Is my Reboot Stuck

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Booter2015

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Been successfully away from porn for 18 months.  No desire to return.

However, I appear to be 'stuck'.

I have no sex drive whatsoever.  I do not wake up horny, I never feel horny, I never want sex and I don't masturbate.

When my (very understanding partner) touches me, my body responds - I can maintain an erection and can have full satisfying sex.  But I have no urges at all.

In my attempt to try and normalise myself I have stopped myself cumming, I've only orgasmed twice in 2 months.  But this state is confusing.  Mechanically it works, but emotionally/psychologically I'm still well broken?

 
starlord

starlord

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Consult your doctor if it worries too much. Don't over-think about erection and sex. Try to enjoy your life ,sex drive will come later.
 
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Booter2015

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Hi, Thanks for replying to me.

I have to say, apart from this my life is great - I'm really enjoying myself.

I just want to feel normal again, I can't believe for most of my life I have woken up and gone to sleep needing sex and it's been a long time since I felt like this (18 months).

Also, I don't know if anyone else feels like this, but there is like a 'hole' ....and where that hole is, should be the bit that makes me feel like a man?  It's about more than just sex and feeling 'up for it'.
 
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EDinEDM

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This is a quote that Phase2 left on a thread I started:

"Once I rebooted, and stayed off porn substitutes, I found that I thought about sex much less. In fact, I didn't even seem horny until that very moment when my pants hit the floor and I needed to be. It seemed weird, but totally made sense. You only need an erection when you are having sex. Chasing tail all day long is for losers. A real man has other things to do and then when sex happens he is ready. So, maybe this is what's going on with you. There is a rebalancing going on so that sex has a lot less power over your day. That's a good thing right?"

And I feel the exact same way. I'm not nearly as far along in my reboot as you are, I've been PMO free since the beginning of April, so about 3 and a half months now, but I feel the same way most of the time. About 50 of those days have been hardmode, about half of which I was flatlined, and half where my libido was sky high, but after returning to regular sex with my girlfriend, sex hasn't been something that has been on my mind very often, but I'm still able to perform when the time comes. Thing is, I feel fantastic, although I do still find it odd that there is no initial urge until my pants are removed, but it really hasn't become detrimental in any way on my quality of life. I just wanted to post this to let you know there are people who feel the same way during/after their reboot, and maybe it's just a normal thing to experience. If anyone else has more insight on the topic I'd love to hear it as well!

Cheers!
 
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BRAVEorGRAVE

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I'd try Horny Goat Weed! Or maybe some type of pill that helps your erection. Theres a ton out there. Call your local nutrition shop and ask.

 
pearland71

pearland71

Active Member
Booter-

You and I are in the EXACT same boat......

I have not PMO/MO/No Porn since 2015-Feb. I'm in a committed relationship. I can and do have sex 3-4x a week (but I still fail from time to time, last time was an epic failure) Also, my penis isn't 100% rigid on every episode but that doesn't concern me considering I couldn't get/maintain an erection for over four months this time last year.

Like you, I have ZERO libido, sex drive, interest, et al.....I have to mentally prepare for sex. I never think about it nor would I care if I never had sex again.

Don't waste your money on any supplements. They're worthless and costly. I've tried every stack out there.

Will you please share your background with me? Age, etc.?

 
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screwedup40

Active Member
I can truly relate to the stuck feeling.  May went pretty well for me as far as PIED and sex drive.  June was even better.  Thought I was finally cured.  Now, over the last three weeks, erections have been hit or miss and I feel like I'm taking two steps backwards.  Frustrating feeling like I was so close to only be going through this same up and down bullshit again.  However, at least I'm having some hits with the misses this time as opposed to the last flatline where it was pretty much all misses.  I guess eventually we'll get there.  Just takes a ridiculous amount of time for some of us.
 
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Camouflage

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My libido has also been low at times in my current relationship (I've been dating for 6 months), but I think that it is partly because I am still worried about my performance. Sex is such a scary endeavor that I instinctively tend to avoid it. Even though my performance has improved a lot during my reboot, and ED / DE episodes have been getting less and less frequent. Perhaps our libido increases once we get our confidence and self-esteem back to full!

I would like to add that the passion and the sex drive diminishes naturally in most long-term relationships and the relationship turns into a companionship. According to some studies I've seen, married couples have sex only about 2 times per week on average, and many are satisfied with even less. This seems to be a natural course of events and not necessarily related to PIED at all.

That being said, I am hoping that my libido keeps increasing.
 
E45

E45

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Booter2015 said:
Also, I don't know if anyone else feels like this, but there is like a 'hole' ....and where that hole is, should be the bit that makes me feel like a man?  It's about more than just sex and feeling 'up for it'.
Click to expand...

I know that feeling well. A 'hole' is right.
I felt emotionally dead, and sexually numb.
It lasted for several months, but has calmed down now.
I'm feeling much better, and glad I went through it.
 
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