I need speed and high friction to come

Nickname

Member
Hey guys! At first I wish everybody a nice weekend!
And now to my problem:

I'm rebooting for over a month now, but I have the feeling that it hasn't changed much (I know that one month is not a long time at all and I can't expect many changes or changes at all in this time). It's also more that I wanted to know if rebooting helps in my case, because I'm not sure if my ED is porn induced or more masturbation induced due to e.g. deathgrip, ultrafast masturbation, sometimes intense rubbing, special breathing/pressing/hold my breath to help staying hard, trying to delay orgasms (of course, when I was younger I wanted to avoid ejaculating too soon, it's the boy's no.1 problem media talks about! Now I have the opposite problem and ED...) over almost 15 years. I guess that these sick, unnatural and I guess unhealthy masturbation habits have caused changes in my penis and my sensations in general, that natural sensations during sex are too little and too slow to result in an orgasm and I don't now if this will change because it's not only about rewiring but also maybe a permanent desensitization in the penis as well. Has someone else had similar problems? Maybe some tips or success stories related to this?

Best regards and keep on going!
Nick
 

French Dude

Member
The question is, are on hardmode or not, because if you are on Hardmode you're not suppose to even try to masturbate during the reboot. Try 2 month pure hardmode and your problem will be probably gone, for me even orgasm without porn during my first reboot were setting me back, hardmode is the only way to get rid of PIED forever.
 

Phase2

Well-Known Member
I would not call what you've done as 'sick' or 'unnatural'. Masturbation in fact, is very natural. You've just developed some habits that have led you down an unfortunate path towards ED, so go easy on yourself.

But I think you need to take the recovery seriously and do it correctly. A hard mode reboot last a long time and does not include masturbation or orgasm. Make sure you are going about this the right way--you need to take time and allow your brain and body to reset. Educate yourself at yourbrainonporn.com
 

bbkenpo

Member
Yes I can say you just need to stop PMO.  For me it is already working.  4 years of DE and I have O 5X already regular since noFap.  It works, it does.  Stay with it.  I also had deathgrip and probably still do.  But I am seeing progress.
 

Phase2

Well-Known Member
I think you need to read William's last post on page 15. Even better read his whole thread. This will get you off to the right start.

http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=1256.350
 
Hey man,
I had the same problem with needing high speed/friction to bring me to orgasm, as well as a major lack of sensitivity so i know how you feel,
Before starting my reboot i also tried the little blue pills just out of curiosity, i didnt even know about rebooting at that point,
Well they certainly worked, but having an orgasm? no chance, which actually led to more problems ontop of my porn addiction/reduced sensitivy/lack of arousal with real women in that my inability to orgasm on it made my partner feel as if it was her fault, crazy but true.
I don't know all the answers to this as of yet because i'm still on my journey but what i have found so far is a slight increase in sensitivity around the head/tip of my member, but note no increase around the shaft at all (This is what i can tell only from the morning woods since starting my reboot, yes i've touched it with a big smile on my face but no further experiments due to not wanting to end up full on fapping).
I remember when i used to browse porn and when i came across a new scene with a favourite pornstar i used to get like...hmm well the butterflies i suppose, i wanted that pornstar more than anything in the world at that exact moment, yet when sleeping with my partner it was a case of "Nice one i'm getting my end away but damn you sure aint no angelina valentine" going through my mind,
Imagine having quit porn altogether and not having fapped for so long what your brain would be telling you about your partner?
I think you'd be filled with butterflies wanting her more than anything in the world at that moment.......
Brain power.
I'm not sure about the sensitivity part though i don't know if it will come back fully for you or i or anybody else but i do know that once our brains are functioning properly it'll make things a whole lot better right :p
 

Camouflage

Active Member
I have struggled with low sensitivity and retarded ejaculation for 2 years now. At some point I felt that it is impossible for me to cum during sex. But after rebooting for about a month I started to see improvement, and since then I have been slowly getting better. I am currently on my 4th nofap streak (my longest streak was 79 days), and I would say I am able to orgasm about 90% of the time. This is a huge improvement for me!

But it is not enough to just quit P. You have to quit M as well. At least that's how it was for me. I didn't see results from quitting P alone.

By the way, are you circumcised or not?
 

Nickname

Member
Hey guys! Thank you so much for the great support! You are amazing!
Okay, last friday I just started a new round of  rebooting (although I never really did relapse, but startign new with a good feeling is great! ^^). To me that means no P no P-substitutes, no phantasies, no masturbation (P or not, I won't touch it! ^^). Does this count as hardcore mode?
Well, orgasm... is it okay having sex with the partner? Some say it's good to give your brain the natural impression how sex should be and it helps rewiring to the real deal as long as you don't try to force anything.
So: Day 5 and I'm having THE itch! :-D But that's okay! :)
One thing. Since I startet the reboot on 11. of february I improved orgasm/sex-ratio from about 10% of success to about 70% (yes, I'm doing statistics here :-D). I think, this is already a great improvement, especially since I'm circumcised and we use condoms, but there's still a lot of struggle and I need to get rid of that, so I'll take your advice to heart and stay strong on the path of rebooting! :)
Last year I was at a urologist with my ex and I told him about the problems I had. At that time I had no idea that it was porn and mastubation that did this to me...and he didn't know it either so he prescribed me pills similar to viagra.
Damn... they almost killed me... Guys, if you have problems with a low blood pressure, be careful. But: at least, now I know how to "simulate" a bad flu when the need arises :-D
I think, to me it is important to get away from MO especially. From what I can tell, I wasn't that addicted to porn, but masturbation messed up my brain the most. So I said to me: No P ever again and also neither MO nor M nor PMO (choose whatever order you like for those abbreviations, I'm not going to do it). I will not doing MO for at least 6 months, since YMMV it can also be longer and when I rebooted completely, I will look at my masturbation habits closely and only do it if absolutely necessary.
 
Camouflage said:
I have struggled with low sensitivity and retarded ejaculation for 2 years now. At some point I felt that it is impossible for me to cum during sex. But after rebooting for about a month I started to see improvement, and since then I have been slowly getting better. I am currently on my 4th nofap streak (my longest streak was 79 days), and I would say I am able to orgasm about 90% of the time. This is a huge improvement for me!

But it is not enough to just quit P. You have to quit M as well. At least that's how it was for me. I didn't see results from quitting P alone.

By the way, are you circumcised or not?

Hey man mind if i ask you a question?
With regards to when you say you are able to orgasm 90% of the time now:-
Is this during intercourse?
And would you say that it's due to improved sensitivity in your member or your brain healing?
 
Nickname said:
Hey guys! Thank you so much for the great support! You are amazing!
Okay, last friday I just started a new round of  rebooting (although I never really did relapse, but startign new with a good feeling is great! ^^). To me that means no P no P-substitutes, no phantasies, no masturbation (P or not, I won't touch it! ^^). Does this count as hardcore mode?
Well, orgasm... is it okay having sex with the partner? Some say it's good to give your brain the natural impression how sex should be and it helps rewiring to the real deal as long as you don't try to force anything.
So: Day 5 and I'm having THE itch! :-D But that's okay! :)
One thing. Since I startet the reboot on 11. of february I improved orgasm/sex-ratio from about 10% of success to about 70% (yes, I'm doing statistics here :-D). I think, this is already a great improvement, especially since I'm circumcised and we use condoms, but there's still a lot of struggle and I need to get rid of that, so I'll take your advice to heart and stay strong on the path of rebooting! :)
Last year I was at a urologist with my ex and I told him about the problems I had. At that time I had no idea that it was porn and mastubation that did this to me...and he didn't know it either so he prescribed me pills similar to viagra.
Damn... they almost killed me... Guys, if you have problems with a low blood pressure, be careful. But: at least, now I know how to "simulate" a bad flu when the need arises :-D
I think, to me it is important to get away from MO especially. From what I can tell, I wasn't that addicted to porn, but masturbation messed up my brain the most. So I said to me: No P ever again and also neither MO nor M nor PMO (choose whatever order you like for those abbreviations, I'm not going to do it). I will not doing MO for at least 6 months, since YMMV it can also be longer and when I rebooted completely, I will look at my masturbation habits closely and only do it if absolutely necessary.

Mate, rebooting means absolutely no masturbation at all, ever.
You need to completely forget about your member other than when you're taking a shower (which is a very difficult time ofc) to clean it,
Surely you want to heal yourself in a short time as possible right?
Leave it alone...
 

Camouflage

Active Member
Nomorepornfromtoday said:
Camouflage said:
I have struggled with low sensitivity and retarded ejaculation for 2 years now. At some point I felt that it is impossible for me to cum during sex. But after rebooting for about a month I started to see improvement, and since then I have been slowly getting better. I am currently on my 4th nofap streak (my longest streak was 79 days), and I would say I am able to orgasm about 90% of the time. This is a huge improvement for me!

But it is not enough to just quit P. You have to quit M as well. At least that's how it was for me. I didn't see results from quitting P alone.

By the way, are you circumcised or not?

Hey man mind if i ask you a question?
With regards to when you say you are able to orgasm 90% of the time now:-
Is this during intercourse?
And would you say that it's due to improved sensitivity in your member or your brain healing?

A good question. I have found that my brain and my "member" are more linked than the distance of those organs would predict, so it is difficult to tell where the increased sensitivity is coming from. When I touch my penis without being turned on, I don't feel anything. But when I get turned on, I feel a lot more. Therefore I think that most of the improvement is due to brain healing. But yes currently I manage to orgasm most of the time during intercourse, so I guess I should be happy. Actually for me intercourse is easier than BJ or HJ.

But I do feel that part of my low sensitivity is also caused by physical factor, namely a tight circumcision. I was circumcised as an adult and I do feel that it decreased my sensitivity.
 
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