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Rainiegirl
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Possibly. I believe my mother is addicted to Facebook. She spends more time on it than she spends on anything else in her life. Try to go a month without it and you will know.
Rainiegirl, it's you again, how nice! I agree with you about FB, the thing I'm afraid of is she's looking for companionship there, nothing sinister or such but rather just companionship, while I am in the same room with her. I hope she still feels we are companions as we've been for 44 years! (we got married right out of high school) we aren't ancient! 
Have a good one and bless you.
Have a good one and bless you.
Rainiegirl
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Just like she has the right to discuss how your addiction might be hurting her, you also have the right to discuss how hers is hurting you. It might be something you two can work on together.
Indeed it is something we will have to work out. But I'm the only one who will talk about such personal things, she is just not prone to being very personal. Oh well, love her anyway, regret the silliness of looking at porn, no excuse other than outright selfishness on my part. We have so much of our lives together, we will struggle thru it, but I hate living like roommates. Whine, whine. Oh well have a nice evening, you going to watch the San Antonio Spurs beat the Miami Heat tonight? Just curious, take care
Bibbity, good morning, thanks for our post. You being an ex FB addict you'd be a good one to ask my questions to for sure. First, why did you get into it so strong, ie: the reason? Secondly was your FB usage your way to avoid talking to your husband and was it in retaliation for his watching porn behind your back? Were you using FB to find companionship, turning a cold shoulder to your husband to express your anger? How did you realize FB had become an addiction? Please give me a wife's perspective, have a good day. Hey the Spurs won last night, but in reality who cares eh?
Bibbity
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It was a total distraction from pain. I was feeling so much pain and would do anything to distract from it. Watch tv, movies, eat crappy foods and go on FB. Mindless entertainment. I didn't even realize I was doing it as I was completely unconscious so it wasn't in anger against my husband. When my husband and I started to have sex again I no longer craved junk food!! It was amazing. I was using food for comfort, the comfort I should have been getting from physical touch with him. I realized FB was an addiction because I started feeling uncomfortable with the amount of time I spent on it and I slowly started to realize that I was beginning to think in terms of FB. I would be out somewhere and have to stop to do a "check in" or when I'd take a picture I'd immediately have to upload it to FB. Moments were no longer moments they had become FB moments. I hope that makes sense.
I have no idea who the Spurs are ;D
Why do you use FB?
I have no idea who the Spurs are ;D
Why do you use FB?
Bibbity, thank you for your insight and it made perfect sense to me for my wife does the exact things you say you did! My wife like you did, does not really display anger towards me, she seems to stay connected to FB at every turn, like a second nature. First thing in the morning, she checks in, and like you did checks in at every opportunity, and pictures, her phone is clogged with them!
A "distraction", that does seem like how she uses FB, wow reading this from you really drives it home! This is going to take time to heal. I am retired already and she plans to join me in Sept, we have an RV and travel quite a bit, in fact we're going to Coloarado for 2 weeks in July, we love the mountains in contrast to the flat lands of Texas. We are so much different with each other when we're on trips, hopefully that time together in longer durations that full retirement will afford us will speed the healing along, I pray.
Maybe once she's retired and out from under the stress of her work it may bring the spark we once enjoyed. I am so glad for you and your husband, I hope your relationship grows and grows tighter. Thank you so much for your insight. I enjoy reading your posts on the forums. The beauty of this forum is that we all have been touched by the same problem and have at least one terrible thing in common. Its so uplifting to have someone that I can talk to.
btw: San Antonio Spurs are a NBA basketball team from San Antonio, Texas. They are in the NBA Finals, like the Super Bowl of basketball. I tried to make a funny to you, I apologize for my ineptness at it!
As for me and FB, I got on it a couple times and found some old school friends, whoopee, now I know why I'd lost contact with them! I have never used it since ;-/ I hope you and I cross paths again, thank you and God Bless.
A "distraction", that does seem like how she uses FB, wow reading this from you really drives it home! This is going to take time to heal. I am retired already and she plans to join me in Sept, we have an RV and travel quite a bit, in fact we're going to Coloarado for 2 weeks in July, we love the mountains in contrast to the flat lands of Texas. We are so much different with each other when we're on trips, hopefully that time together in longer durations that full retirement will afford us will speed the healing along, I pray.
Maybe once she's retired and out from under the stress of her work it may bring the spark we once enjoyed. I am so glad for you and your husband, I hope your relationship grows and grows tighter. Thank you so much for your insight. I enjoy reading your posts on the forums. The beauty of this forum is that we all have been touched by the same problem and have at least one terrible thing in common. Its so uplifting to have someone that I can talk to.
btw: San Antonio Spurs are a NBA basketball team from San Antonio, Texas. They are in the NBA Finals, like the Super Bowl of basketball. I tried to make a funny to you, I apologize for my ineptness at it!
As for me and FB, I got on it a couple times and found some old school friends, whoopee, now I know why I'd lost contact with them! I have never used it since ;-/ I hope you and I cross paths again, thank you and God Bless.