Hey guys i have a quick question guys. I have a huge porn addiction, yesterday was my first day clean. I love porn so much that i would like to be a porn star. So sometimes i make videos of ky girlfriend and save them on my phone. Sometimes i watch it but i dont jack off to them because if i want that scene i can have it. But still is it bad to have them type of videos or make them with my girl even though i dont jack off to it. I do use to jack off to internet porn but not this. I just one someones advice on this thank you.
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Hi heroack,
I would think that the filming of you and her could exist closer to the physical relationship with your partner; ie when you look at it you remember being with her vs when you look at porn you perhaps imagine being with someone else. What do you think when you look at these videos?
During a reboot it might not be wise to watch them as it may trigger you to look at more, non girlfriend related porn. As far as keeping them for future reference, I wouldn't see any harm as long as they don't make you slip up.
I would think that the filming of you and her could exist closer to the physical relationship with your partner; ie when you look at it you remember being with her vs when you look at porn you perhaps imagine being with someone else. What do you think when you look at these videos?
During a reboot it might not be wise to watch them as it may trigger you to look at more, non girlfriend related porn. As far as keeping them for future reference, I wouldn't see any harm as long as they don't make you slip up.
Vincent
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Well, not jacking of to Girlfriendporn is actually a good sign. You have not distanced yourself from reality as much as liking the porn more than the actual thing - regarding your girlfriend.
In order to understand our addiction we have to focus on the details: What is our goal? away from porn. Porn film? porn pics? magazines? fantasy? what is the addiction you have?
There is the focus you should aim on. If you have the feeling that you can watch porn like a movie I personally think this is not the right way. Your brain is receiving sexual stimuli and you do not fulfill the urge your body has although the brain tells you to. This could rewire you the wrong way. Don't get me wrong here, keep the Pron of you and your girlfriend. But remember: Withdrawl is always more difficult if the substance is in sight. Porn is something different however since you don't introduce the drug externally. If you have the feeling, internet porn is not a danger to you anymore and you can handle it, then you can of course use porn with yourself to satisfy your needs. I however suggest you satisfy your needs by doing the actual thing. This eventually is our goal I think.
In order to understand our addiction we have to focus on the details: What is our goal? away from porn. Porn film? porn pics? magazines? fantasy? what is the addiction you have?
There is the focus you should aim on. If you have the feeling that you can watch porn like a movie I personally think this is not the right way. Your brain is receiving sexual stimuli and you do not fulfill the urge your body has although the brain tells you to. This could rewire you the wrong way. Don't get me wrong here, keep the Pron of you and your girlfriend. But remember: Withdrawl is always more difficult if the substance is in sight. Porn is something different however since you don't introduce the drug externally. If you have the feeling, internet porn is not a danger to you anymore and you can handle it, then you can of course use porn with yourself to satisfy your needs. I however suggest you satisfy your needs by doing the actual thing. This eventually is our goal I think.