Hey guys, don't take offense. If you see someone who is attractive and you appreciate her beauty, that's fine. When you spend so much time looking that she feels uncomfortable, that's not OK. On the other end, if you know you aren't ogling then don't worry, this discussion isn't about you. It doesn't mean a problem doesn't exist. It's just not about you.
But, if you are ogling; accept the fact and make amends to change your behavior.
Loleekins said:
The men who ogle me, I find it is done in a predatory manner. There's very little in the way of appreciation.
I would say most women (at one time or another) have had encounters with men where they feel uncomfortable. The male spends too much time looking at them or their bodies and they didn't want or encourage this attention.
That's not cool.
Now; back to the original question.
I think there is something in males that make them predisposed to this behavior. As a small boy I happened to look up while a woman in a skirt walked above me. It was as if time stood still. That brief look up kicked in a reaction for which I was unprepared. I stared intently until she past out of view.
What that a normal male trait? I believe it was. Should this behavior be encouraged? In the past I believe it has been encouraged. Maybe not overtly but it none the less, has been encouraged. Not the peering up women's skirts but the extended stare of a woman's body as she passes.Young males need to know that ogling is not appreciated by women.
How is this behavior changed? Reactions by fathers, brothers, coaches, athletes, bosses, other adult males should evolve into teachable moments. When that same attractive female passes by, and the stares or comments are made, the adult should say, "hey, that's not acceptable."
It may be a trait but it doesn't have to be rewarded or encouraged.