**The Basics Of Rebooting**

Roybot

New Member
So Im a 35 old guy who on recently starting a new relationship have had performance problems the two time we met. I think at first this was due to having been desensitised by porn but has now become something more. Im now not able to achieve erection even on my own with porn. The last time I did was using 50mg of viagra which did allow me to climax twice but with it there isnt even a twith in my dick.    Will a reboot still help me

Thanks
 

jks

New Member
I'm a 44 year old straight male. I was molested at age 14 and led into a cultish relationship that lasted for many years. During those decades, my sexual refuge was porn. After My molester died, I began seeking sex and/or relationship with women. But my first encounters were frighteningly limp. I could get rock hard and cum multiple times a day looking at porn (my favorite was women masturbating and lesbian/group female orgy or mssturbation), but was sadly impotent with a real woman.
Seeking answers, I discovered nofap and yourbrainonporn. Not long after that, I met a girl through match.com and we hit it off.the first time we tried to have sex, I was hard when we were.making out on the couch, but when it was time to get naked and do it, I became terrified and shriveled up to tiny proportions. I told her I was nervous because it had been a while. I didn't tell her I was a virgin. She was very patient and supportive. Later we made out again on the couch, and this time I pulled my hard dick and masturbated to orgasm while French kissing her.
For a few weeks, that was the only way I could orgasm with her. Then after a while I had succes with her giving me a hand job. Then a few weeks later, blow jobs were successful. About 3 months in, I finally lost my virginity to her.
It wasn't smooth sailing after that, though. We would have major setbacks when I would relapse. Couldn't do it, and/or I would look at porn again. It was very stressful for both of us, she felt like I didn't find her attractive, or I was,seeing someone else. Finally I confessed about my prior virginity, which actually was a huge relief for her. A few months after that , I told her about the molestation, which she had suspected all along. After those breakthroughs, and couples therapy, our sex life is 1000% better than a year ago.
What worked for me:
- Avoiding masturbating
- having a supportive and understanding (and horny) girlfriend
- being open and honest with her, telling her about my crippling insecurities and past trauma
- Cycling weekly between Korean red panax ginseng and horny goat weed
- Avoiding porn, though sometimes it seems like it can kick start my sex drive if used few and far between. Sustained porn use is definitely bad.

I.still have a problem with touching my dick constantly. I feel like if I can control or eliminate that, then my sexual powers would improve even more than they already have. I also still relapse I to porn occasionally, but I don't orgasm alone.
 

vak88

Member
Do you have any more information about "some guys made need to orgasm in order to "jump-start" their brain? I feel like that's me, but some times I've tried to "jump start" my brain as you put it, but it through me back into flatline. It's very difficult to know when to try to jump-start if at all.

So if you have any more info or general guidance, I would greatly appreciate =)
 

Wallet65

New Member
Hello everybody. I would like to share my problem with you. I know that most of you have the same thing and I hope all of us will be rebooted soon. However, I'm 18. I study in university and uni live is all about having sex, hangout with the girls and etc. But now I'm really scared of the fact that I can skip all of this because I have started to masturbate from the age of 14. For all this time I was hunting for porn with dirtier content and after few fails with my sexual partner I feel so bad. What if my mind have been programmed in that way and I won't be able to change it? And the problem is that all members of this forum is the only people I can trust at the moment, because I'm not quite sure how my friends will react on that. If somebody knows what time it usually takes to reboot or any ways I can speed up the rebooting I will be happy to read your comments.

Thank you for the creators of this web page for giving me such an opportunity to share this problem with others without being judged. 
 
Tomorrow (1/23/19) marks my first 30 days with no porn watching. I had sex with a real female on 1/20/19 and it kinda got up but when i was trying to have sex with it started to go limp and did some more forplay and it kinda got up again but when i stick it in it started to go limp again. I had her jerk me and i got hard and almost climax so i stop her and tried to stick it in again and no effect so im asking am i starting to make some progress on this addiction? What are some advice i can get i would really appericate it. I was addicted for 14 years and 2019 is going strong so far to beat this addiction. Do i just not need to orgasm at all or can i continue to have sex with a real person or no sex at all?
 
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14square

Guest
Thanks for providing the information. In our society even talking about PMO and its side effects is kind of forbidden. There is nodoby to talk about this addiction. But once I said about PMO to a person., but he said its the hormone thats responsible,, find something to do other than PMO. Thats an advise. but at my stage of addiction the advice was inadequate. This time I am committed to recovery process. read, learn many things from different sources. 
 

Fman

New Member
Hey guys, how are you? I'm a 19 years old brazilian guy. Sorry if I make mistakes in english, I'm improving it the best I can! So a year ago I started to have problems with ED, when it starts I thought I'd low testoterone and sometimes that I was turning homossexual (what isn't a problem but I really like womens). I was watching porn and masturbating like crazy but I didn't know about the effects of it in the brain... Three weeks ago I read YBOP and recognize that porn was my problem so I totally cut it of my life. I still masturbating but without porn and porn thoughts, just thinking about my lasts real sex experiences, but the question is: should I stop masturbating too?
If anyone can helps my I appreciate a lot!
 

Jacob30

New Member
Hello everyone. I am aged 30, height 5 ft 11 inches. I cannot use my real name as this is a sensitive topic. I have been watching porn and masturbation for almost a very large portion of my life. My morning wood has disappeared, and my erections are very few. I came across this website while looking up material for help on youtube. I have completed stopped watching pornography, quit smoking and masturbation. Do I need professional medical advise? I believe most doctors say that masturbation is not harmful however I do not believe in this as I have personally experienced harm from the side effects. How many months will it take me to recover? Please advise. For reference my mail is bhagat325 at gmail. Many thanks in advance.
 

Dragont92

New Member
Tengo 29 a?os y hoy le? todo esto que escriben y creo que me esta pasando hace un par de meses intente estar con una chica y no pude , pero cuando vi pornograf?a , me dieron ganas y pude estar con ella me empec? a preocupar , pero no pense pens? que fuese grave , ahora leo esto y es lo mismito que me esta pasando , creo que es una se?al de Dios que encontrar? esta p?gina espero poder salir de esto .
 

Cmax

Active Member
The Basics Of Rebooting

If addiction-related brain changes or sexual conditioning are underlying your symptoms, you need to reverse the process by giving your brain a well deserved time-out. Rebooting is our term for recovering from porn addiction and associated symptoms, including erectile dysfunction. We call it rebooting so you can envision restoring your brain to its original factory settings. Obviously, you cannot go back in time to restore point, or erase all the data as you would when you wipe clean a computer?s hard drive. However, you can heal many of the brain changes that lead to your porn addiction. (See: Does porn addiction cause irreversible damage to the brain?)

The quickest way to reboot is to give your brain a rest from artificial sexual stimulation?porn, porn fantasy, erotica, and for some - masturbation and orgasm. Most guys eliminate or drastically reduce orgasms during their reboot period. On the other hand, sensual contact with a real person can be beneficial, as long as you don't fantasize about porn. In fact, some guys engage in gentle intercourse, in which they avoid getting close to the edge or orgasming.

If porn use is the cause of your symptoms, you may wonder why it helps to eliminate masturbation and orgasm during the temporary rebooting period. The short answer is -"that's how most guys have done it." All suggestions for rebooting come from men who have successfully rebooted. Nearly all discovered that mixing in masturbation or orgasms slows, or in some cases, entirely derails, the rebooting process, especially if you have porn-induced ED.

To our surprise, very few men successfully recover from porn-induced ED while continuing a regular masturbation/orgasm schedule (see - Porn & ED). The few who continue to have orgasms, and successfully recover from porn-induced ED, are men who didn't start early on Internet porn. Most are in their late 30's to early 50's, and have a significant other. This doesn't mean that you will never recover if you continue to masturbate, orgasm or relapse into porn. In fact, most guys sometimes "relapse" back into porn use during their reboot.

It's very confusing at first because the process is nonlinear, and each brain recovers differently. Some people have intermittent cravings and flatline periods. Some have their worst cravings in the first two weeks. Some feel good for a short time and then go into a more challenging period. Some feel horribly anxious. Some feel *less* anxious overall, but also have sluggish libido for weeks. Others don't find out their libido was recovered until they get with a real partner after several months.

Again: Some guys with ED can get away with orgasms, although they drastically reduce the frequency. Those men are almost always older men who did not start with Internet porn. They wired their sexuality to the real deal before diving into the Internet. Most have a significant other in the picture.

"To masturbate, or not to masturbate, that is the question"

As stated, we have only two "rules': 1) Stop using artificial sexual stimuli, and 2) Do what works for you. Many guys have discovered it is helpful to eliminate or drastically reduce masturbation/orgasm during a reboot. Possible reasons to drastically reduce or eliminate masturbation during a reboot:

1. If you have porn-induced ED, your brain is saying: "I can't do this anymore". Understand that your urge to masturbate is not true libido - you are addicted to porn, or your sexuality is conditioned to pixels. If you need porn to masturbate, or have a partially erect penis when you do, you are not horny or in need of "release". You are addicted and seeking a fix: a temporary dopamine high.

2.The majority of men with porn-induced ED need to drastically reduce masturbation and orgasm. When you have a pathology, you usually need to do more than just eliminate the cause - in this case porn use. You don't generally break a leg by putting weight on it. However, once it's broken you have to cast it, use crutches and eliminate walking while you heal. Same goes for porn-induced ED. You don't have to wear a cast, but you need to give your brain time to heal, free of intense sexual stimulation.

Masturbation and porn use are tightly wired together. Like Pavlov's dog that salivated when it heard the bell, you will start drooling for porn when masturbating. Time is needed to weaken the neural connections intertwining wanking and watching.

Recovery may be easier without masturbation/orgasm. Remove masturbation/orgasm from the equation and most guys experience a sharp decline in sexual desire, we call the flatline. (See: "HELP! I quit porn, but my potency, genital size, and libido are decreasing")

When you also eliminate orgasm/masturbation, not just porn, it seems to precipitate a more complete and deeper withdrawal, and thus healing.

Masturbation and orgasm strongly reactivate cravings to use porn. It has been surprising to witness that most men have an easier time eliminating masturbation than they do porn. For most guys with porn addiction, masturbation is simply not that interesting without porn, and they are amazed to discover that porn, not their libido, was driving their constant search for relief.

Caveat: All the above is based on the current feedback given to us by successful rebooters. It is subject to change.

Caveat 2: Some guys with porn-induced ED need to orgasm in order to jump-start their brains after a reboot or extended flatline
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Perfect post! I also gave up looking at sexy pictures of female athletes or anything that triggers a sexual urge or thought.....when I had sex after rebooting for 45 days my mind was with my wife not a porn situation! I know I have a ways to go but it's worth it!
 

Cmax

Active Member
Hello everyone. I am aged 30, height 5 ft 11 inches. I cannot use my real name as this is a sensitive topic. I have been watching porn and masturbation for almost a very large portion of my life. My morning wood has disappeared, and my erections are very few. I came across this website while looking up material for help on youtube. I have completed stopped watching pornography, quit smoking and masturbation. Do I need professional medical advise? I believe most doctors say that masturbation is not harmful however I do not believe in this as I have personally experienced harm from the side effects. How many months will it take me to recover? Please advise. For reference my mail is bhagat325 at gmail. Many thanks in advance.
Read the book your brain on porn and follow the suggestions on rebooting! I've had great results in 45 days but still have a long way to go! Be patient!
 
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