Is YBOP for me?

samwhite

Member
Okay so here is my story:

I was at school at the age of 8 playing innocuously in the playground when a girl as a joke put her foot on another girl in a victory pose sort of position. I couldn't really explain what I felt but I am guessing it was arousal for the first time. I had a few more incidents at school and these incidents got me aroused (I never really got an erection then from what I can remember) I was around 9 years when I started to masturbate. With no one having told me the correct way I started to masturbate by rubbing myself against the mattress. The number of times I did this gradually increased until I was 18 and doing this once a day with a really strong foot fetish. I did watch porn a few times and my porn usage increased to about once a month I would say. After finding YBOP, I think I may have psychologically convinced myself that I was addicted to porn and usage increased to once a week. I now only seldom watch porn (around once a month) and can control it.

All my life I have masturbated to my foot fetish and some femdom. I never escalated into other forms of porn and only a few times did I view BDSM. Most of my experiences were plain old foot fetish and femdom scenes involving trampling. Last year I read about traumatic masturbatory syndrome (TMS) and quickly corrected myself. The first time I got a blowjob I found it hard to get hard and I had to imagine foot fetish scenes to get hard. I now find oral sex arousing albeit not nearly as much as feet. I can get an erection but I do find it hard to climax.

My main goal is to sensitize to vanilla sex as I am worried years of masturbating alongside a little performance anxiety may impede my sexual life. My question is: is YBOP for me? I do not feel I am addicted to porn- I can get erect easily to feet and if I focus I can get erect on vanilla stimuli. I haven't had any symptoms such as semen leakage and my sexual tastes haven't really morphed. It seems to me like my fetish is innate too as it was what I had to begin with and not something that was morphed.

Will No PMO help me in resensitizing to vanilla sex and get over my foot fetish? I was wondering if any of you could give me tips on how to re-sensitize myself to vanilla sex (Would arousing myself and masturbating thinking only of vanilla sex help?) Any feedback would be much appreciated! Thanks a ton for the time guys.
 

Berens

Active Member
I think that your brain has got pathways to foot fetish and not to vanila sex, i think its the same as for us porn addicts. While having sex porn addicted must think about porn to get hard, you must think about your fetish. If your goal is sensitize to vanila sex you must reboot as anyone on this forum. Stop PMO and in some months you will have great sex life. Our brains can change. YBOP is for you, also you should read articles on YBOP. There are people who developed a fetishes because of porn and with rebooting they have lost them. Masturbation wont resentisize you. You must stop masturbating. There are articles and videos on yourbrainonporn.com you can find answers to your questions there. Good luck.
 

samwhite

Member
Thanks very much for your quick reply Berens, I shall definitely give it a go and hope this situation gets diffused. Just some food for thought for you and other members around here: some websites talk about our brains not used to the layers of dynamic visual stimulus porn gives us; does that make the situation of porn addiction different to fetish addiction or are the same neurological pathways at work? Note: I am not trying to make an excuse for myself here whatsoever and have started PMO today. I'm merely curious as I'm a medical student and wanted some guidance from the more senior folk out here. Cheers guys!
 
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