Sir:
Thanks for your comments.
I own this stuff. Nobody but me. And I also own the ability to drop it. I simply need to throw the switch in my brain in the right direction. The switch was locked in positive mode for about 26 days but, due to a lack of total vigilance, I stopped paying full attention. I believed I could keep certain thoughts to myself because I believed I could control them. Well... 'Wrongo!' The answer is for me to tell my wife right away that I'm in a slippery place. I've done that before and it works. By acknowledging that I'm in a slippery place I don't slip! Funny how that works. But, truth be told, this time I did not say anything because I wanted to slip. I saw it coming on for a few days. Instead of cutting the thoughts off as soon as they began I continued to play with them in my head. As a result they festered and gradually took up more and more space in my head until they became the primary thoughts in my head. This stuff starts out so subtle until it suddenly has all the subtlety of a Sherman tank driving over me at full speed. Then it's too late to stop it. Need to stop it before it starts, when it's just a tiny niggle in the back of my brain. That's the part that I find difficult because, at that time the niggle is so minute I believe I can control it. "No need to say anything about this. It's nothing!" Well... obviously it's NOT nothing. That's what I mean about having to be hyper vigilant. I can't take anything for granted.
What it really comes down to is that a large part of me loves this stuff and the thought of living without it for the rest of my life seems to be more than I can bear at times. Sometimes I have that concept under control and sometimes I don't. I think that's the core issue for me, the ability to accept unconditionally that I can NEVER go there again. I don't do well with NEVER. The rebellious part of myself goes "Oh yeah, well I'll show you!", as opposed to being humble. I believe humble is a good thing. It keeps me human. At the same time I tend to equate humble with humiliation. That's when my hackles go up and the "I'm gonna do what I want to do and F**K anybody that tries to stop me!" attitude comes up.
However, it's a new day. The sun is shining, I still have a loving wife and a great life and I'm starting again.
Thanks again,
SUrvivor