In flatline but have seen some improvements

Hey guys,

I am in my early 20's and have participated in PMOing since I was about 14. I have been on and off PMO at different points in the past few years because I had a steady relationship for about a year where I stopped because I didn't want it to mess up our relationship and I was successful for that time period. When we were together we were very sexually active but that wasn't the total basis of the relationship. We split up when we came to convictions from our relationship as we were both Christians and both believed we should abstain from sex until marriage. I wanted to keep from all sexual activity from then on out till I felt the time was right and I had been in a relationship with someone who shared these same beliefs but I fell into old habits and began to sleep around and PMO again. This continued until this past year and I began to have mental sexual issues. I've seen doctors and they have given me anti depression medication that I was told would not interfere with erections by my doctor. I've been taking them for about 3 months now and they have helped with the worries I have about these issues but still have stopped me from PMOing. I've tried stopping before these past 3 months and my longest break without PMOing has been 9 days but I relapsed. So I looked into different websites to help me stop  and found this to try something different.

I'm optimistic about getting back to a healthy sexual life and hope this is helpful. I haven't used porn for 1 day now and don't want to from here on out. All sexual interactions need to be with a real woman. My triggers are often social media and different links that pop up. It's bben a long time sense I just straight up went to porn site right away. I usually begin by seeing a picture of a hot chick from a link then look into further and eventually on a site with videos. I want to cut down on my overall computer usage so I can get away these temptations. Today I am grateful for the knowledge about these issues that is out there. This is all really difficult and I just wanna be back to normal again.
 
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d2222

Guest
There are so many of us going through the same things you are. I think one of the best things you can do is to visit this site and read the posts often. You usually have to have access to the internet to PMO, so you might as well switch that for this site. It provides the inspiration to keep going.

Good luck!
 

shake19

Member
As d2222 I also consider not to cut off the computer but instead of being on social media or some senseless sites you should come here or to www.yourbrainonporn.com and fill yourself with valuable words that will definetely help you in fighting the addiction. You have great attitude, you are concious about the problem. I can promise you that after a few months out of PMO you won't need any pills to get rid of depression. You are strong-minded and you definitely can do it as many people in this community did. I wish you all the best! Don't break down & stay strong.
 
Thanks shake19 and d2222, I really appreciate the support. Your both right about switching the sites I visit when on the internet. Filling my head with information about why in need to avoid porn instead of visiting sites that involve possible triggers is a really good way to use my time on the internet. I'm on day 3 without PMOing so far so good.
 

shake19

Member
After beating my personal best (about 21 days sober) I am facing strong urges to PMO, especially while sitting bored in home. And guess what: I cannot find anything more encouraging in this battle and anything that may break me free from urges so easy and simply as this forum. I need only 15 minutes of reading your stories and elaborating mine to get a deep breath and get rid of fantasies.

You have good start, keep going, you are going to be free soon. ;)
 
I'm on day 7 and I'm feeling really well about stopping PMO but I am in flat line which really sucks. I don't really get any arousal or fantasies and I have been dealing with this for a few months now. I just don't really get spontaneous erections, I got a tad bit of something going once in these past 7 days while just hanging out and relaxing but nothing full. I also read on yourbrainonporn.com that this is normal but I was wondering if the damage I have done to myself mentally is to some degree permanent? Could it slightly affect my sex life forever?
 

dwenjang1218

Active Member
No, it will take time but you will recover 100%.
It takes time for your brain to 1. Format disk  2. Rediscover sex altogether.
 

shake19

Member
Don't worry about your health - if you stay out of PMO, you will definitely get into 100% shape. You are actually getting healthier (physically and mentally) everyday, but the process of recovery always include some period of feeling the devastation but it is only to prepare the body and mind for a great future. Keep going and you will surely see the enormous results!
 
Okay thanks guys, that's good to hear. I guess I have a lot of doubts about things getting better because I haven't been normal sexually for awhile now.
 
I'm on day 23 without PMOing and I gotta say it has not felt that difficult because I have not had much desire to masturbate or watch porn. I have no libido which is what has been getting me down the most about the whole thing. Now although I have felt like I have felt like I have no libido I have gotten spontaneous erection twice in the past two weeks. It took a lot of deep thinking and I was pretty relaxed when they happened. It was good though, I feel like I'm finally moving in the right direction.

Question-

Does anyone know if there are meditation techniques that could potentially improve ED?
 
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