LetItGoAlready
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Day #8. This has been my first new post since my reboot a little more than a week ago. I guess I've waited this long because I wanted to take in more wisdom than I was supposedly dispensing.
What does it feel like to be rebooting for a second time after 2+ months of towing the line? Well, there is the inevitable shame of having failed of course. But, at the same time, I'm struck by just how easy it was to get back on track. Things are going so smoothly, in fact, that it almost doesn't feel like I hit a rough patch at all. My memories of having looked at P have all but faded and whatever hold they had over me at the time has been broken. I can only conclude from this that some of the skills I was putting into practice during my first reboot have helped weaken the blow this time around.
This was all brought into focus with LTE's recent re-post of his bicycle analogy, which I'll share here for those who missed it:
As I explained to LTE, it feels like this reboot is a balance correction rather than a recovery from a wipeout, which I think must be a sign of progress. Although I hope this is the final reboot I will have to endure during my lifetime, there is at least some comfort in knowing that, as long as I continue to invest in my recovery while I'm PMO-free, it will be easier to recover from a relapse when and if I ever fall off the wagon again.
That's all I have to say for the moment. It's Easter and I should really be spending time with my family. Have a good day, all!
What does it feel like to be rebooting for a second time after 2+ months of towing the line? Well, there is the inevitable shame of having failed of course. But, at the same time, I'm struck by just how easy it was to get back on track. Things are going so smoothly, in fact, that it almost doesn't feel like I hit a rough patch at all. My memories of having looked at P have all but faded and whatever hold they had over me at the time has been broken. I can only conclude from this that some of the skills I was putting into practice during my first reboot have helped weaken the blow this time around.
This was all brought into focus with LTE's recent re-post of his bicycle analogy, which I'll share here for those who missed it:
When you first learn to ride you struggle to balance, fall, have lots of close calls etc, but you build skill with time. By the time you've ridden for a few months you are still putting forth effort to balance, but it's unconscious effort and seems like no effort at all. It's not that it's any easier, the challenge of balancing has not changed, but you've become so skilled at balancing that you don't even realize that you are doing it. The main difference is that you become faster at correcting imbalances and you stay closer to the point of perfect balance.
It's exactly the same with learning not to use porn or masturbation for self-pleasuring. At first even a slight breeze could become a challenge, but after a while you learn to correct yourself more quickly and the rough spots go from lasting days to only lasting milliseconds.
As I explained to LTE, it feels like this reboot is a balance correction rather than a recovery from a wipeout, which I think must be a sign of progress. Although I hope this is the final reboot I will have to endure during my lifetime, there is at least some comfort in knowing that, as long as I continue to invest in my recovery while I'm PMO-free, it will be easier to recover from a relapse when and if I ever fall off the wagon again.
That's all I have to say for the moment. It's Easter and I should really be spending time with my family. Have a good day, all!