anonymous100
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I must not fail again.
I am 20 years old and don't have ED. But I have a problem. I am in a relationship with a wonderful girl, whom I love and who loves me back. But she discovered my addiction. It was not from one day to the other. We started having problems because I wanted sex so much more often than she did. She kept saying no, I kept begging. Then I started M right next to her, when she wanted to sleep -- she did help me a bit usually, even though she did not want to... I am hooked to M.
Then she found out I was PMO'ing, I forgot to close the tab. I already think that might have been the best mistake I have done in my whole life. I mean it -- we have a serious problem with trust now, I crushed her self-esteem, but I realized I have a problem. I want to get rid of that urge. Whenever I was alone in the past years, I would take it out and whip it. With or without porn, I did it every day. It of course got better when I got a girlfriend, but I fell back into it, only differently.
Now I will fight it. I tried nofap before, I always failed after a few days. Today is day 5. I am also seeking professional help, I have already scheduled appointments with psychologists. While it may seem like a common, normal, stupid, or even in my case small problem, and I fear talking to strangers about it so much, I will still do it. Maybe to prove to myself and to my girlfriend that I am committed to get out of it. But still, I will do it.
At the very same time, I have to rebuild the relationship I nearly destroyed. What we have left to connect us it the love for each other. Most everything around that disappeared. We kind of lived together at her place. She threw me out of there, of course. But we meet at least once a day. She changes between blaming me for all I did wrong (and I did and won't deny it), and being so strong, keeping it together, being my girl, acting as if nothing happened so we can still be together. I love her for that. I know it's hard for her, and I feel shitty about myself for doing this to her. But it fills me with hope that we can get back to normal, if I can get back to normal. I know she fights. I hope she sees me fighting. I hope it works out.
I found so many resources on the web, tips and tricks how to get out of it, people saying "Don't worry about the symptoms, that's normal, it'll go away" and success stories of Rebooters everywhere. That's motivating, but I feel weak with my only 5 days yet. It'll become more and more. My goal is 90 days, but I know it won't be over then. Ninety days is just the start.
I never felt like a weak person. I always resisted drugs, only recently started drinking alcohol in reasonable amounts, on special occasions. I never thought I had an addiction. I believe in myself, that I am strong enough to fight this one. But I fear the moment of relapsing, that most Rebooters eventually reach, and I fear that it will set me back and make me think it's not worth it. No matter what happens -- I will keep trying, gotta stay strong.
This is my promise to myself, my girlfriend, and everyone who listens to me. I will not give up. If I fail, I will reset the counter and start over. And if I ever get out of it, I will know it all started here.
Thanks for reading. Thanks for being there. We can do this!
PS: Will anyone be my accountability partner? I have 2 in real life, but I also want to keep this journal for myself, need someone to read it at least. I know I will not show it to anyone I know.
I am 20 years old and don't have ED. But I have a problem. I am in a relationship with a wonderful girl, whom I love and who loves me back. But she discovered my addiction. It was not from one day to the other. We started having problems because I wanted sex so much more often than she did. She kept saying no, I kept begging. Then I started M right next to her, when she wanted to sleep -- she did help me a bit usually, even though she did not want to... I am hooked to M.
Then she found out I was PMO'ing, I forgot to close the tab. I already think that might have been the best mistake I have done in my whole life. I mean it -- we have a serious problem with trust now, I crushed her self-esteem, but I realized I have a problem. I want to get rid of that urge. Whenever I was alone in the past years, I would take it out and whip it. With or without porn, I did it every day. It of course got better when I got a girlfriend, but I fell back into it, only differently.
Now I will fight it. I tried nofap before, I always failed after a few days. Today is day 5. I am also seeking professional help, I have already scheduled appointments with psychologists. While it may seem like a common, normal, stupid, or even in my case small problem, and I fear talking to strangers about it so much, I will still do it. Maybe to prove to myself and to my girlfriend that I am committed to get out of it. But still, I will do it.
At the very same time, I have to rebuild the relationship I nearly destroyed. What we have left to connect us it the love for each other. Most everything around that disappeared. We kind of lived together at her place. She threw me out of there, of course. But we meet at least once a day. She changes between blaming me for all I did wrong (and I did and won't deny it), and being so strong, keeping it together, being my girl, acting as if nothing happened so we can still be together. I love her for that. I know it's hard for her, and I feel shitty about myself for doing this to her. But it fills me with hope that we can get back to normal, if I can get back to normal. I know she fights. I hope she sees me fighting. I hope it works out.
I found so many resources on the web, tips and tricks how to get out of it, people saying "Don't worry about the symptoms, that's normal, it'll go away" and success stories of Rebooters everywhere. That's motivating, but I feel weak with my only 5 days yet. It'll become more and more. My goal is 90 days, but I know it won't be over then. Ninety days is just the start.
I never felt like a weak person. I always resisted drugs, only recently started drinking alcohol in reasonable amounts, on special occasions. I never thought I had an addiction. I believe in myself, that I am strong enough to fight this one. But I fear the moment of relapsing, that most Rebooters eventually reach, and I fear that it will set me back and make me think it's not worth it. No matter what happens -- I will keep trying, gotta stay strong.
This is my promise to myself, my girlfriend, and everyone who listens to me. I will not give up. If I fail, I will reset the counter and start over. And if I ever get out of it, I will know it all started here.
Thanks for reading. Thanks for being there. We can do this!
PS: Will anyone be my accountability partner? I have 2 in real life, but I also want to keep this journal for myself, need someone to read it at least. I know I will not show it to anyone I know.