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I think I am little stressed out because my body is longing for PMO. It's been 5 days now and I guess I am annoyed by the feelings and the anxiety I need to deal with (I need and I want to).
Since I studied about the effects of porn on my brain and the results of the accumulation of DeltaFosB, I've been worried about how damaged I really am. I'm afraid of having such a tremendous change that I cannot go back to normal.
Of course I've seen that after some time letting go of PMO the brain tends to go back to "normal", but I've been doing PMO since 12, so I don't know exactly what has been going on up there.
Besides, I was exposed to really stressful situations very early in my life and I have a feeling that this damaged me somehow...
Well, I have been married since 2001 and I was talking to my wife about all this addiction yesterday and today, when we studied how our faith in Christ can help us, besides counseling and talking to family members and friends who really care, and I told her that I believe it is hard for anyone who needs to struggle with their addictions, diseases, weaknesses and frailties the fact that it is something you need to make the decision of keeping it in your life (and we all have the right to do so, if desired) or getting rid of it, but the difficult part for me is saying goodbye to something that has helped me releasing pressure and was my playground when things went wrong - and I guess it still is a kind of hideaway for me, when things are not going the way I'd like them to be going...
Once I learned that we have weaknesses that we may be humble and may have compassion to other people who suffer because of their own weaknesses too and this (for me) truth helped me look at myself and at others with more compassion and care.
Today I asked my wife whether she felt too harmed because of my addiction and she said "not really", because I was someone who was trying to know more about it, had the courage to talk about it, and have been always looking for help, and that makes her feel more hope and helps her believe that one day I will eventually understand it. Besides, she said that she knows it is not her fault that I've had these issues to deal with, as it is not my fault the problems she has when she needs to take on responsibility, because this is her weakest area.
Even though we had such a nice talk I was so upset because I asked her to buy food for my (our) cats and she forgot the card code and needed to call me to ask this three hours after our talk (I tried to understand why the outburst and the only thing I could think about was the fact that my body is craving for PMO)...
I think I am little stressed out because my body is longing for PMO. It's been 5 days now and I guess I am annoyed by the feelings and the anxiety I need to deal with (I need and I want to).
Since I studied about the effects of porn on my brain and the results of the accumulation of DeltaFosB, I've been worried about how damaged I really am. I'm afraid of having such a tremendous change that I cannot go back to normal.
Of course I've seen that after some time letting go of PMO the brain tends to go back to "normal", but I've been doing PMO since 12, so I don't know exactly what has been going on up there.
Besides, I was exposed to really stressful situations very early in my life and I have a feeling that this damaged me somehow...
Well, I have been married since 2001 and I was talking to my wife about all this addiction yesterday and today, when we studied how our faith in Christ can help us, besides counseling and talking to family members and friends who really care, and I told her that I believe it is hard for anyone who needs to struggle with their addictions, diseases, weaknesses and frailties the fact that it is something you need to make the decision of keeping it in your life (and we all have the right to do so, if desired) or getting rid of it, but the difficult part for me is saying goodbye to something that has helped me releasing pressure and was my playground when things went wrong - and I guess it still is a kind of hideaway for me, when things are not going the way I'd like them to be going...
Once I learned that we have weaknesses that we may be humble and may have compassion to other people who suffer because of their own weaknesses too and this (for me) truth helped me look at myself and at others with more compassion and care.
Today I asked my wife whether she felt too harmed because of my addiction and she said "not really", because I was someone who was trying to know more about it, had the courage to talk about it, and have been always looking for help, and that makes her feel more hope and helps her believe that one day I will eventually understand it. Besides, she said that she knows it is not her fault that I've had these issues to deal with, as it is not my fault the problems she has when she needs to take on responsibility, because this is her weakest area.
Even though we had such a nice talk I was so upset because I asked her to buy food for my (our) cats and she forgot the card code and needed to call me to ask this three hours after our talk (I tried to understand why the outburst and the only thing I could think about was the fact that my body is craving for PMO)...