Alright, time to start one of these myself!
I'm James, a 30 year old guy, and have been watching porn since I was probably around 16 with the internet. I've only been in a 2 relationships from 18, and then when I was 22, so in terms of sexual "experience", the vast majority comes from PMO.
I've recently gotten into a relationship with an amazing girl and on one of the earlier times we tried to have sex, I could not for the life of me get up. The night before, I was able to get up, but the next day was unable to, which I attributed to alcohol. At the time, it seemed like just a one-time incident, and even after that, things seemed to be okay, but after coming back from a long work trip (during which I PMO'ed), the problem was much worse.
After a couple of times of not being able to get up, I realised that something was seriously wrong, and knew I had to start to do some research. I went to see some doctors to get checked up, and according to the test results, everything was okay and they told me it was just mental. Also, I'm in good physical shape (5'6, 140lbs, body fat around 15%), exercise regularly, and eat relatively healthy. My testosterone test from two different times was 41.6 and 42.29 (metric).
At this point, I started searching on the internet and found YBOP and discovered that there were TONS of guys like me out there who are suffering from this, and also at similar ages (or even younger). From reading this, I realised that this is the answer and decided to quit PMO altogether.
I've shared these findings with my girlfriend who was really understanding and patient with me since then, and we've been going through it together. I know it puts a lot of mental stress on her when I can't get up, so I'm trying to stay optimistic and look forward to when we'll have overcome this hurdle.
1st 3 weeks:
I completely stopped watching porn, stopped masturbating, and different from other posters, it wasn't and hasn't been hard to abstain. My girlfriend herself feels strongly against porn and considers it cheating, but now that I'm with her, I don't really have the urge to watch porn much in the first place.
During this time, I noticed I got morning erections more often, and more random erections, as well, which were very promising.
At the end of the 3 weeks, my girlfriend and I had a trip together. The first time we had sex, I came really quickly (within 1-2 minutes of penetration) and was disappointed in myself. The next 2 days, though, when we started making out, I was able to get easily hard and we were able to have sex for much longer periods (10-20 minutes). After these sessions, I was convinced that everything I had read here was right and I was fixed.
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Flashforward 3 months to now where I still have not watched any porn or masturbated. Since the trip, I've had some bouts with ED when trying to have sex, but recently, the stranger thing that I noticed is that I would get PE. I would get hard from being really turned on with my girlfriend, and then either within a minute of penetration, or even before, I would come. There was one case where I PE'ed, and then an hour or so later, we were able to have good sex, but that was only once.
With the recent events and having lost confidence in what I thought was my recovery, I'm now on the forum with this post.
Moving forward, I'm debating whether I should introduce M without P maybe 1-2x a week (it's been about 3.5 months since I've last PMOed), or after reading some other posts from other members, whether I should try to completely abstain from O'ing with my girlfriend.
Has anyone else gone through this cycle of stopping PMO and then going from PIED to PE before recovery?
Things seem bleak, but I'm trying to stay optimistic. And with my girlfriend, trying to stay as open with her as possible and keep her updated on things I learn.
Appreciate any comments from others!
I'm James, a 30 year old guy, and have been watching porn since I was probably around 16 with the internet. I've only been in a 2 relationships from 18, and then when I was 22, so in terms of sexual "experience", the vast majority comes from PMO.
I've recently gotten into a relationship with an amazing girl and on one of the earlier times we tried to have sex, I could not for the life of me get up. The night before, I was able to get up, but the next day was unable to, which I attributed to alcohol. At the time, it seemed like just a one-time incident, and even after that, things seemed to be okay, but after coming back from a long work trip (during which I PMO'ed), the problem was much worse.
After a couple of times of not being able to get up, I realised that something was seriously wrong, and knew I had to start to do some research. I went to see some doctors to get checked up, and according to the test results, everything was okay and they told me it was just mental. Also, I'm in good physical shape (5'6, 140lbs, body fat around 15%), exercise regularly, and eat relatively healthy. My testosterone test from two different times was 41.6 and 42.29 (metric).
At this point, I started searching on the internet and found YBOP and discovered that there were TONS of guys like me out there who are suffering from this, and also at similar ages (or even younger). From reading this, I realised that this is the answer and decided to quit PMO altogether.
I've shared these findings with my girlfriend who was really understanding and patient with me since then, and we've been going through it together. I know it puts a lot of mental stress on her when I can't get up, so I'm trying to stay optimistic and look forward to when we'll have overcome this hurdle.
1st 3 weeks:
I completely stopped watching porn, stopped masturbating, and different from other posters, it wasn't and hasn't been hard to abstain. My girlfriend herself feels strongly against porn and considers it cheating, but now that I'm with her, I don't really have the urge to watch porn much in the first place.
During this time, I noticed I got morning erections more often, and more random erections, as well, which were very promising.
At the end of the 3 weeks, my girlfriend and I had a trip together. The first time we had sex, I came really quickly (within 1-2 minutes of penetration) and was disappointed in myself. The next 2 days, though, when we started making out, I was able to get easily hard and we were able to have sex for much longer periods (10-20 minutes). After these sessions, I was convinced that everything I had read here was right and I was fixed.
***
Flashforward 3 months to now where I still have not watched any porn or masturbated. Since the trip, I've had some bouts with ED when trying to have sex, but recently, the stranger thing that I noticed is that I would get PE. I would get hard from being really turned on with my girlfriend, and then either within a minute of penetration, or even before, I would come. There was one case where I PE'ed, and then an hour or so later, we were able to have good sex, but that was only once.
With the recent events and having lost confidence in what I thought was my recovery, I'm now on the forum with this post.
Moving forward, I'm debating whether I should introduce M without P maybe 1-2x a week (it's been about 3.5 months since I've last PMOed), or after reading some other posts from other members, whether I should try to completely abstain from O'ing with my girlfriend.
Has anyone else gone through this cycle of stopping PMO and then going from PIED to PE before recovery?
Things seem bleak, but I'm trying to stay optimistic. And with my girlfriend, trying to stay as open with her as possible and keep her updated on things I learn.
Appreciate any comments from others!