So if you're like me, you've spent countless amounts of effort and time educating yourself,connecting with others trying to recover, watching inspirational vids, etc.- and as helpful as everything else is, it all will always comes down to this- the most powerful bit of advice I could ever tell anyone or myself on this journey is this -
1)ABSOLUTELY NO ONE - NOT THE DEVIL, NOT SOME MYSTICAL HAND, NOTHING , WILL EVER/CAN EVER FORCE YOU TO TOUCH YOUR PENIS. Not even your URGES/CRAVINGS!
If you think about it, this is essentially an offshoot of mindfulness. The idea that we let the urges pass through us, observing them as something external to us- we are NOT our urges.
Yes, the cravings get tough,yes the withdrawals are an absolute PAIN to deal with... but you must shift how you react to these urges
2)Another huge point... NOTHING MEDICALLY IS GOING TO HAPPEN TO YOU FOR DENYING YOUR URGES TO WATCH PORN/FAP
Goes hand in hand with #1 ^
This may seem like a big 'buh-duh..' to so many, but sit there and think about this. Part of the reason we relapse is because the urges become so strong and we almost start going crazy with the dopamine rush, that we deceive ourselves into thinking something simply MUST be done to relieve ourselves, almost as if this is the most healthy thing to do for our bodies lest we hurt ourselves or damage ourselves with just sitting on the flame of lust...well,I am here to tell you today this is BULLSHIT.
PLease, just remind yourselves of this! I call this the 1-2 punch to rebooting! Nothing is going to force me, and no medical complications will ever come of denying the urges.
The great thing is this method actually conserves willpower - instead of jsut having the raw will to just not fap to porn, it's a shift in thought and consciousness and realizing that the urges actually don't have the control over you that you once thought..it's all in our heads ( which tends to be the unifying thread of addicts here- got caught up in isolation in our heads..)
This has been the biggest realization for me and has really been helping me when all else fails during my journey. I'm personally tired of taking the soft route with myself and with other people. Yes this is an addiction/compulsion we face and no it doesn't like to listen to logic and it feels like we're being controlled and have no control... but I've found that when no other advice/reasoning works, the two points i presented do! Maintain personal responsibility!
STAY STRONG !
1)ABSOLUTELY NO ONE - NOT THE DEVIL, NOT SOME MYSTICAL HAND, NOTHING , WILL EVER/CAN EVER FORCE YOU TO TOUCH YOUR PENIS. Not even your URGES/CRAVINGS!
If you think about it, this is essentially an offshoot of mindfulness. The idea that we let the urges pass through us, observing them as something external to us- we are NOT our urges.
Yes, the cravings get tough,yes the withdrawals are an absolute PAIN to deal with... but you must shift how you react to these urges
2)Another huge point... NOTHING MEDICALLY IS GOING TO HAPPEN TO YOU FOR DENYING YOUR URGES TO WATCH PORN/FAP
Goes hand in hand with #1 ^
This may seem like a big 'buh-duh..' to so many, but sit there and think about this. Part of the reason we relapse is because the urges become so strong and we almost start going crazy with the dopamine rush, that we deceive ourselves into thinking something simply MUST be done to relieve ourselves, almost as if this is the most healthy thing to do for our bodies lest we hurt ourselves or damage ourselves with just sitting on the flame of lust...well,I am here to tell you today this is BULLSHIT.
PLease, just remind yourselves of this! I call this the 1-2 punch to rebooting! Nothing is going to force me, and no medical complications will ever come of denying the urges.
The great thing is this method actually conserves willpower - instead of jsut having the raw will to just not fap to porn, it's a shift in thought and consciousness and realizing that the urges actually don't have the control over you that you once thought..it's all in our heads ( which tends to be the unifying thread of addicts here- got caught up in isolation in our heads..)
This has been the biggest realization for me and has really been helping me when all else fails during my journey. I'm personally tired of taking the soft route with myself and with other people. Yes this is an addiction/compulsion we face and no it doesn't like to listen to logic and it feels like we're being controlled and have no control... but I've found that when no other advice/reasoning works, the two points i presented do! Maintain personal responsibility!
STAY STRONG !