Day 90 Update

grego

Member
Well, I've passed the 90 day mark yesterday (my counter is one day behind) and it's been an interesting trip so far.  Like many of you I'm sure, I started very anxious of whether or not this method would work and with very strong self loathing toward getting myself into this shit position to begin with.  To give you a brief history of my use before reboot, I started M at around 14 and a half.  By 17 I switched to PMO and at 19 I noticed I was PIED.  I realized this was an issue when I was getting intimate with a girl and I was having extreme difficulty 'getting it up'.  I knew something was terribly wrong, because she was incredibly cute so clearly the problem was me.  After about a day or two of researching I found YBOP and everything started to make sense.  I since then went on strict no PMO and hardmode to leave this PIED issue behind me.  I'm 19, I have my whole life ahead of me, I'm not letting this shit sink me. 
I thought abstaining would be hard, but thankfully I had no urges to watch porn and very little to masturbate.  I became horrified at how I had conditioned myself all these years to fap, even if I wasn't in the mood, so to speak.  I don't know if it was simply a bad habit or a coping method, but time away from it gave me a sense of clarity.  At first I had decided to temporarily quit fap.  I decided that I would wait until the PIED went away and then I would resume.  Around day 20 I decided that I would give up M completely even when I became better.  I will reserve it for the very rare occasion. 
It's day 91 and I still have a way to go.  I've definitely improved alot.  Morning wood is coming back, although not every day.  I've managed to regain a the ability to have a full 100% hard on, however I still feel far from finished.  I still have recurring flatlines, which I find very odd.  I can have a few days of everything being perfect and then all of a sudden absolute flatline for 2-3 days....I don't understand.  Clearly this means I'm not out of the woods yet.  For those thinking that 90 days is the magic number that will save you....it's not, sorry to burst your bubble.  You will definitely see improvement by then (I did by mid 50s-day 60) but you will not be 100% good to go after 3 months.  That being said, push on!  This is your life....so take control.  For me the biggest threat was idleness, so I made sure to go out as much as I could.  I also got a job working about 30-40 hours a week and in my spare time I listened to music and played guitar.  Make sure you have things to focus on so your mind doesn't dwell on this issue.
For those of you taking up the reboot, remember this: it's not temporary, it's forever.  Don't cure yourself and then go back to your old habits.  Consider this a change in lifestyle.  You don't need to M everyday to feel "happy" and after a month or so of the reboot, you'll realize this.  Goodluck to all of you! 
 
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William

Guest
grego, thanks for posting this.  Every guy quitting needs to take your words to heart. 

Peace.
 
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