feel low, sad, lonely, almost in tears, it's really tough today as I keep digging up the past when I know I should be leaving it alone ?

Yes I'm confused, I'm kinda lonely, headache, negative thoughts...

It's probably withdrawal symptoms and it wouldn't suprise me if it was but today is tough, I'm feeling sadder than normal, keep tearing up...brain fog, it's all there I just hope all this will pass...

paid a visit to my sister this afternoon and caught up on things, we watched a movie and she made me me some dinner. she has to go for a biopsy this Thursday so I hope its nothing bad.
 

wozzy

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Hi treetop,
You might wanna watch this video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU (The great porn experiment)
 
Set up porn and website blockers, and have a hard and fast rule with yourself not to violate them; that's always my recommendation. I uninstalled instagram, twitter, blocked youtube, facebook, google image + video search, netflix, etc.... all the type of stuff where I could find myself entertaining triggers.
 

treetop

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thanks for your support guys, it means a lot to me to be able to help eachother on these forums so thankyou  :)

iv set up k9 blocker on my pc just incase as I know how easy it is to access stuff on there

it was some vids on youtube on my phone that led to relapse... I already have adult content restricted by my network but youtube still has vids I can access on there.

anyway im trying to stay positive, hopefully il make it further this time...

 

treetop

Active Member
Iv uninstalled it m8 so won't be using it anymore.

So far so good

Still going iv ordered a body blade to work out with at home (hoping things will get better soon because I'm on a low right now.

I still want to quit. I'm not giving up. And hopefully things will get better but for now it's all a bit of a mess but I'm gonna hold tight and see if I can break my 5 week streak I had back in 2013


 

treetop

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thanks m8 (me too)  ;)


iv decided to start on a course of ssri's ( sertraline) hopefully this will help with my mood and give me a better chance of making a reboot as some of the side effects are ones that affect libido and make it difficult to achieve orgasm.

iv taken a similar ssri before so I know what to expect.

hopefully il be more motivated and in a much better mood and il be better prepared to tackle a full reboot.

for now its early days for me but il stay on here and post my progress daily if I can.





 
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