Need help with trying to avoid porn

[Stevew]

Ok so i haven't PMO's for a good week. Thing is i still go on facebook/watch some funny youube videos. When doing that there are sometimes women showing cleavage etc. I mean i'm not really getting horny over them really or rubbing my penis does that count as like porn in regards to rebooting? Like do i really need to try not looking at girls on facebook/avoiding videos with women?
Thanks guys!

 

[fnatk]

Hey there Stevew! First of all, good job on staying away from PMO for a week! That's a good start. Secondly, I remember your first post in your journal... you're young! You haven't been addicted to porn as long as most of us have here so your recovery will probably be a bit quicker but only if you stay away from triggers and stimulating pics/videos etc.

Does an image/video give you an erection? Shut it down. Do you feel like jerking off when viewing something? Close it! Facebook etc can be triggers for most of us as just seeing images of hot girls in a bikini can set us off. Its all about those neural pathways in the brain, we have to starve them from attention! Does it feel a bit silly to avoid semi-nude women or scantily clad models? Yes. But you should still avoid them AND any self-stimulation.

The goal of a reboot is to remind your brain that its actual intimacy and touch from a partner that is exciting, this is what we all yearn for. Staying away from the artificial stuff is part of rebooting so try to avoid it and you'll be just fine

 

[Stevew]

Thanks alotfnatk for the great advice! Thing is i think i started from maybe 13-14 but i would also masturbate over people i know in real life no pics. This last year i have been kind of depressed (not so much now) and wanked alot when i was bored and i would watch some pretty extreme porn. I don't get an erection over pictures but i do over videos. I don't seem to have morning wood as much, i find i sometimes don't wake up with it but will get one when laying in bed. I find getting erections standing up more hard... i've always done it sitting down and i think i use quite a hard grip. I have severe phimosis so i think thats the reason why i used the 'death grip' because my foreskin doesn't move up and down. I'm hoping no PMO will help with that too?
Thanks again!
Steve

 

[fnatk]

Well you're very welcome, I hope my advice has given you some help! Now onto your problems, severe phimosis isn't an easy condition from what I understand so perhaps you can talk to a doctor about that? Circumcision is in my opinion a rather barbaric ritual but for some people who do have excess foreskin it can be a valid medical procedure and if done correctly by professionals shouldn't do any lasting nerve-damage at all, in fact the only danger is from local/general anesthesia.

As for your depression, well I know how that feels as I went into a rather dark one after my last girlfriend dumped me. I really thought she could be the one for me and when she dumped me I honestly thought about ending my life. The worst of that depression is thankfully over but I am still determined to get professional help for both my addiction and my issues with depression as they are still there, bubbling under the surface. I hope that if you even think for 1 second that you might need help, seek it! After all, even Robin Williams succumbed to Depression in the end and he is one of the most beloved comedians of all time.

When it comes to "Deathgrip" PMO, even if you decide not to have surgery, stopping this practice will help you. No PMO means not only will you re-attune to the feeling of a partners touch, be it a handjob, blowjob or vaginal sex, but you will become naturally sensitive again and feel stimulation throughout your penis (At least according to many success stories!).

I would still recommend seeking the advice of a good doctor on the subject of your phimosis, it is after all a serious medical issue and something that can change your life.

 

[Stevew]

Thanks for the fast reply! I think robin williams killed himself also because he had parkingsons... your body deteriates badly apparently...
I'm having surgery my congential penis curve of which they will also give me a circumcision to fix the phimosis. Thats the main reason for my depression (not phimosis the curve) because i only recently found/got an appointment with people that offer this STAGE technique (barely any urlogists know of this technique, very new one) instead of Nesbit (pretty dangerous method of fixing penis curve including ED and substantial penis length loss). For about a year i went to bed thinking of if i should kill myself but i didn't as i knew that would badly effect my family. And i was kind of stupid but i guess the chance of the surgery not working, losing a good inch and maybe getting ED, possible blood clot, also the feeling of supctures (think they are stiches or something) i think they called them on my penis really put me down also with my penis not working properly (PIED i hope) and my urinating has been frequent and delayed. By the way i really need surgery for my foreskin... there is less than 5mm diameter in glands showing when erect.
**Also theres soemthing alot worse, alot more common in old men though called peyronies diease which could of been what caused my curve which is alot, lot worse although there is treament for it but still...
I know there are people out there with cancer even at my age but the way i saw it i didn't have a future... i mean my penis curves down 45 degrees and also bulges out of the right (looks as if it's curves when it's not <--- specialist i'm seeing can fix this, he will literally change my life).
Good luck fighting depression too man. I mean on the bright side you can clearly get women and you will find another.

 

[fnatk]

Well, only Robin Williams can truly tell us why he decided to end his life... but Depression IS a serious issue and maybe after his death it will truly start to get the recognition it deserves. I think in most cases (Like my own) its mostly about making the person realize that things truly aren't that bad and that they really have someone they can confide in. I've told one of my best friends about this and its helped a lot, but I still feel like a professionals opinion and guidance will probably help me a lot.

Now, when it comes to the surgery you need as it concerns not just phimosis but the correction of Congenital Penile Curvature (Yes I had to Google it first!)... I honestly can't say. I'm average length and well above average girth with no foreskin issues at all... but I still had doubts about the attractiveness of my own penis from watching so much porn where all dicks are my girth yet 8 inches +.

Gonna just link you the video of a song that atm has made me very, very happy:

http://youtu.be/b6vSf0cA9qY Klingande - Jubel

Notice that when they reach the cliff in the video, they don't jump off it... but instead find themselves on the beach below, still living life, happier than ever. To me this signifies that while life sometimes makes you feel that you are standing by the abyss... there is a bottom! And its gorgeous as hell. I only wish that I could bring Robin Williams down there with me

 

[Stevew]

thanks for your help man! I mean since i've found that alternative treatment which is very unknown i've been alot better but yeah! I lucky my depression isn't like a medical thing just a mental thing which will be fixed when i get my penis treated.
EDIT: One thing is though i don't have a girlfreind do all of those things or have any memorites of that... so i mean i can stop PMO is there anything else i can do? I really do not want to get a girlfriend with all of the penis problems i have right now. I mean is thinking about girls/things ive seen in real life good/ok?