Trying to change course

[The Dude Wannabe]

Although I suffered a setback this week, I did notice something today.  I was in a meeting that included a young lady.  She is quite attractive and French.  (both nice attributes...)  I realized during the meeting that I was having NO problem keeping from glancing down her low cut blouse.  It didn't take any effort.  My eyes stayed above the neckline and my mind stayed out of the gutter.
    Small victory.  Nice girl.  Decent meeting.

 

[LTE]

Although I suffered a setback this week, I did notice something today.  I was in a meeting that included a young lady.  She is quite attractive and French.  (both nice attributes...)  I realized during the meeting that I was having NO problem keeping from glancing down her low cut blouse.  It didn't take any effort.  My eyes stayed above the neckline and my mind stayed out of the gutter.
    Small victory.  Nice girl.  Decent meeting.

Good going.

 

[Viper]

Although I suffered a setback this week, I did notice something today.  I was in a meeting that included a young lady.  She is quite attractive and French.  (both nice attributes...)  I realized during the meeting that I was having NO problem keeping from glancing down her low cut blouse.  It didn't take any effort.  My eyes stayed above the neckline and my mind stayed out of the gutter.
    Small victory.  Nice girl.  Decent meeting.

Trying to ignore those visuals is all part of the process. You did good.
Of course, it is much easier said than done.

 

[The Dude Wannabe]

Last few days have been pretty easy for me.  I blew my back out again so I'm laying flat on my back in a semi-haze due to muscle relaxers!   Not the best way to resent, and not one I'd recommend, but it is definitely effective.
    No major thoughts.  No slip ups.  I am currently as close to being like "The Dude" (from the Big Lebowski) as I'll ever be: I'm just abiding.....
Hang in there folks!  I'm still drawing strength from reading everyone's posts.

 

[LTE]

Abide in freedom my friend.

 

[The Dude Wannabe]

I'm still kickin'.  Not much happening.  Things are going good I guess.  Things didn't "work" so well with the wife last night.  No telling why: long week, too late at night, the moon was blue...I don't know why.  That wasn't cool.  Of course she's OK with it, but my ego is hurt and all those fears live in the back of my head.
    I'm going to just chill and let it go.  I'm sure I'll get another chance and I hope it will work out next time.

 

[LTE]

I'm still kickin'.  Not much happening.  Things are going good I guess.  Things didn't "work" so well with the wife last night.  No telling why: long week, too late at night, the moon was blue...I don't know why.  That wasn't cool.  Of course she's OK with it, but my ego is hurt and all those fears live in the back of my head.
    I'm going to just chill and let it go.  I'm sure I'll get another chance and I hope it will work out next time.

Keep in mind, sex is a natural ability that almost all men are able to participate in easily. Once you are truly done rebooting you will have normal erectile function. Don't worry about it; that only causes problems.

 

[The Dude Wannabe]

Howdy Gents,
    The world continues to turn; I continue to, hopefully, grow and learn.  Not a bad week.  Busy, REALLY busy.  I wouldn't have had the chance to stray even if I'd have wanted to!   But, I haven't wanted to.  Life is pretty good lately.  Sort of slipping back into old patterns with the wife, which historically has been a trigger.  But lately it isn't effecting me in that manner.
    Hope all are doing well.  Spring is finally springing here in my neck of the woods.  The lake is free of ice!  Now I just need some wind and I'll be out there on my little sailboat.  (of course I'll be in a full length wet suit too!)
   

 

[LTE]

Howdy Gents,
    The world continues to turn; I continue to, hopefully, grow and learn.  Not a bad week.  Busy, REALLY busy.  I wouldn't have had the chance to stray even if I'd have wanted to!   But, I haven't wanted to.  Life is pretty good lately.  Sort of slipping back into old patterns with the wife, which historically has been a trigger.  But lately it isn't effecting me in that manner.
    Hope all are doing well.  Spring is finally springing here in my neck of the woods.  The lake is free of ice!  Now I just need some wind and I'll be out there on my little sailboat.  (of course I'll be in a full length wet suit too!)
 

That's good news. A big part of this process is learning to deal with the ups and downs of life without relapsing.

 

[The Dude Wannabe]

Interesting experience last night.  Although it might have not been the best idea I watched "The Wolf of Wall Street".  A few interesting things happened.  1-I found it absolutely un-titillating.  2-I myself bewildered about why it has garnered so many awards. 3-I couldn't help thinking the main character had to have some SERIOUS sexual hang-ups after all that crap he was doing.
    The wife really wanted to see it, so I went along with it.  I was pretty happy that it tripped no triggers, didn't cause any thoughts and actually repelled me more than anything. :-\
    All in all; a pretty good weekend.  My daughter turned 17 and got into college early; I bought a really nice used car (I found the mythical little old man that only drove his car on Sunday and kept it in a garage!); and I get the sailboat out on the lake. 

 

[Jverhoye]

Sounds like an awesome weekend! 

 

[LTE]

Interesting experience last night.  Although it might have not been the best idea I watched "The Wolf of Wall Street".  A few interesting things happened.  1-I found it absolutely un-titillating.  2-I myself bewildered about why it has garnered so many awards. 3-I couldn't help thinking the main character had to have some SERIOUS sexual hang-ups after all that crap he was doing.
    The wife really wanted to see it, so I went along with it.  I was pretty happy that it tripped no triggers, didn't cause any thoughts and actually repelled me more than anything. :-\
    All in all; a pretty good weekend.  My daughter turned 17 and got into college early; I bought a really nice used car (I found the mythical little old man that only drove his car on Sunday and kept it in a garage!); and I get the sailboat out on the lake.

I haven't seen that one but I know that material which used to trigger me no longer does. There are a number of marginal movies out there, things I avoided because I feared being triggered, but, in many cases, the plots did interest me. These days, I find that I prefer to stay away from movies like that. It's ironic, because I don't think that I'd be triggered in any way, but I still avoid them.

 

[The Dude Wannabe]

Still here, still doing well.  Seems the more I don't focus on PMO, the less PMO is an option.  Kind of a Zen / Yoda sort of thing.  I can just imagine him saying in his little Grover/Yoda voice, "Focus not on your wanker and your wanker into focus will become."  (OK, this and many other reasons are why I was never invited to work with Muppets!)
    Today I'm watching life happen and my daughter engage in "age appropriate" behavior.  She has her first boyfriend and this is the first time he has come over for dinner.  I'm not happy and happy about it all at the same time.  I guess it is just nice to see life progress as it should.

 

[fcjl8]

Still here, still doing well.  Seems the more I don't focus on PMO, the less PMO is an option.  Kind of a Zen / Yoda sort of thing.  I can just imagine him saying in his little Grover/Yoda voice, "Focus not on your wanker and your wanker into focus will become."  (OK, this and many other reasons are why I was never invited to work with Muppets!)
    Today I'm watching life happen and my daughter engage in "age appropriate" behavior.  She has her first boyfriend and this is the first time he has come over for dinner.  I'm not happy and happy about it all at the same time.  I guess it is just nice to see life progress as it should.

What a great post Dude! Congrats on 3 weeks strong. You made me realize how thankful I am we have a son!! No congrats on raising a wonderful child!

 

[LTE]

Still here, still doing well.  Seems the more I don't focus on PMO, the less PMO is an option.  Kind of a Zen / Yoda sort of thing.  I can just imagine him saying in his little Grover/Yoda voice, "Focus not on your wanker and your wanker into focus will become."  (OK, this and many other reasons are why I was never invited to work with Muppets!)
    Today I'm watching life happen and my daughter engage in "age appropriate" behavior.  She has her first boyfriend and this is the first time he has come over for dinner.  I'm not happy and happy about it all at the same time.  I guess it is just nice to see life progress as it should.

Focus not on your wanker. Love it!

 

[The Dude Wannabe]

Decent day.  Had a thought flutter by of, "hey, why not find some time and engage in some self stimulation tonight?"  Then just as quickly came the reply of, "screw that, I've got better things to do."  Not much conscious thought needed to put up a fight. 
    Maybe I'm getting somewhere?  (That means I'd better watch out.  Just when I start feeling smug I historically screw up! :)

 

[fcjl8]

Sorry The Dude,

I had meant to write congrats on raising a wonderful child! I don't know how the no got in there.

Congrats on blowing by a thought!

 

[LTE]

Decent day.  Had a thought flutter by of, "hey, why not find some time and engage in some self stimulation tonight?"  Then just as quickly came the reply of, "screw that, I've got better things to do."  Not much conscious thought needed to put up a fight. 
    Maybe I'm getting somewhere?  (That means I'd better watch out.  Just when I start feeling smug I historically screw up! :)

That's pretty much how it works.

 

[The Dude Wannabe]

Whoa babies!  I was having a tough day yesterday.  Bad day at work; memories just kept coming and not letting up; I was feeling lonely and ignored (getting close to finals for the wife who is in a Grad program).  Well this morning all sorts of typical habits were broken.  Seems the wife was wanting some "cuddle time" too.  Needless to say my little engine was firing on all cylinders, everything worked well and now I don't feel so ignored! :
    I think tonight I'll try to talk her into going out to dinner.  Hopefully she is as pleased with life today as I am!

 

[LTE]

Whoa babies!  I was having a tough day yesterday.  Bad day at work; memories just kept coming and not letting up; I was feeling lonely and ignored (getting close to finals for the wife who is in a Grad program).  Well this morning all sorts of typical habits were broken.  Seems the wife was wanting some "cuddle time" too.  Needless to say my little engine was firing on all cylinders, everything worked well and now I don't feel so ignored! :
    I think tonight I'll try to talk her into going out to dinner.  Hopefully she is as pleased with life today as I am!

Well played.